to be upset that my husband didnt care about mothers day ?

[LidiaM]

I am so dissapointed and sad because its mothers day tomorrow and I wont be getting anything, our daughter is 3 years old , she cant buy stuff herself, I dont even want anything materially , just a card and a hug ! I always pay atention and do my best for fathers day and his birthdays and he knows how important it is for me yet he ALWAYS forgets and this time he has a reason ! ladies and gentlemen - he forgot because of the CORONAVIRUS , YEA..
he had time, its not a big effort to go shops for a little chocolate once a year !.
I am just sad because I dont understand, he knew how importand it is for me, he is responsible for mothers days untill our girl understand herself yet he always fail with those things .I am fed up with it, It showes me that he kind of doesnt care about my feelings.

The thing is OP if you have to force your DH to do something for you for mothers day then it doesn't mean anything anyway. Hug your DD, be grateful you have a healthy child and stop making a fuss of your DH on father's day.

Nobody has any business buying cards anyway. It’s so wasteful. Mothers Day is ridiculous, people will stop celebrating it soon like the bulk of people have with Valentines Day.

YANBU - but you are not going to change him. You have to lower your expectations then you won’t be disappointed.
Also - don’t bother with Fathers Day this year.

Well you know what to do when Father’s Day comes round, don’t you?

I won’t be getting anything either, my DD’s only get me something if my mum takes them shopping and she’s in isolation so I know I won’t get a card. I’m not too bothered this year as there’s so much going on, many people won’t even get to see their mums or children, I’m just please I get to spend the day with mine.

This isn't the year to be complaining about bloody mother's day. Get a grip.

I actually think that being stuck inside all day with your husband and child is all the more reason to care about Mother’s Day! The least he could do is breakfast in bed and make a fucking card with DC from stuff around the house. Why not?

But then this has gone on for years and you have still done Father’s Day and not put your food down....

Calm down op, if he is good in other ways (I haven't read the full thread so don't know), let it go. You're not his mum and you're not a baby. You've registered your disappointment, that's enough.

Get your own back in June - do nothing for Father's Day. If he says anything, tell him you're still waiting for your Mother's Day gift.

Does he get his Mother anything? If he does, maybe he thinks it's not important until DD is old enough to ask.

Corona virus is no excuse. I realised last weekend I wouldn't see my mum for mothers day. Her presents and card got delivered today. I kinda went bigger than usual because it's a stressful time and I wanted to cheer her up.

I'd be heartbroken if DH forgot any occasion like this. I dont get people who say you shouldn't care when your husband doesn't bother with birthdays/mothers day. Deciding not to bother between yourselves- fine. But the default position should definitely be at least a card and small gift.

It feals frivourless, so many flowers in supermarket but people wanting pasta, chicken, loo roll. Priorities??

Say to him tonight what I want for mothers day tomorrow is a cup of tea and breakfast in bed and a lie in. Then repeat that in the morning. Home and dd can make the toast together. She can carry up the toast and he can carry up the cup of tea.
Then say to her its mothers day so you and daddy are doing a special picture for me whilst I'm in bed. Insist. Get her on board then watch tv in bed/ go on your phone in bed whilst they do it.

Holy fucking shite, it's not even mothers day yet.
You do realise there's bigger shit going down at the moment?
These threads are tiresome every normal year, this year you should be bloody ashamed quite frankly.

M/F days It's a complete non event generates pile of useless shit and landfill.

Both of my kids made me a card nothing bought x

@Ihopeyourcakeisshit

I agree. OP, really??? You’re worried about this and there’s a local, national and global crisis?

Honestly go and hang your head.

My husband is the same, he doesn’t get it as he doesn’t care about Father’s Day. Maybe it is just a commercial thing but I think it’s nice and have always put the effort in for my mum. As you say whilst they are young the father should be organising. Good Luck, hope you do better than I have!

I honestly thought that at least this year there wouldn't be the usual posts about Mother's Day let downs.

Op, you have either had a child with a man who doesn't care enough to make an effort or is just a doofus or is still getting the hang of the idea that he has a child and needs to think on her behalf sometimes.

Fingers crossed is is the latter and things will improve.

I agree with you Op, It’s rude. The conventions are there for a reason. Mothers are important and it’s a good thing to remind children that it may matter to their mother.
Why us showing appreciation a less thing than Coronavirus? Should be appreciate her more knowing some are losing theirs?

I’ve hinted at dp that I would just like a card, as it’s my first Mother’s Day with ds and I’d just like a little scribble for his memory box
Over the years he has got much better at these sort of things because he knows I like it, but I definitely put more effort in for his birthday/Father’s Day. He wouldn’t care if I didn’t though as he’s not bothered about these things.

I won’t even get a nice cup of tea as we’ve got no sugar. But to be honest I just want to see my mum She’s put herself in isolation and I miss her like mad. I sent her a moonpig card but that’s it, tomorrow’s going to be a bit of a downer for me to be honest, as I’m sure it is for a lot of people right now.

Oh and mine doesn’t even get his own mum a card, so that should give you an insight into whether he’s just useless/inconsiderate in general, or to you in particular.

Mother's Day has been cancelled in our household as far as I'm concerned, we popped flowers and cards round to our Mums today maintaining 2 meters distance outside for a couple of minutes, we won't see them tomorrow except for FaceTime.
I have zero expectations for my husband & 2.5 year old. I'm pregnant (3rd trimester) and DD has asthma so would much rather we redo Mother's Day when all this is over than risk potentially making us all ill. It's just not worth it...
Don't get me wrong, a handmade card and acknowledgment of the day would be nice but we honestly have so much other stress to think of that I won't be worried if DH doesn't do anything tomorrow.

Would you all give it a rest with the Coronavirus shite.

Is nobody allowed to have a feeling or thought ever again unless it’s about the virus?

How about the fact that he accepts things for his own birthday and Father’s Day yet doesn’t return the effort, even in a small way?

How about the fact that it’s RIGHT THERE in the OP that he already knows it’s important and claims to “forget” every single year?

I hate this competitive not giving a shit on MN. Like it’s somehow more high brow to not care about stuff.

It’s always the same. “I don’t even know what a birthday is because I’m sooooo busy and important.”

Same goes for every occasion, ever. I cannot roll my eyes enough.

@LidiaM he’s being an arsehole. Don’t get him a single solitary thing ever again.

mothers day is cancelled here until we can all celebrate it 2geva

Sometimes in times of strife, it's all the more important to observe the little niceties. Just imagine - what if it was a Mum's one and only Mother's Day?