Is this acceptable during ‘lockdown’?

[GA2012]

I lost a close family member a little over a month ago. He is buried about 11 miles away in a quiet little church in the middle of nowhere. There’s never anyone there apart from services, weddings etc. I would like to visit his grave and put fresh flowers on.. I would visit at around 8-9am in the morning. I feel terrible that I haven’t managed to get up there for a couple weeks.

I’m aware we are told 15 minutes exercise a day.

Obviously we are isolating and not socialising with people but would it be acceptable to visit? It’s a 20 minute drive on rural roads . We’d literally just drive there, visit and come back. There’s never anyone there. It’s a church in the middle of nowhere with only a small hamlet up the road...

If we got there and there was people there we would come back another time..

I'm very sorry for your loss . Its not an essential journey though, so according to the rules would not be permitted.

A government minister on tv just said driving to a remote location to then do exercise is okay but that would be your one outing.

I don't think it's acceptable, no.

The UK is supposed to be locking down together.

If people took individual decisions to go out and 'just do' (insert whatever), we'd be right back to where we were this time yesterday.

If you’ve left it for 2 weeks you can leave it for another 3.

It’s human nature to look for ways around restrictions and to feel the pull of the things that are denied us. But this is so clearly not to anyone’s benefit other than you getting out of the house.

Set up a small memorial at home and meditate/offer you thoughts there. Being at the grave and putting flowers on it is a symbolism you can easily replace.

Really @LouiseTrees?

Where did you get 15 mins of exercise from?

I'm the same @GA2012
I go the the cemetery 2/3 times a week to tend to my dd's grave. I never usually see anyone.
I go to the cemetery as it's the one place I feel close to dd. The thought of her grave not been attended to really upsets me.

Is this essential? It is not.

You'd visit during rush hour? And make an unnecessary trip to get there? No.

The rules apply to you too. Sorry for your loss but this is to try and save lives

Friend Of mine thought the same yesterday.

Cemetary was packed. Lots obviously having the same idea.

no

I'm really sorry, but it is a no from me too.
I do understand how much this means to you, but if everyone does it, then the roads etc are busy again.

Everyone who passes anyone at the moment has the chance to pass on or catch the virus, the only way to not is to stop moving around, stop driving, stop leaving the house etc.

Have we had a time limit on exercise then? I must have missed that. Can someone please refer me to where this time limit is mentioned

Where did you hear 15 minutes?

It’s not essential. My mum did their graves at the weekend knowing this would be coming so to make sure fresh flowers where on. None of us will be going near now until this is over.

You have to think about it this way too.

If your car broke down - someone would have to attend to you.

If (God forbid) you had a car accident - someone would have to attend to you.

No. I know it's very important to you but a lot of people will want to be doing the same thing and so it won't be quiet.

I’m so sorry for your loss but I would say no as it’s not an essential journey.

There is no time limit

No, it's not essential at this time.

It's not forever, the sooner we all do as advised, the sooner we can get back to normal.

15 minutes is totally wrong. It could be a 3 hour cycle if you want.

Yes you can drive to the cemetery - but keep away fro other people.

What are the rules?
Starting from 8.30pm on Monday March 23, Britons will now only be able to leave their homes for four reasons.

Shop for essentials, as infrequently as possible

Exercise outdoors once per day, alone or with household members

Receive medical treatment or provide care

Travel to and from work, if it's impossible to work from home

Driving to a grave and placing flowers on it is not exercise, no matter how you wrap it up I'm afraid.

Walk there and back?

15 mins a day? WHAT? Where is this written?

I would be able to cycle there and back and if completely empty would lay flowers then. I wouldn't have the time, but if you don't have work or children then is that possible?

@ParkheadParadise bless you xxx