To think the orthodontist is rude

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Hi,

DS (18) has overbite and has been receiving orthodontic treatment for it since July 2018.

His orthodontist has always come across as very sarcastic and unprofessional.

A few months after the start of the treatment she recommended he get one of his upper side teeth removed to allow space for the bite to reduce, she didn’t provide DS with enough info about this at the time so he refused and then she made sarcastic comments like “oh you’re a man with a plan” “why come here anymore if you won’t get this simple procedure done”

Eventually, he did get it done and then she started to be reasonable again. (Ok I do get why she may be annoyed that he refused to get his tooth extracted, but she didn’t provide him with enough facts and she didn’t need to be blunt about it)

Anyway, he was in again today and he had broken his braces as he was removing plaque a couple of days ago with a dental hook and the wire came off and he tried to put it back in again and it wouldn’t go in.

I told him to tell the orthodontist that he was eating corn on the cob and it came off due to that, which he did and she didn’t believe it.

She didn’t directly say that, she just said “oh well that’s the most dangerous corn on the cob I’ve come across, “I think it’s had a little assistance”

So obviously she knew he was lying but DS thinks that was rude? AWBU?

He also asked her if the braces could come off soon and she apparently bluntly said no and her tone kind of made it sound like it was unreasonable that he was even asking for the braces to come off.

P.s I’m asking this on DS’ behalf

@apples24 the more I think about it I realise that I’m really not being unreasonable

Well the overwhelming majority of people here disagree OP. You seem very arrogant. The orthodontist will be well rid of you decide to go elsewhere.

He lied.
You weren’t there.
You have no idea what her attitude towards him was like.
Or how he behaved towards her.

@drinkygin I’m not arrogant. I just think it’s unacceptable how someone providing a service thinks it’s ok to be rude for no reason. DS has every right to pause treatment if he feels he needs to think about getting his tooth extracted. Why should he just go ahead with it? It’s his body regardless of whether she’s an expert or not

@Wolfiefan well, will you take that approach every time somebody you know or are related to comes to you with a bad experience? Will you say I don’t believe you because I wasn’t there?

Reread your post. You frequently claim
How she spoke or behaved. But you don’t know. You haven’t seen any of it. You need to take a step back, encourage your son to be honest and take responsibility when he behaved badly.
You sound like one of those parents whose children can do no wrong and who approaches every situation as if it’s them and us.

@wolfiefan and have you never told a white lie in your lifetime? Of course you have, it’s human nature.

Don’t you think I already know my son is nowhere near perfect. I’m not here to say he is an angel because he is not. I’m saying I don’t think it is right for his orthodontist to behave in the way she did

@20viona ah that must be why I was going back and forward to the orthodontist for 13 years 😂

I was pregnant with my first child by the time I was finally finished with them!

You don’t know how she behaved or how he did either.
I can honestly say I’ve never lied to a medical professional who was just trying to care for me. That is wasting their time and may prevent them giving the best care.

@wolfiefan yeah and I’m sure DS would rather have told her the truth but her coldness and fear of her reaction put him off and prevented him from doing so

So he says.
Jeez. You both sound a delight.

Be honest, you wanted to come here and hear cries of “oh my goodness poor DS, horrible orthodontist, report her!” And you’ve had your arse handed to you.

I agree with you OP. Everyone tells lies, accept in MN 😂

People don't like children, especially teenagers on here though.

I am going to ask for this thread to be closed now as I’ve had enough responses now and the majority of you don’t agree with me which is fine as you’re entitled to your opinion, but it is getting too personal now and I didn’t create this thread for a personal slanging match

This is ridiculous and a prime example of a mum treating her son like a little prince who can do no wrong

. Stop babying him and tell him to let the professional get on with her job. Being second guessed by a snotty 18 year old and his mum (who wasn’t even there) is going to get her back up.

@iminaglasscaseofemotion oh I know. Thank you through

Wow the outrage at a teenager taking some enitiative and asking a question for himself, is hilarious. People love to get aggressive about absolutely fuck all.

You mean you don’t like that people have disagreed with you.

@wolfiefan no. I can tolerate somebody disagreeing with me. That’s life. I’m a nurse. People disagree and agree with me all the time. Doesn’t mean I take the huff every time something doesn’t go my way.

I didn’t create this for a reason for people to be nasty and slabber and tbh I can’t be bothered with it. I only wanted a civil discussion

Wow the outrage at a teenager taking some enitiative and asking a question for himself, is hilarious

That's the point. He didn't have the initiative to ask some questions to get the information that ultimately made him comfortable to undergo the recommended course of treatment. At 18, I'd hope my young adult would have. Actually, at 16, she does.

She also has grown out of telling lies (particularly with reference to medical treatment, albeit expensive medical treatment that is being funded by the tax payer) to try to avoid taking responsibility for damage caused by her error.

She also has the initiative to ask for one of her parents to go as a support person, and observer, if she feels she is being poorly treated by someone such as a health provider.

OP, if I were you, I'd get a wriggle on trying to promote some resilience in your 18 year old. As you'd know, some employers and co-workers can be less than kind, and respectful, particularly to the level that some 18 year olds seem to think is their due from everybody, and lying to avoid taking responsibility for the inevitable cock-ups someone new to the workforce makes, is never going to go well. Even if Mum said it was okay.

And I'm sure being a nurse op has to have a good bedside manner, no matter how shitty her patients are to her, and I would put good money on nurses getting it worse than orthodontists.
OP wouldn't get away with being sarcastic and rude to her patients, no matter how old they are.

Slabber? Eh?
I’m glad you’re able to tolerate people disagreeing with you.
You didn’t want a civil discussion. You’ve been far from civil at times.
I thought you were closing the thread?!

That's the point. He didn't have the initiative to ask some questions to get the information that ultimately made him comfortable to undergo the recommended course of treatment. At 18, I'd hope my young adult would have. Actually, at 16, she does.

Or perhaps the orthodontist should be able to give information about treatments in a way that makes a young adult (or any other patient) feel comfortable to go through with the treatment, instead of being a sarcastic dick, to someone who may already be a bit nervous about the procedures.