Lack of sympathy for sick days.

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My DP seems to average out 1 to 2 sick days a month always one day at a time.

Each time he looks fine and is able to do whatever he fancies - drives, play games, goes to the shop, see friends/family etc but has his dailymail sad eyes on ‘I’m so ill’.

However he still expects me to give him sympathy. I feel I’m turning into my mother and I just want to tell him by the time he gets to work he’ll be feeling much better or if he’s well enough to be driving/playing games/going out he’s well enough to go to work.

He asked this morning that I give him more sympathy which I must admit is pretty impossible for me right now. He’s currently gone to the supermarket to get himself some snacks. Or maybe it’s because I’m more annoyed because he’s still on probation at his new job and he/we can’t afford for it not to work out.

He'd not be getting any sympathy from me at all!

I’m surprised he hasn’t been sacked tbh.

2 a month is taking the piss. How hasn't he breached the sickness policy?

He sounds fine

Would get no sympathy from me either, if he is well enough to go to the supermarket, He is certainly ok to go to work. Does he like his job?

I wouldn't be able to be kind to someone playing those games especially whilst they're on a probation period. Does he know how stupidly he's behaving?

What a joke! He’s absolutely going to get fired at this rate.

Is there an underlying issue like depression or anxiety that he hasn’t opened up about? That’s the only excuse I can think of for something like this.

I hope he's not a train driver.

So he's pretty much working 90% of what he should be? I'll be amazed if he passes his probation period. Does he have any mid period reviews which might shake him up a bit?

He is being pathetic and ridiculous asking for more sympathy, I don't know how you haven't murdered him by now.

Unless there is an underlying health condition, he will be let go at this rate. I suspect he knows this and wants it to happen for whatever reason?

His bradford score must be huge, in most companies he would be on formal monitoring by now.

I'd have no sympathy either. What does he actually want sympathy for? It sounds like he is having a nice day off work. How does he justify going out to see friends etc if he is too ill to work. I'd tell him I'd give him sympathy if he was feeling too rough to get off the couch. Like a normal ill person

At this rate he's racking up about 20 sick days a year. I bet his colleagues are a bit fed up as well.

2 days a month sick?? Surprised his still got a job tbh.....

His last company started asking for proof of doctor notes/hospital appointments as he had called woof so often but that time he was actually ill.

His mum completely panders to him which doesn’t help. I had a word with him earlier that he needs to go for testing if he’s ill so much as if he doesn’t get a legit reason for being ill it’s not going look good at work. He’s just completely oblivious that he takes a lot of time off like it’s normal.

Christ, how does he still have a job?

He wouldn't get any sympathy from me.

I would tell him to grow up and fuck off to work. He would get no sympathy from me.

A MONTH? Christ, he's taking the piss.

Tell him if he loses this job because of this ridiculous habit of taking time off he can go back to his mother's full time. Seriously, this is a problem OP. He's a shirker and he wants sympathy as well?!

What a peach.
Says a lot about him so not someone I'd waste my time on.

My DP seems to average out 1 to 2 sick days a month always one day at a time

If he carries this on I guarantee he won’t be kept on at his job!

Ho has he not been sacked? If I found out one of my staff had been galavanting top the shops on a day they had called in sick I'd be putting them on a disciplinary track.

Surprising to hear someone able to do this in the private sector?

I would be amazed if they kept him on after the probation period. I know my employer wouldn't.
Does he get paid sick leave or are you losing money as a family due to his foolishness?

We had loads of people like this in my office. Last month the director withdrew sick pay, no notice, no warning. Everyone that was off sick had it deducted from their salary.

Suddenly no one is sick anymore.

I've had a cold for two weeks (you can imagine the hysteria around me with this coronavirus) and I've not had the option of staying home. I've had to come in everyday potentially infecting everyone.

Some people spoil it for everyone else

My DH NEVER gets any sympathy from me. He's always moaning about something wrong with him....
At the beginning of 2017 I decided to make a note of how many complaints he made. I got to 41 by 1st February so gave up as it was too time consuming.
I started again on 1st January 2019 and was at more than 60 before the end of the month.
Then he says I never ask how he is! I haven't got time for your reply, mate!