My friend has gone mad right?

[CathyTre]

A friend of mine has recently got engaged. She is VERY excited. All good, this is lovely. She has a very large solitaire ring which is beautiful. She was showing me today over coffee and I oohed and aahed with appropriate gushiness.

She then said “I know, it’s SO lovely! I wouldn’t like rings like yours. Your wedding ring is so overshadowed by your engagement ring and your wedding ring would be so much better if it was a bit wider as it just looks like you’re engaged. I’m so lucky that I got to go and choose my engagement ring because I really wanted something to my taste and I’d have had to pretend a bit if I got yours”

She’s mental to voice this, to care and to give any thought to my rings, right? 😂

I’ll post a picture of my very ordinary and not worthy of remark rings (I love them, I just say ordinary as think they’re pretty normal and not remark worthy as I know whenever I read a post where someone describes things I’m nosy about what it looks like. Also not offended by anyone else’s opinion on my rings if they can even be bothered to have one!).

Engagement rings are a bit like babies, surely? You just Ooh and aah and say how beautiful, even if you’re thinking ‘Wow, ugliest ring/baby/whatever I’ve seen in a loooong while!’ One does not insult other people’s taste (at least not to their face!)

Tell her you'd love her ring but you wouldn't want the man that came with it

I wouldn't want to be her bridesmaid, too old for all that crap.

Jeez with friends like that .........

I like your rings btw 💐

You should've told her the new ring makes her look fat

I have found my identical engagement/wedding ring hand twin!

Can you imagine what its going to be like when / if you both have children

Your rings are lovely.

She'd definitely hate mine as both engagement ring and wedding ring are really narrow and delicate. Engagement is an antique diamond cluster (which my "D"M told me were just "chips" so it wouldn't matter if one fell out ) and wedding ring is a plain band (albeit shaped to fit around the cluster) and I'd say the bands on both together are a good bit narrower than your wedding band alone. I have small, skinny fingers so anything larger would have just looked weird on my hands and I catch jewellery on things all the time as I'm so clumsy so I'd have hated anything huge.

I think as a bridesmaid you may have some wonderful bridezilla moments for us later (just watch for the tabloids jumping on stories if you share with us, they do seem to like a good bridezilla story.) I wouldn't be surprised if there was a big flashy venue, a small fortune spent on decorations, but you all (at least 200 people) have to fight over the buffet of a dozen sandwiches to have anything to eat.

@CathyTre

What is her ring like? Can you find a similar picture to hers?

She sounds like she's trying to convince herself tbh.

She sounds like she’s in the early stages of a horrible illness called ‘Bridezilla-it is’... unfortunately the symptoms will not be alleviated until after the wedding. Good luck OP!

You sooo do not want to be her bridesmaid!

But you might get a few more a lot more threads out of it

Your rings are very much like my rings OP and I love them

She sounds like a bitch.

I had a friend like that once - put me down to make herself feel better. Toxic. Run for the hills!

Great taste OP! Your ring looks very like mine.

Tell her you once ordered a chain and bracelet set, which came with a free ring from the Avon catalogue that looked similar to hers.......

I can't imagine comparing my engagement and wedding rings with anyone else's. when my DH and I got engaged and bought my engagement ring (we bought it together), I was very happy with my own ring, and then later with my wedding ring. It never occurred to me to compare them with anyone else's.

Even if you do have an opinion on someone else's rings (or anything else for that matter), being bitchy about it is never okay, it's very rude.

If she's okay normally and is just over excited about her forthcoming wedding, maybe once the big day is passed she'll calm down and go back to being the friend you know and love. But I wouldn't bank on that happening before the big day, judging by the bridezilla threads on AIBU. So I'd think carefully before agreeing to be her bridesmaid, it could cause you a lot of stress you don't need in your life.

I don't know how people can get excited about rings

I don't know how people can get excited about rings

this is the weirdest comment on this Thread.... seriously 🙄

She sounds as though she has felt jealous for ages and new trying to get one-up on you. She is not a genuine friend and I think will now look to compete on something new,... "oh Cathy I am so glad my wedding dress is ivory and not plain white like yours was, oh Cathy I have really pretty wedding shoes, a much bigger wedding car..."

Let us know how it pans out!

My work colleague told me she didn't like my (new) engagement ring. She asked to see it. She could have just said it's 'interesting' or something else slightly rude, but no, she told me she didn't like it at all! Bonkers and rude.

Not my taste but hey, who cares? It’s pretty, you love it and the man who gave it to you. What more matters? You might not like mine 😂 She’s being a douche @CathyTre

I love your engagement ring, and I think the fact your DH chose it is the special part, wedding rings tend to be very plain and similar, its the engagement ring that stands out and yours is lovely.

In fact I saved up and bought one very similar to yours for myself a few years ago as I saw one and thought how beautiful it was, its a matter of taste but I think your DH has good taste

Your friend is a bitch.

Your rings are lovely.

Beware...I sense bitchy friend will be turning into an absolute bridezilla and it will be a nightmare being her bridesmaid!

Love your ring.

Think people sometimes speak out their retail of thought and think she is probably going a bit crazy with pre wedding stress??