To be hurt separated DH hasn’t offered us any help?

[NoNeedToBeRudeDear]

Background. DH left the family home two weeks before Xmas (his decision) We have toddler twins.

He is a key worker so still out travelling around. Obviously I’m now at home alone with our DC. I don’t drive and I’m not willing to risk taking DC on bus to the supermarket. I’m having to rely on my 70 year old parents to bring us essentials. That makes me anxious as I don’t like them being out and about any more then needed.

Since this started last Monday DH hasn’t once asked if we need anything or offered to get any shopping etc. for us. For context he works ten minutes walk from our house. In fact he rang me on the lock down Monday, and after a brief discussion about not being able to come round and visit started having a go at me about an unpaid council tax bill!

He’s text once since, but only a generic “are you all OK?” message. I’ve sent him a few pictures of the DC (not requested. He never asks to see pictures of them) He’s sent back
brief replies but nothing more.

AIBU to be both hurt and furious at his total lack of care? He tries to make out like this separation is temporary, but I feel
Like he just doesn’t really give a shit about us. The worst bit is I can’t say anything as he will just turn it round and make out I’m being unfair.

I just feel so sad

Op - has there been a local community help group set up for your area? I'm sure someone in the community would help you if so

I get that he sounds awful, you clearly need to ask him to do some shopping and see what he says - he might say yes. I’m not quite sure why you are prepared for your 70 year old parents to risk their health by doing some shopping for you yet you won’t take what is arguably less of a risk by taking your children on a relatively empty bus to get some bits in. Do it once and in the meantime book slots for the earliest it will
Let you even if that is weeks away. Frankly though you just need to message him and ask him to do it rather than just assuming he has read your mind and decided not to. I agree he sounds awful but needs must.