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To ask genuinely if you aren't following the rules

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MrsKingfisher · 29/03/2020 19:55

Why? I'm genuinely curious to know why those who can't get to grips with what's been asked of us all at this time or those who need to find a loophole are doing it.

Not key workers etc etc I'm talking about those who simply cannot do as they've been asked. It's mind boggling how simple rules can be so unclear to so many!

Some of my friends just cannot seem to stay at home, just carrying on as if the rules don't apply to them. I don't get it.

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mindproject · 29/03/2020 20:38

I'm doing as I am told right now, but I will remain sceptical about a lot of it. I most definitely will not be getting the vaccine when it arrives because I don't want to be chipped - mark of the beast and all that.

willdoitinaminute · 29/03/2020 20:38

There is evidence mounting that the more contacts you have with infected people the more severe the disease may be. There are increasing numbers of healthcare workers who are normally fit and well becoming very unwell.
My attitude is that ‘stupid is as stupid does’.Natural selection of the ‘ it doesn’t apply to me ‘ brigade is not a bad thing.

Oakmaiden · 29/03/2020 20:39

going shopping more than once a week or going in to multiple grocery stores for “essentials”

But this isn't against the rules?

I do a big supermarket shop once a week, and then a small "top up" shop midweek for bread/milk/fruit etc. But I also get my meat from the butcher, my bread from the bakery (though they closed on Sunday, so I can't any more), and my veg and eggs from the van that comes round on a Saturday.

Occasionally I have to go to more than one supermarket as they don't have what I need in the first one (typically flour/pasta/loo roll etc).

It gets very irritating when people make up extra rules and then castigate people for not following them.

Ponoka7 · 29/03/2020 20:39

ShirleyPhallus, it hasn't been said that people should only shop once a week. For those without freezer space, the lack of goods in shops, or just not being able to carry a weeks worth of shopping, they have to shop more than that.

sudocremanglaise, the socially distance catch up that you are describing has, been said that it is allowed.

There's questions and answers sections on every daily BBC Corona virus special and all these issues are covered. It's over zealous people who are getting it wrong.

We acted too late, that's why we had the deaths, that we have had. A week before lock down BJ was refusing to get tested and saying that he would still shake hands. It was all a big joke.

The bus/train/tube situation doesn't make sense. We will be further crowed onto a scalled back service. All week I've been the only one sitting upstairs while downstairs has been half full. Now upstairs and downstairs will be over half full, because people still need to go to work. Last week there were single decker buses put on until local MPs got involved. People weren't being protected at work. So stop accusing 'idiots' of spreading it and appreciate that a lot of spreading is done because people don't have a choice.

BJ still refuses to close our borders. The virologists would like a shut down of travel for six months, but one fears that it won't happen. It will be up to individual countries to decide. Those with poor histories of human rights and with corrupt governments are going to offer cut price holidays and come September we will be back to where we are. The virologists are making it clear that we probably won't get life long immunity from getting it.

The government are going to consider that they've done well if less than 20'000 people die, because they know they left it too late and they can't control what is happening globally.

malmi · 29/03/2020 20:39

The rules technically don't allow you to leave your home to take the bins out (communal refuse area) but I'm doing it anyway...

mineofuselessinformation · 29/03/2020 20:39

I did go and see my DM the Sunday before lockdown. She needed shopping and hadn't yet got her vulnerable status sorted out with Sainsbury's- she has now.
I was very careful while I was there. She wasn't 'getting it' at the time, and kept walking towards me - and I had to keep backing away, which was horrible.
But, at least I got to tell her I wouldn't be able to see her for a while face-to-face. Sad

NoSauce · 29/03/2020 20:40

hobnobsaremyfave you’ve obviously not seen the thread about someone wanting their husband to drive to London to bring their 24 year old daughter back to North Yorkshire then? And all the posters saying “ yes go and get your girl “

Have a read, it should change your mind Hmm

HoffiCoffi13 · 29/03/2020 20:40

I am following the rules because I have no reason not to. We have a decent sized house, garden, food in the freezer etc. It’s shit being stuck at home but it’s manageable.
Other people have it much harder though. No money to stock the freezer, young children with no outside space for them to exercise in... I can see why it’s tempting for other people to push the boundaries a bit.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 29/03/2020 20:42

Nah NoSauce
I'm good
I'm out of here for a while
This place is vile currently and my mental health needs a break

Redda · 29/03/2020 20:42

I've been over the top cautious tbh as I haven't needed to go out, but friends of mine haven't, their reasoning is that they have partners that are out at work so feel they could be exposed via them anyway so think it is fine to have friends round, go to the shops frequently or stay at bf's for the weekend etc.

Daffie19 · 29/03/2020 20:42

We're following the rules...
Mil though us questionable.

She asked my DH to do a drive by to the next town so she could see DS through the window... Ermm no!
Not only is DH high risk, its not essential travel.

She's also left bits and bobs on our gate too.

I can 100% she will turn up 2mo when she knows Im at work to. Wave at DS though the window.
He's 18 months.
I'm not sure he's bothered 😂

strawberrylipgloss · 29/03/2020 20:42

I live on a cul de sac with play equipment at the end.

My neighbours are all following the rules. The ones with dogs walk them once a day and people leave to go to work or the supermarket only. Nobody has used to play equipment and we have a street WhatsApp where people ask if anybody needs anything at the shops to save them a trip.

HyacynthBucket · 29/03/2020 20:42

The Daily Mail website has got loads and loads of pictures of people out shopping in hardware stores for everything - paint, plants, one woman had set of filing drawers, even pictures and lampshades. Why can people not get it? The restrictions apply to them, and are to save other people's lives, and save the NHS.

We have been told to stay at home except for essential journeys only and to exercise once a day. How can these people justify shopping for this stuff as essential? They are being stupid and selfish. Perhaps they do not grasp the actual reasons for the restrictions. Or perhaps they think they apply to everyone but them, and they are a special case.

drspouse · 29/03/2020 20:43

DH has been to the chemist twice this week. Reassured me he kept his distance.
Apart from that, we have followed the rules - no supermarket visits either.

NoSauce · 29/03/2020 20:44

You should have a look before you go.
It would change your mind. Absolutely shocking selfish behaviour in there.

SQuueze · 29/03/2020 20:44

Leaving the house to walk on a deserted street more than once a day. I just can’t see the harm.

ch3rrycola · 29/03/2020 20:45

I cycle to and from work each day.
I go for a daily walk around 9pm never see a soul.
I've been to three shops in one week. Couldn't get everything I needed, don't drive so couldn't carry too much.

willdoitinaminute · 29/03/2020 20:45

Good luck with that mind. Who knows what direction this virus is heading. Mutations are even more unpredictable than pandemics.
Without vaccination you may severely limit your social circle and travel prospects.
Do you think any right minded employer is going to employ you without a certificate proving you have adequate immunity.
I don’t want to get into an argument over vaccination but this virus is decimating economies and businesses world wide. Don’t expect special concessions.

x2boys · 29/03/2020 20:46

Oh stop.it HoffiCoffi I live in a,small two bed council house with a very small garden ,it's not easy particularly with a child with severe autism and learning disabilities but we manage it because it's about the greater good stop.trying to make excuses for others there are no excuses

Lockheart · 29/03/2020 20:46

I'm not going anywhere except to the shop 2 - 3 times a week. It's less than a 5 minute walk away, so I'm only out of the house for approximately 1 hour a week at the moment. I thought about going for a walk this week, but I could see from twitter that the place I wanted to go was busy so I didn't bother.

lmcneil003 · 29/03/2020 20:46

I went for two walks yesterday, so I am not obeying rigidly.

Cuddling57 · 29/03/2020 20:46

People in my area seem to be following the rules mostly. Barely any cats on the roads and not many walkers and less people going over the park.

Frankiecandle · 29/03/2020 20:46

The name calling on this thread sums up MN atm.

museumum · 29/03/2020 20:47

Ffs. It is NOT “pushing the rules” to go for a walk with your birdwatching kit. Or go for a cycle even in Lycra. Or take your kids out on bikes round the neighbourhood. These are the things we’re all recommended to do once a day to keep our spirits up and stress levels down to get through the next 12 weeks.

ILoveAnOwl · 29/03/2020 20:47

Phew! I'm a very law abiding person and was feeling bad about it. Good news if it's allowed!

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