To think a colleague has no right to take something from your desk and throw it in the bin?

[WildflowerChild]

I’m not talking about food/drink.

Is it something to tell HR about? —Or would that be too outing because they’d recognise you?—

Definitely log it with 101 OP.

A baby picture of Balonz?

Tell HR on Monday along with the text as evidence. No, you're not unreasonable. You are however a Pom for keeping us all guessing.

I was going to suggest a meditation bowl you were prone to ringing when you got stressed but then I saw that bitch face ripped it up so now I'm thinking an army of origami platypus!

On the face of it , it seems a very odd thing to do but there must have been a reason they decided to do it?

So. If they texted you to say they had done it, they MUST have felt justified in doing so.
What was their reason?? Been there too long? Offensive? Not the place to display 'private' things??

Is it an invitation to the wedding of their ex and the OW? Who you are or you are friends/related to OW?

What did the text say?

Did they say why they did it?

It was something like a postcard, photograph etc ... something small and personal that was given to me

Lucky pants?

Lucky pants?

No she said small.
If it was small, inoffensive and meant something to you the they were wrong to bin it especially if they knew it had meaning to you.

You people have really weird ideas of things that are similar to a postcard or photo and can be ripped up 😂Bunch of loons!

Was it something making a political statement?

Steg
You’re right. Definitely was a birthday card with a picture of her dh holding Garda Olaf’s cucumber...

Are you one of these people that has any amount of crap on your desk, starting with the plant and moving on to family photos of three generations/cat/dog/hampster/homemade crap from the kids/grandkids/cutlery/entire china place setting/enough condiments to stock a ship.

If the answer is yes then they aren't and you are (BU)

Have not RTFT .
Will later.
Just got to clear a desk or two .

Voucher for spa day ?

You've given a key piece of 'outing' information, yet you won't say what the item was. The very fact that someone took it and deliberately ripped it up is probably more identifying than the offending object itself. Unless it was International Nick Something From Your Colleague's Desk and Destroy It Day.

Some hilarious suggestions here though. Almost worth the mystery.

Slightly off topic but someone near me lives in a second-floor flat with a balcony. On the balcony flies a US flag with a full technicolour image of Trump.
How can I destroy it?
I am not in the USA.

I have nothing funny to suggest but its freaking annoying you won't say what it is. We already know it has been ripped up and the person texted you to say they'd done it so not really outing yourself if you tell us what it is. A postcard of a bull fighter, I would have ripped that up?

Was a picture of Boris Johnson doing a get Brexit Done thumbs up gurn?
A white feather that you gave to people to scared to face the boss?
Your membership card for the Donald Trump fan club?

(Your colleague was wrong and it’s a matter for HR)

@newroundhere

This is going in Classics, right @mumsnetHQ ??

Oh god I hope not

OP, not one person on this thread can possibly give a true opinion of whether you or colleague were unreasonable ( unless said colleague is reading this). So...ask the colleague why they did it, ask other colleagues, as chances are they know what the item was, but don't waste time asking us unless you are willing to reveal what the item(RIP) was!

Signed photo from BJ .

Haha @ChazsBrilliantAttitude .