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I didn't do anything wrong....did I?

593 replies

Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:40

DD desperate to see her friend who lives a few streets away. She made brownies and we dropped them on her doorstep, went back onto the pavement around 12 feet away, DD called her and she came to the door, took the brownies and said thank you.

They then call each other while we're walking home (social distancing all the way but not many people around) and her older sister shouts in the background "her mum let her do that? That was stupid!!!" meaning we shouldn't have brough the brownies round to her house. I couldn't see anything wrong with it. I mean, the postman delivers mail to houses each day. Am I missing something? Or is she worried about eating contaminated food - we washed our hands thoroughly during the process.

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Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:41

Sorry no need to vote

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KonTikki · 26/03/2020 16:42

I think you'll both survive 🙂

ChittyChittyBoomBoom · 26/03/2020 16:42

Well it’s certainly pushing the boundaries. This type of thing will probably result in us being restricted to our own properties only.

Lucindainthesky · 26/03/2020 16:42

You shouldn't be taking brownies round to somebody's house, it isn't essential.

HeyDuggeewatchadoin · 26/03/2020 16:43

You may have washed your hands thoroughly but missed a spot, and how do they know you did it thoroughly?
This is about equal to sticking your finger in their mouth and you're asking them to trust you that it's clean.
Don't make food for people unless absolutely necessary.

WoeIsMee · 26/03/2020 16:43

It wasn’t essential, was it?

This is the problem. Everyone is looking for loopholes, and everyone believes they have a reason that the rules shouldn’t apply to them.

TheGriffle · 26/03/2020 16:43

How exactly was driving brownies an essential journey?

Lucindainthesky · 26/03/2020 16:44

And yes the postman delivers mail, but most people I've spoken to are quarantining or cleaning their post

Iamthewombat · 26/03/2020 16:44

Essential journeys only. Stay at home. Which bit of this message is unclear?

And yes, you could absolutely transmit the virus on whatever you wrapped the brownies in.

TheGriffle · 26/03/2020 16:44

*delivering

Spanglebangle · 26/03/2020 16:44

You are supposed to be avoiding People. You deliberately went there to interact. you could have just phoned or skyped. Yes you were wrong.

SarahInAccounts · 26/03/2020 16:45

Spare us from the joy police.

Marieo · 26/03/2020 16:45

You're allowed out for a walk, you left them at a safe distance, surely it's up to them whether they want to eat them or not. You aren't allowed to mix households, but dropping something off at a safe distance as long as you observed social distancing on the way then meh. I am wouldn't do it again, but similarly I wouldnt worry.

raffle · 26/03/2020 16:45

If it was their daily exercise and they dropped brownies off on the route then that’s ok isn’t it?!

Camouflage · 26/03/2020 16:45

You didn't do anything wrong, you followed the guidance (assuming that walk was your once daily outdoor exercise) and you didn't come into contact with anyone else. However, i can understand her anxiety. You're right, the postman still delivers mail, food shopping is still delivered, etc. But those are essential, brownies aren't. It was a lovely thought but I probably wouldn't make unnecessary trips like this again x

Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:46

Well the brownies weren't essential, I agree, but was part of our daily exercise

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cardibach · 26/03/2020 16:46

It’s not an essential trip as laid out I. The rules, though if it was your walk that covers that. However the virus does live on surfaces, both your brownie packaging if you have the virus and the friend’s door if they or the postman have it. Seems an unnecessary risk. Can’t she FaceTime her friend?

lubeybooby · 26/03/2020 16:47

The postman delivers essential documents. ffs

Yeafortwo · 26/03/2020 16:47

She didn't drive there unless I missed something. Was it your one a day daily exercise? It's nice but maybe ill advised given current climate.

buzzswole · 26/03/2020 16:47

I find this bizarre.
I have had two well meaning friends bring baking to my house in a similar way but there's no wY we're eating it.

If we can't risk breathing the same air as you we definitely can't risk eating food that your children have made.

As a PP said, it's like sticking your finger in their mouth Confused

Funkyslippers · 26/03/2020 16:49

Well not really, Buzz, as the food was cooked and we didn't touch it after it came out of the oven. The inside of the foil was not touched by our hands either

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buzzswole · 26/03/2020 16:50

And for what it's worth my 5 year old even said 'I don't want to eat those because they used their hands to make them'.

LuluJakey1 · 26/03/2020 16:51

It's not the crime of the century Grin
It's certainly not morally wrong
But this virus does not spread itself: it is spread by the actions of human beings.That's the point
It's probably going to be fine if you did not touch the Brownie once it was cooked, if the family wiped the tin with something to kill any virus before they opened it and washed their hands before they then touched the Brownie. It really is that easy to catch.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/03/2020 16:51

I see nothing wrong with it- but according to mn anyone who dares leave their house atm is utterly irresponsible.

amusedbush · 26/03/2020 16:52

The postman delivers essential documents. ffs

Yes, I was waiting on the edge of my seat all day for the wad of Farmfoods leaflets the postman shoved through my door.

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