To want to spend my first mothers day just my husband and daughter?

[Pondlife87]

Question is in the title. Would it be acceptable to want to do this, or should I be spending it with Grandma's too?
I don't know what I want to do yet, just wondered what people thought about not inviting Grandmas)?

It is "just another day" in the calendar. What's more important is how you're treated the rest of the year.
Don't you think it would come across as a bit princessy, to suddenly abandon your own mother (and mil), just because you now have your own child? That might be you one day.

Well what would you usually do?

I am abandoning my child with my husband so I can go out with my mum aunties sister in laws and cousins 🎉🎉🎉

I have spent years stuck in cars on mothers day and I hate it.

Now I do one visit at the most. Given a choice, I don't travel at all but see my Mum and MIL close to the date.

I'd probably drop by in the morning if they're close by or send some flowers to DM and MIL.
What have you done previous years. I personally wouldn't mind if you were my DD but you know DM MIL we can't say how they'll react.

What would you have done previously?

Mother’s Day has never been a big thing for us anyway, infact this year I am giving my mum the pleasure of Ds company for the weekend while I go away

I think when you become a mum yourself you've earned the right to spend the day as you wish, especially that very first one. It's so special. Enjoy your first mother's day!

Do you mean your DM or GM? If the former, it depends if you have always seen her on the day in the past or just sent her a card/flowers etc. You becoming a mother doesn't stop her being your mother.

Wouldn't you drop a card round to your mum? It's her mother's Day too. Seems a bit sad.

I don’t think it’s unfair; they’ve had lots of mothers days so it’s ok to have this one about you

Personally I would love to spend the day with my mum as well, but we've always spent mothers day with all generations until my nan passed away. Would you mind if your daughter wanted to stop seeing you on mother's day when she has her own children?

What are you expecting? to be carried around on a feather mattress? it does sound a bit princessy.

I can’t imagine not wanting to spend Mothers’ Day with my mum but then I always saw it as her day not mine.

Seems a bit odd to me. Mother's Day for me is about my mum and treating her, it's not about me. DS is 6 so he cant exactly go out to the shops and get me anything at this age.

It is meant to be a day to appreciate your mother. When your daughter is old enough she can do the same for you

Do what you want to do. Mother's Day is another made-up day which I find a nuisance. I don't care whether ds gets me anything - it's not my birthday.

However, my mum does value it, I don't live close enough to see her for it, but I will send a present and card and we'll catch up with a meal out when we do see each other.

You aren’t the only mother in the situation so yes I do think you’re being unreasonable and a little dramatic too if I’m being honest.

Yeah sorry Mum but being that I'm a mum now too, I'm not arsed about Mother's Day. Although I do want everyone to celebrate me.

Your poor mum!

Not enough info really.

Does your husband have a mother?

If so, does he normally see her on Mother's day?

I have 4 children and the world's greatest Mum and MIL.

In our house my Mothers Day is the first couple of hours after waking up. Cards, daffodils clutched in tiny hands and breakfast cuddles.

Then my Mum and MIL come at lunchtime and we have dinner together and sometimes go out as a big group somewhere.

I can't ever imagine a Mothers Day without seeing my Mum and my Husbands mum.

I also can't imagine needing to be made a fuss off for the whole 16 hours of the day. Plenty of time to share the day with other Mums in the family.

Sorry to be morbid OP but chances are one day you won’t have a DM to celebrate with so make the most of what you have now..

Are you not w your dh and child every weekend? We do grandparents here.

I think it's okay to have a day for just you, your husband and daughter. I can't understand people saying it's unreasonable. I rarely see my mum on Mother's day but see her on Friday instead. It doesn't mean I don't appreciate or love her.