to be upset that my husband didnt care about mothers day ?

[LidiaM]

I am so dissapointed and sad because its mothers day tomorrow and I wont be getting anything, our daughter is 3 years old , she cant buy stuff herself, I dont even want anything materially , just a card and a hug ! I always pay atention and do my best for fathers day and his birthdays and he knows how important it is for me yet he ALWAYS forgets and this time he has a reason ! ladies and gentlemen - he forgot because of the CORONAVIRUS , YEA..
he had time, its not a big effort to go shops for a little chocolate once a year !.
I am just sad because I dont understand, he knew how importand it is for me, he is responsible for mothers days untill our girl understand herself yet he always fail with those things .I am fed up with it, It showes me that he kind of doesnt care about my feelings.

It's up to you if you want to be upset about it, but I think it's ridiculous. Have you thought for a moment about what people are going through right now? Fearing for their lives, their loved ones, worrying about keeping a roof over their head, putting food on the table - and your in a huff over a bar of chocolate that hasn't even happened yet?
I think if this is your biggest problem right now you ought to find a way to help people so you can gain a bit of perspective.

I too think there are higher priorities than a card.
Surely your child hugs you regularly?

Don't make any effort for father's day then . Simple

Of course there are higher priorities but you're still allowed to be miffed about other day to day things, too! I'm sorry OP, I hope he atleast pulls a nice breakfast out the bag for you tomorrow. If not then I wouldn't bother on Father's Day!

Honestly, mother's Day is lowest in my priority list. I don't even expect a card and I wouldn't expect dp to go to a shop, especially when we are supposed to be socially distancing. Maybe he has got your dd to make you a card if you have the stuff in? Maybe he's calling your bluff. After all, it isn't mother's Day until tomorrow...

If his DM is still alive has he bought her anything ?

How do you know he hasnt got you something- could this be an (ill thought-out) way to make you think you dont have anything?
I dont think the virus is a reason to make no effort at all, surely he could have ordered something from online if he didnt want to go to the shop?

So just don’t get him anything for Father’s Day

It's a fair excuse this year. But what was his excuse last year is the question?

I haven't bought my mum a card this year. I was in the shop on Tuesday browsing but didn't like the designs. Naively thought I'd pick one up another time but then everything went crazy.

Totally agree. I was annoyed with my OH cause I asked him months ago to put a holiday in tomorrow. He didnt.
Unfortunately now we're self isolating as our child has developed symptoms. So now we're stuck together totally for 14 days. Which is a bit much.

If he’s never done anything for it before then you didn’t have a reason to think he would this year, unless you raised it last year and he specifically said he would.

As he knows it means something to you he’s being unkind not to bother. Does he appreciate your efforts for events for him? If so he’s especially crap for not showing you the same thought. But he’s unlikely to change OP, he knows you’re upset she doesn’t care, which sucks.

My DH is useless.
I made my own card with my DS and put a box of chocs in our basket whilst shopping today.

Talk to your kid, tell her how much you'd appreciate it if she drew you a lovely picture.

Well this virus is terrifying and it is kind of taking over things at the moment was supposed to go for lunch with my own mum and sister tomorrow it's something we do every year but obviously that's off ,in fact I don't know when I will be seeing my mum how .

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking forward to something to brighten our life’s right now, and it’s sad that he hasn’t bothered especially at a time where it could lift your day so much.

Did you give him a reminder last week? Ok you shouldn't have to but would save upset

As he always forgets he’s a twat but surely you’re not surprised this year?

Stop getting him anything on Father’s Day.

One thing I hope that comes out of our current crisis is that we stop worrying so much about mundane trivialities like this.

If we all can get a sense of real perspective, that would be a silver lining.

It’s Mother’s Day, not wives day. I don’t get mothers (or fathers) who expect their partner to buy them presents and cards for mothers/Fathers Day. It’s meaningless unless it’s come from your child

Im with wavey on this - stuff like Mother's Day is v important to me, my DH couldn't care less. I used to remind him to call his mum/send a card, this year now we have DD i asked him to do something for me, because i care about it. Im pretty sure he's done something. I reminded him a month ago, and on Wednesday. I don't have an issue with that, as our priorities round it are different i have to put in a little extra effort to make sure i end up with a day that makes me happy.

Corona virus is a shit excuse. I still managed to organise flowers to be delivered to my mum and MIL and cards posted.

I am ill in bed self isolating from everyone else in the house coughing away and scared as hell. I give not a flying fuck about mothers day.

Surely, seen as it's mothers day, you'd feel much better reaping the rewards once your child is old enough to autonomously decide to celebrate it with you, rather than have your husband buy a card. After all, it is mother's Day. Not wife's day.

Bigger problems OP.

Sit down and explain to your husband why you are hurt and that it is important to you. What’s difficult about that?!?

Most of us won’t even get to see our mums tomorrow. Think about the bigger picture.

So help your child bake a sponge cake with jam and cream.
Then post pictures of her lovely mess.