I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

Its tonight but if you text 70507 it donates a fiver... more worthwhile.

Wonder what the message will be when you don't clap tonight!

Thanks for that @scruffyoak I'll donate too.

I'm not clapping. It does feel a bit nazi'ish now. People looking to see who else is clapping and all the naming and shaming has ruined it. Lots of people are only clapping now as they are afraid of the wrath of their neighbours...they've drained all the fun out of it now.

Supporting the public services in my own way still. Won't be joining in with the virtue clap stuff with some people I know as long-standing tories.

Already get a cats'bum mouth from one neighbour. Let's see what tonight brings.

It's "bin night" here.

I'd completely forgotten about clapping (as I have every time it's happened) and was watching Masterchef segueing into Great British Menu.

DH peered out and reported one person out clapping. This person began wandering up and down the cul-de-sac - presumably seeking fellow clippers - then ambled back in.

Whereupon everyone else dashed out with their bins, grinned knowingly at each other, and dashed back in.

Last Thursday my mum died, and on the friday morning I was "confronted" by the streets resident busy body as to why I wasnt out clapping that evening.

Tell her you are ill in bed with what seems to be a dry recurrent cough and fever....

Delete the group and don't dignify with a reply. No answer will wind her up more than going into battle - she wants a battle.

Oh and don't clap next week or if you do, do it privately inside where she can't see.

Op neighbour is a twat

But the clap is lovely
I don’t know
My neighbours and we ate a very diverse bunch
But when I see us all
Clap it
Touches my heart a bit

@jenesuisplus am so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what you are going through x

I hope the busy body slunk away in embarrassment when realising what had happened

@CrazyTimesAreOccurring she dashed indoors when I lost my temper and shouted that my mother had died that afternoon and I'd been a bit preoccupied crying my eyes out. Thankfully as an "essential" worker I've been able to escape the madness of nosy neighbour activities for the most part. It's a rubbish time, theres 6 of us allowed at the funeral and we're to be 2m away from each other at all times so I can't even hug my siblings. But we understand the reasons why and just hagevto

@CrazyTimesAreOccurring ** have to get on with it.

Jenesuisplus so sorry for your loss

Hopefully your neighbour is now rethinking her crass thought process.

Thisisworsethananticpated

But the clap is lovely
I don’t know
My neighbours and we ate a very diverse bunch
But when I see us all
Clap it
Touches my heart a bit

Well, that's nice.
And I think the clap is fine for people who want to do it. Just realise that a lot of the good feeling from clapping is for yourself, not anyone else.

It's the disapproval shown to people who don't choose to clap that's annoying.

Before you leave the group apologise for leaving your Blackshirt and Brownshirt uniforms at the cleaners.

Ah @jenesuisplus real feel for you. A friend of mine is going through a similar thing, has just lost her brother. I hope you and your siblings are as OK as you can be, thinking of you x

Oh my, it’s really turning into 1984! Orwell would be proud! We have people looking to see who is clapping on our street too. We haven’t gone out and clapped since the first time and I know we are being judged - a neighbour asked if we would be clapping on Thursday!
On the other side, I phoned my friend who is a nurse and DP text his cousin who is a doctor as we wanted to check they were ok so we are showing support in our own way.
Also, I’m very appreciative of the NHS and all key workers that are keeping the country going. Just don’t like the virtue signalling of the weekly clap.

Nobody on our street clapped this week, despite them making no end of noise the past 2 weeks in a row

Oh just tell her to fuck off.

That’s the sort of shit you don’t need in your life.

@jenesuisplus She should have had apologised. No one knows what is going on in another person's life. You and your siblings will be able to remember your mother in better times, although it is so hard now. You have my sincere condolences.

what a twat

I am a key worker. My shifts finished at 8pm. My street have been commenting on my lack of street clapping.

None of them had any response when I asked them how I could drive and clap.

We had bells and bagpipes here last night. But tonight, tonight was the organised rave! Someone has set up a (townname) front line group for the clapping. Their idea was to play a specified rave track at 7pm twice a week and video yourself dancing on your step!
but it was only valid if you shared your video to their page!
Fair to say I neither clapped nor raved! Much like most of the town!

Shared this thread with ODP daughter, quoting her

"It was nice the first time, it really was and it made me cry. But its not just us out there and also now we are all just hoping we survive with as many of our patients and colleagues as we can alive too. Sorry but thats how it is for us."