I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

I wouldnt leave the group, id miss out on the gossip abd replies 😂 yessss #bekind is an amazing response. Do it op!!

Reminds me of the 'Minute hate' in 1984, where everyone tries to hate louder and more viciously than anyone else because others are watching - and they're afraid of being reported.

My OH is a paramedic and we didnt do it, got some glares through the window from some neighbours so shut our curtains they know that's his job but we are currently isolating with symptoms so more important things to worry about!

Jeezo! The "founder" needs to do more with her life than be Mrs Mangle!

What a bell end. She needs to get a life

Tell them you were out.

Has anyone else replied ?
I hate this kind of enforced public spirited activity.
It’s fine to do it , it’s fine not to.

What a twat. And she says ‘hubs’.

Mute the group.

No clapping in our village 🤷‍♀️

Well I was on the phone to my elderly and frail relative, convincing them that they really didn't need to go and pay a certain bill in person or get cash from the bank to pay the milkman. I successful negotiated the idea that the bill could for once be paid by a cheque in the post and that I would bring them some cash in an envelope that would be stuck through the door while wearing gloves. By the time these negotiations were finished, 8pm had happened.
You know what, I think the NHS workers would rather I had accomplished that rather than letting a 90 yr old go to the bank and the post office "to save other people from trouble".

Oh wow she’s sounds just lovely I didn’t go out last week because DDs bed time is just before this and she wasn’t settling well... it doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the NHS. Just ignore her and continue to be active in the group if you like the group chat, if she directly asks you then tell her you don’t think it’s any of her business and you’d appreciate her not going out of her way to try and humiliate people

Wtf, what kind of nosy streets are you all living on? 8pm is exactly my daughters bedtime so I will never be able to do it, I can hear it while I'm tucking her in. It's nuts to think there could be people watching my front garden and judging me for that.

Yep, @skeptile, more and more every day.

It's getting like a bad psychology experiment.

Take a photo of yourself, glass of wine in hand, pj's and slippers on, feet up in front of the telly and post it on the group without comment. Raise the glass of wine in a salute if you feel its necessary. That'll really wind her up.

Oh god really? What a self-important prick she is. Do not like.

Good grief; I work for the NHS and in all honesty i'd rather you didn't go out and clap, just get on with your lives. I could do without the noise after a hard day at work.

Bizarre. Does she know what you all do? I’d be tempted to say some of us were still working at that time as key workers. Some of the list could well be working/sleeping after work. I know what a few neighbours do but not all.

That’s insane. I would have replied with 👏🏻 And promptly left the group

I think I'd go with the 'Wow. #BeKind' too. Might just make her feel like a complete twat but she can't say you've kicked off because you didn't like being singled out.

Jeez, for all she knows you could be bedbound with coronavirus! Shades of 1984 indeed.

Can you see her house from yours? Assuming so, set up a camera and log movements to/from her house. The moment she receives visitors, or leaves the house repeatedly, message the group with your evidence.

Could you zoom in on her shopping perhaps and see if she has anything at all that could be considered non-essential?

PrincessHoneysuckle I have left the group but obviously made MrThyme stay in, so I can see what is going on

It's a shame because it was originally set up so that people who needed help with shopping/dog walking etc., could post and ask. It has taken a predictable turn though! I might sit in the front and have a glass of wine tonight after work, just to really rile them up

I like Pinkarsedflies response, I would do that.

Hahaha omg what a clown she is

That's awful and actually really unpleasant bullying behaviour. Ask her what happened to be being kind?

Mostly group is really good and we’ve helped each other out quite a bit...eggs for a birthday cake, milk, compost etc, and there are some good people on it but the logical thing to do is leave......But the devilish side of me wants to see what she’s going to do when I don’t go out next week either!

@Thymelord. I’m sorry you’ve been ‘shamed’ as well but glad I’m not the only one

Maybe you were clapping from your bedroom window how can she know. What a prick.