To tell them to go straight to the crematorium and not to expect to be let into my house?

[GoJetterGirl]

Just that.

Lockdown,

My boys funeral will not be the way he deserves, but at least we can have our 22 closest friends with us at the crematorium, socially distant (crem usually holds around 150) I’m thankful for that much at least.

The in-laws are complaining that they will have to travel up on the day rather than staying in a hotel, as the hotel they were booked at will be shut.

They have been told they are not welcome to stay here, because, it’s now law that households cannot mix and stay together.

Here’s where it gets annoying, the in-laws want to bring extended family to our house prior to the wedding, and are expected to sit like bumps on a log in our front room while we get ready to attend our sons funeral.

1. it’s no longer allowed
2. I’m immunodeficient, I don’t need my in-laws and co, tho don’t believe they need to isolate in my bloody house potentially infecting me and my family
3. I’m liable to lose my shit anyway, new law not withstanding...

So, what can I do to ensure they don’t run roughshod over me and my child’s funeral?

I’m at the point where I’m about to lose it big time

Wedding, I mean funeral... 🙄 caught a glance of a text cancelling a friends wedding as I wrote post...

You absolutely right. They cant come. Should be close family only

You do and say nothing, you let your husband deal with it, it’s his family.

He can tell them they can’t come to the house.

I’m so sorry for your loss .

Just say no.

Tell them no. No extended family and no stopping anywhere other than at the crematorium. Otherwise they don't come at all.

One word for your in-laws: No.

You can say No - sorry.

You can say No - with an explanation or you can simply say; no.

Absolutely they need to go straight there. So sorry your boy has been caught up in all of this.

Lose it. Big time. This time is for you to say goodbye to your beautiful boy and for people to support you the best they can in that. It’s not time for other people to be making it about them.

Wishing you lots of strength for the days ahead x

DuH appears to have lost his bottle dealing with his mother... I’m gonna have to take matters into my own hands, even if it does mean calling the police, I’d he allows them in, I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to look at him again. I would leave as soon as lockdown is over.

My voting thing on here currently shows that 109% of votes say your not being unreasonable.

Anyone who can’t respect you at this time should be told to stay at home and not attend at all. They need to be supporting not making things even worse

God, your fucking in-laws again GoJetter!

How have you not strangled them by now, you must be a saint.

Do you have a garden? Could they sit there 2m apart? They should however really just go straight to the crematorium. How dare they complain about travelling in the day to someone who just lost a child!

Lose it big time, it's been a long time coming and what they deserve. How dare they.

After giving our condolences on here, the nect thought was if they would cause you anymore trouble and they've bloody managed it.

It's straight to the Crematorium or not at all.

And the daily mail and any journalist can go FUCK THEMSELVES!!!

Lose your shit at them. They do not have the right to have any say in this. Send them a message saying you will meet them at the crem at x time and if they argue just reply with a repeat of that.

I’m sorry things can’t go as you’d hoped, but I hope it goes as well as it can. x

So sorry for your loss. What they have said above, lose it. On the day lock the door and if they arrive speak to them from a distance, maybe an upstairs window. If they are determined to put you at risk you might need to tell them to reconsider whether they want to come at all. I really hope that they respect your wishes and you can give your son the send off that you have planned.

You don't open the door to them. And potentially lose your shit OP.

If he lets them in tell him he can travel home with them and stay with them!

The only reason I’ve not strangled them @FuckingTuiles is because I require a clean DBS for work... 🙄

My heart is breaking for you @GoJetterGirl.

I’m so sorry for your loss, and for this to happen now.

YANBU.

No no no. Tell them no. I'm so sorry for your loss.

No, no, no! I wouldn't even want them there at all with this attitude. If your DH tries to let them into your house, throw them ALL out, including your DH. With Police help if necessary.

Have you confirmed with the crem re numbers? Ours is only allowing closest family/6 max.

Little white lie time?

Also, no/fuck off

Sorry for your loss x

Show them these messages if you want.

They are a bunch of dicks. How dare they make this all about them? It's your sons funeral for crying out loud. Do they have no empathy or sympathy at all?!

Tell them you will call the police on them if they dare to turn up.

Just tell them no