To ask genuinely if you aren't following the rules

[MrsKingfisher]

Why? I'm genuinely curious to know why those who can't get to grips with what's been asked of us all at this time or those who need to find a loophole are doing it.

Not key workers etc etc I'm talking about those who simply cannot do as they've been asked. It's mind boggling how simple rules can be so unclear to so many!

Some of my friends just cannot seem to stay at home, just carrying on as if the rules don't apply to them. I don't get it.

I’ve seen a couple of people on my Facebook posting things about staying home and savings lives, then putting up pictures with, for example, their sister who I know doesn’t live with them.

I don't know anyone not doing it. I've been going for one walk a day in a local graveyard as I live in town and theres not many places I can go and be 2 meters away. My last one was yesterday morning and I wont be going again now. DH is working but he's a police officer and has to. We are playing in our front garden though as its bigger than our back garden it is fenced off but a low fence I have been wondering if that's ok as we aren't really seeing anyone else doing the same. We move the car off the drive and use it to block the kids in the garden. There is space in front of our house to do this without blocking the path at all as all the front gardens have a a grassy part in front of them.

My family members who fall into this category have an outlook of “it’s all overblown by the government/media” (the latest justification for this view being Sweden’s current response) and “it won’t happen to me”. When I advised against an unnecessary 1h round trip to drop something off in case of a breakdown or accident, I was told I was being “dramatic”.

I don’t understand how people are not follow the rules. It’s freezing and everywhere but essential shops is closed. There is literally no where to go to break the guidelines

Oh and also that it’s too challenging- they need “something to do”. With two under 2.5yo in a flat with no garden, we also need something to bloody do! Doesn’t mean I wander around willy-nilly!

on one hand I think I’m actually looking forward to going to work tomorrow to get out of the house (been off for 5 days) on the other, I wish I could stay home.

Following all the rules, JUST about. One large-ish shop. (I usually do several small ones). One hours exercise per day. Partner and I both working at home. The only slip up is letting our DDs BF (they are 19) into the house once, so they could hang out together for a bit. Then wiped everything down after he went. Our DD is working in an essential role (not health) so also having to be careful when she arrives home.

Really feeling it for my DD not being able to see friends and working in a (suddenly) very in demand job, which she's happy to do, but it's hard work.

It's just so difficult for her not being able to see her BF. I have no idea what to do about it :-/

Where has the once a week shopping thing come from? I thought the guidance was to shop as infrequently as you can. We are a family of 5, my local shop has limited products to 2 of any item per person. Tesco is limited to 80 products if you can get a delivery. I cant physically buy food for more than five days in these conditions and I certainly cant get bread and milk to last more than 2 days.

Habit, I think. Especially those who use their local shop as an extension of their fridge and are used to going there every day, and even more.

I am breaking the one exercise a day rule, I wouldn’t if I lived in a city, but seeing as I pass NO ONE on my 6am run I feel zero guilt also taking the kids out for a 20 min bike ride in the evening. Again seeing very few people when we do and staying away from them.

Some people are just stupid. We go out, two kids, two dogs once a day for about 20 minutes. In that 20 minutes, one of us races into waitrose to see if we can get anything we need.

Because there's stupid, then there's Coronastupid.

Because in this day and age everyone thinks they are special and the rules don't apply to them. It happens with schools, Dr appointments, trains, anywhere where all that is asked is that you follow the functioning rules of society but the population thinks they can't because of 'insert reason why they're special here'. We see it all the time on mumsnet 🤷🏻‍♀️

Honestly i think it depends on the situation
We live in the middle of nowhere and have a severely autistic son who when in meltdown can only be calmed by a drive (to nowhere of course he doesn't get out the car)

Another judgy thread!

I am following the rules. I have spent all week reviewing the modelling of deaths for work. I was social distancing 2.5 weeks ago as were my parents.

But, this situation has happened super fast. Not everyone is glued to the news/can understand the science. Government communications have generally been unclear. Particularly around what work is allowed and exercise is allowed. Police have been Operating beyond what the law actually states.

Lots of people have complicated lives. I am very worried about people with mental health conditions, victims of domestic abuse, addicts etc. These restrictions will have a very high price that will never be fully quantified. Although they are still very necessary.

This is a marathon, not a sprint. There is already starting to be evidence of social unrest in Italy. You have to bring people with you. And judging and berating people will get us no where, just like it made no difference to Brexit opinions.

I broke the rules this week. DH shopped on thursday and got what we thought was enough shopping for the week. Dd started her period later the same day and didnt have enough san pro, so we had to go out to the shop again today. I imagine a lot of people who dont have cars will have to go shopping more than once a week for practical reasons. We didnt intend to go out again and will try to be better prepared.

Seriously what is the point in this type of post?

So many of them are really, really depressing and unhelpful.

Why anyone takes the bait is beyond me.

blackteaplease Maybe there isn't a 'once per week' shop. I'm just doing this to limit my time out as much as possible. Not judging anyone for doing differently.

Then you see stuff like this on the news...

www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-derbyshire-52084653

Sorry, I assumed the title would come up, it was a party of 25 people that the police had to break up

Honestly it’s like a psychic disease is tearing through these forums.

I’m not visiting often but have noticed when I do I feel worse.

Interesting.

Time to read a book or something I think 😁

The rules do not stipulate one shopping trip a week
It's easy to judge people rule breaking when people are inventing rules and putting their own interpretation of the rules as "the law"
Ffs
It's getting bloody ridiculous
"I'm quarantining better than you"
I honestly think people think if they do it all all "better" they will somehow be "safe"
And if you do get Covid it's your fault because you weren't "trying hard enough"
At being in quarantine
It's bollocks

We are currently self isolating so haven’t left the house in several days but it doesn’t take much imagination to see how someone meeting one other person outside of the house at a 2m distance (which is allowed) could turn into meeting two people (mum and dad?), or having that person inside the house (because it’s raining?). Or how someone could think that it’s no harm to go on two walks since they don’t meet anyone anyway. Not saying it’s right, but it’s very easy to see how it can happen. I don’t think it’s only people who are stupid or selfish. I don’t think vilification of others is a good response to the crisis tbh!

ive been furloughed since Monday I went main shopping last Thursday and since Monday I have taken a ten minute walk to the local shop to get one loaf of bread as I was down to 2 slices left, wasn't worth OH getting the car out for 1 loaf of bread, that's it I wont be leaving home now till around next Friday when my freezer will be empty again,