to be upset that my husband didnt care about mothers day ?

[LidiaM]

I am so dissapointed and sad because its mothers day tomorrow and I wont be getting anything, our daughter is 3 years old , she cant buy stuff herself, I dont even want anything materially , just a card and a hug ! I always pay atention and do my best for fathers day and his birthdays and he knows how important it is for me yet he ALWAYS forgets and this time he has a reason ! ladies and gentlemen - he forgot because of the CORONAVIRUS , YEA..
he had time, its not a big effort to go shops for a little chocolate once a year !.
I am just sad because I dont understand, he knew how importand it is for me, he is responsible for mothers days untill our girl understand herself yet he always fail with those things .I am fed up with it, It showes me that he kind of doesnt care about my feelings.

Why is a card from him (as opposed to, say, a grown up daughter) on Mother’s Day important to you? It’s not like Valentine’s Day or a wedding anniversary and you’re not his mother so there’s no real reason to get one from him.

Is it because you don’t feel loved / valued / appreciated on other days? In my eyes, if your partner shows their appreciation at other times, getting upset over a lack of a card is daft as it’s far harder to do it everyday than it is to buy a card and shove words on it. For that reason, I personally couldn’t give a stuff about Mother’s Day. I’m not sure why mothers need a card and chocolate to feel like mothers, so if it’s more that he’s unappreciative then have that out with him rather than him thinking you’re upset solely about the lack of a card. Don’t buy him stuff either if Father’s Day isn’t something he’s fussed about.

She wanted a card from her child. A child too young to make any sort of gesture without help from the father.

People are being deliberately obtuse. Why?

"once your child is old enough to autonomously decide to celebrate it with you"

The celebration is a cultural practice, not an innate compulsion. The significance needs to be taught/modelled to the child.

I know this thread is old but she is allowed to be upset about the small things in her life!!
do you think when my sister was dyin in hospital a person upset about dropping a chocolate bar bothered me? No it didn’t. I envied their pain and also wondered if they had any more that we can’t see.
people are allowed feelings and kids starving in Africa and being guilt tripped into our feelings not being valid is emotionally nasty and horrible.