At The End Of My Tether With Cat

[Moodymagpie]

We have 2 female cats a 6 year old bengal and a 2 year old siamese.

The siamese is driving me nuts.

She was perfectly fine up until 6 months ago when our littlest DD was born when siamese suddenly became kitty from hell. She's destructive, she always used to use her cat tree, now she's tagging carpets, bedding, furniture, climbing curtains ect. She's become aggressive to our bengal, who is the most gentle and non aggressive cat ever.

But the worst thing is she's stopped using her litter tray... We have a total of 3 litter boxes in our house.. One for each cat and one spare.

She's a Fing nightmare.

She pees on all the baby clothes, the cot, shits on the carpet in the nursery, shits right next to the litter box.

The back door is open during the day now as the weather is warming up.. She won't go out and do her business. I've tried everything

Locking the doors, she meowls and doesn't stop,

Clean the litter box daily and scoop and soon as its been used. She refuses to use it.

I've taken her to the vet incase she had an underlying health problem. She doesn't. Shes just being a bastard.

I've tried feliway, Orange peel, pepper, bleach

I've even locked her outside for a few hours... As soon as she came in she went straight to the clean pile of baby washing and peed all over it.

She's currently locked in the shed with food, water her bed and a litter box.

Please help. I don't know what else to do and I don't want to rehome her. I know the baby is a huge change for her and she's stressed...

@BovaryX unlike some people on Mumsnet I don't make a point of going through the previous posts of a poster to pick holes in irrelevant arguments, I've got better things to do with my time.

I haven't read the link, I've got other stuff to do, but judging by a couple of other comments it seems to mention a termination, which in itself is a very emotive subject. I'm pro-choice, and I don't care what anybody else's opinion is on it and won't be reading it.

Not planning on coming back to this thread - what started off as an innocuous cat-shitting-on-carpet thread has turned into a vindictive vipers nest. If I were the poster (or anyone else for that matter) I'd log off, let the thread die, and go for a walk, which is what I'm going to do now, in order to get some calorie credit for a bar of Whole Nut that's calling my name.

BovaryX unlike some people on Mumsnet I don't make a point of going through the previous posts of a poster to pick holes in irrelevant arguments, I've got better things to do with my time

Er, I was on that thread before Moody rocked up. Which was why I saw her vitriolic posts. That is obvious if you had bothered to look at the thread. Your nasty little dig is way off mark, but fill your boots defending this poster.

OMG just looked at the other thread and Moodie is relentless on it. What the hell.

I reckon she’s had her account removed

She doesn’t sound happy and neither do you. I think the kindest thing to do would be to rehome her and make sure she goes to someone who’s going to really look after her. There’s a few Facebook groups for pedigree cats forever rehomes I can PM you the names if you would like.

If you really do love this cat then PLEASE find her a loving home with someone who does have time to give her. She is so distressed and unhappy where she is and that’s NOT going to change. Seriously, you may not be physically abusing this animal but you’re being incredibly selfish and cruel hanging onto her! PLEASE do the right thing for her! You most certainly can’t give her what she needs now when you have three kids and another cat!! Let her go!!

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OP, ignore the crazy mumsnetters who appear to think that the needs of one cat should trump the needs of three kids, a mum, and the other cat. You've tried hard in a difficult situation. It sounds like rehoming might be the best option for everyone."

Nobody asked OP to have three children and a notoriously sensitive, highly strung breed of cat. (Two if you count the Bengal.)

But judging from her other posts I wouldn't trust her with a goldfish never mind anything else.

Bovary piss off, you're just being nasty now

I could have wrote this post after having my baby. Both cats started pissing all over the place, including the kitchen worktops. One of the cats was constantly shitting o the floor outside her litter tray, no matter how clean i kept it. They had 3 trays between 2 cats also.
She started bullying my other cat who became quiet and withdrawn and she kept trying to sleep in babys clothes, moses basket etc which was causing me extreme anxiety. She also hated the baby and I just knew once he was mobile she would scratch him at any given opportunity and keepung them apart was too difficult in an open plan house. In the end I sadly had to rehome her.
You would not believe the speed in which she settled in to her new home. Within 5 minutes she was sprawled on their living room floor and playing with her new toys. They send regular updates and pics.
My other cat is also soooo much happier now she isnt being bullied. She is so confident and friendly and is also very good with my little boy.
It wasn't ideal but it was definitely the best outcome for us all.

Your original post made the cat sound badly treated. You’ve now backtracked, maybe you were angry.

But you still haven’t addressed getting a behavioural expert to give you some advice. Regardless of anything else or whatever anyone here has said, the cat needs help, as do you. The cat is part of your family and a behaviour expert will be the one to help you sort this out and get everyone happy again.

They're quite neurotic and sensitive, as far as cat breeds go. Mine went the same when my mother was pregnant with twins (my younger brother & sister), and then ran away when they were born

@Moodymagpie

On the off chance you're still lurking, this might be helpful
go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1098612X14539092

Please rehome. Your cat is unhappy and there are better child free homes out there. The pedigree cat breeds you have chosen are not always laid back about babies / small children and this cat is especially distressed.

Please let someone else with a more suitable home give her a happier life. The cat is not “being a bastard” - the cat is distressed and miserable. The fact you think the cat is misbehaving shows you don’t understsnd the cats pov. The urinating etc shows the cat is very stressed and unhappy. Please let your cat have a better life away from the current situation.