I have rosacea too and understand the feelings the OP has - it is a difficult, frustrating condition and truly affects self-esteem and often robs you from participating in activities for fear that you will flare up.
OP, what type of rosacea do you have? This is really key as the treatment for the two main types are different. Going to a dermatologist or even your GP for an assessment would be helpful. Type 1 rosacea is mainly redness, flushing and sometimes burning. Type 2 rosacea is redness and associated bumps. I have primarily Type 1 so mainly redness, flushing and burning from all sorts of triggers, which does impact on life. Soolantra is great for treating Type 2 rosacea but is much less successful for Type 1. OP, I thought I read that you are dealing mainly with redness and ocassional bumps - apologies if I read incorrectly as I am currently sitting with a fussy newborn that wants to be carried constantly. If so, then topical creams are not as effective; a good skincare routine and laser treatment to reduce the redness and broken capillaries are probably the best options.
Regarding your husband never seeing you without make up, I really feel for you OP and get where you are coming from. I am very self aware of my redness and hate when others see it, but my husband sees me without make up, and I am always make-up free when at home. I only developed rosacea at around 32, before that my skin was very good, having never suffered from teenage acne or scarring. I was already married when rosacea hit, so my husband witnessed my difficulty and angst in dealing with this skin condition. In all honesty, I am not sure if things would have been different in respect of my willingness to show my bare face at its worst to him if I had rosacea when we met. My husband always telIs me I am beautiful, even when my rosacea is flaring and I don't feel it. My skin is not at its best currently, I have been breaking out which may be more to do with to post-partum hormones and less to do with rosacea (who knows though) and he still tells me he loves my skin.
OP, I thought you had written that your husband doesn't know you have rosacea or a skin issue - but what happens when/if you flush? Does it not show through make up, even a bit? I know when I flush the redness shows through, even when I have make up.
Regarding sleeping with makeup, I know from experience that this is not good for your skin. Interestingly, I slept with make up for a few nights recently as my in-laws came to stay to visit the baby, and I was worried that they might see my rosacea flush as it tends to flush in the night / overnight. This wasn't good for my skin and may have contributed to clogging pores and causing the breakouts I am having currently.
OP, please talk to your husband about your condition and the difficulty you are experiencing. It might ease your need to wear make up constantly around him and free you to be yourself. Your husband may well (and should ) not care what your skin is like, except that it causes you pain. As previous posters have said, it must be so exhausting to constantly be wearing make up in your own home and to worry of your husband "catching" you bare faced. This is just adding to your stress, which in turn will affect your rosacea since it feeds off stress.
Btw, Facebook has good rosacea support groups if you are not a member already - search "rosacea" and join a few. They have useful information and it feels good to be in contact with other people who are going through similar issues.
All the best, OP.