to be upset that my husband didnt care about mothers day ?

[LidiaM]

I am so dissapointed and sad because its mothers day tomorrow and I wont be getting anything, our daughter is 3 years old , she cant buy stuff herself, I dont even want anything materially , just a card and a hug ! I always pay atention and do my best for fathers day and his birthdays and he knows how important it is for me yet he ALWAYS forgets and this time he has a reason ! ladies and gentlemen - he forgot because of the CORONAVIRUS , YEA..
he had time, its not a big effort to go shops for a little chocolate once a year !.
I am just sad because I dont understand, he knew how importand it is for me, he is responsible for mothers days untill our girl understand herself yet he always fail with those things .I am fed up with it, It showes me that he kind of doesnt care about my feelings.

It is a lot harder this year though to go to the shops unfortunately! But YANBU he could of got your kid to make a card.

Your just not in the the relationship you want to be in. He will not start making a fuss of you, so decide if you want life to be like this. Does anyone want to have to make requests to feel valued? If he did do it on demand it would seem like a hollow victory.

You are all being harsh on OP, her DH is a selfish twat. OP I get it, I really do. You are not asking for much.... A flicker of recognition would be nice and he is an adult not a boy, it isn't your job to remind him not to be a selfish c*nt. YANBI.

Isn't mothers day a chance for the children to show their mum how much they love and appreciate them?give it another year and you will get a lovingly drawn or painted card which is surely much more valuable than the card and chocolates you are after now?
Be thankful you are all together and healthy and enjoy your family time.

What is all this shops stuff.

You don't need to go to the shops to get a 3 yo to draw s pic and give it to their mum and say happy mother's Day.

People saying she is totally outrageous for wanting something, I don't get it.

I'm pissed off too.

I had to organise cards, even had to get mil a grandmother one! So my mum his mum got grandma mother day cards for idk what reason. But he couldn't pick me up a card lol? And also he is still working and went shopping last night so he could have! Yanbu

I won't be getting anything from DS1 for MD. He's an adult. He's not left the house in a fortnight because we're lambing. I've told him I'll buy myself some chocolates. Life is too exhausting to be upset about rubbish like this at the moment.

Karma she wanted a card and a hug.

Her DH has not sorted anything even that basic any other years.

Her kid will be 4 next year so unless DH gets that card drawn (or maybe bought by then hopefully we'll be allowed out) then she won't get anything next year either.

So he's never bothered in the past but this year she should be grateful. Right.

You will get lots of women on here that are martyrs and say it doesn't matter, it's commercial, there are more important things etc etc.

But I think it's bollocks. If it's important to you it should be important to him, simple as that.

My husband is off to work a 12 hour shift today, he still brought me (as our son is young) choccies and some nice bubble bath, DS made a card at school. He brought us up coffee and toast for us all to have in bed this morning at 7am, it is the gesture and means a lot.

My friends who have husbands that 'forget' their birthdays, 'forget' anniversaries, 'don't believe' in valentines are all bloody miserable or divorced. If you can't be bothered to make a token bloody gesture to the person you love more than anything in the world, what is the bloody point of being in a relationship.

I won't see my mum for Mother's Day. Your children are with you for the day. Be grateful.

Don't celebrate Fathers' Day or his birthday. Clearly not important to him, he probably won't even notice the omission. Save yourself the time and hassle. These things only work if everyone is equally invested.

It’s disappointing but it’s not like your child forgot. I still remember the years when we were trying for a baby without success and every mothers day was a heartbreaking reminder of what I wasn’t. I’d rather have a mothers day with no card than not be a mother at all.

He could and should have made an effort. It's not hard to just order some flowers online regardless of the coronavirus, he sounds like a lazy knob

Sorry op, he should have made the effort. He could have got your DD to make a simple card, for a cheap bunch of flowers and a nice breakfast. It's not that hard, is it?

Maybe making you feel valued and special is not high on his priority list. Is he better in other ways?

Me and my DP are similar for Valentine's Day, he doesn't get it, he says we show each other love everyday which is true, however I love exchanging cards and a small gift e.g. chocolates. Because he knows it matters to me, he does it.

ILoveAnOwl alwaysmoody so you both organised cards for your DH mothers - why? If your DH can't be arsed to get there own mother a card I am not surprised they have shown no interest in supporting there DC to get you one , probably thought you would sort that out too. Perhaps stop enabling your DH -I am assuming you both do there birthdays, Christmas and presents too?

Is just stop doing anything for Father's Day or his birthday. If he asks why just say it's never reciprocated so you're not bothering any more.

Repeat after me people: other people's more extreme misfortunes do not invalidate the disappointments of others.

It's not a competition. OP is allowed to be sad about her thoughtless husband even if other people are suffering from coronavirus.

Sometimes little things are all it takes to make you feel better. Yes in the scheme of things it's not that important, but sometimes can make all the difference to a crappy time. It'll be fine.

Ridiculous. You are not his mother. Why should he send you a mother's day card. Wait till your daughter is old enough to know what MD is, then she will make/send you a card as her mother. Until then wind your neck in, YABU

Of course youve every right to be upset, my first mother's day was the same, DH said i wasnt his mother so why would he buy me anything! Tbf he doesn't get his mum anything either, they don't make a fuss of birthdays or occasions but in my family we do. It gets easier as DC get older and make cards and gifts at nursery and school and ask their dad to take them shopping to get a gift.
I would treat yourself to something nice, and as DH isnt getting the hint I would try my best to stop doing anything for him on fathers day. Maybe in a week or two sit down and have a calm conversation with him about it. YANBU in wanting to mark the occasion, its about feeling appreciated and loved. 💐

"Ridiculous. You are not his mother. Why should he send you a mother's day card. Wait till your daughter is old enough to know what MD is, then she will make/send you a card as her mother. Until then wind your neck in, YABU"

It's not ridiculous. It's a way for your husband to show you he appreciates you for what you do as a mum and vice versa on Father's Day.

My mum didn’t get to see me this year, lots of parents didn’t see their children.

F* off.

@elenacampana you have no right to be upset about not seeing your mother.

Some people don’t even have mothers.

How dare you be upset? No one is ever allowed to be upset if there’s someone worse off. Not ever.

That’s how it works, right?

My DH had some lovely flowers delivered yesterday on behalf of baby DS. Today he’s been in a hellish mood and left me to do everything. I would have loved him to make me a cup of tea and do me the honour of seeing to his son so that I could actually drink it while it was hot. Can’t have everything though. The flowers are nice.
YANBU OP. It really is the small gestures that count.