Am I the only woman in the UK whose..

[LovelyIssues]

Husband has NEVER seen them completely without makeup. Been together 11 years..

Main reason why is I have roscea, acne scars, awful redness and uneven skin.. I hate it and try and hide it as much as possible so I can honestly say he's never without even a bit of foundation on

Sorry just realised my post probably sounded really shitty.

Just making the point that most people look better with makeup...if they didn't, no one would buy it! Doesn't mean you look awful without it though. And besides, loving someone is about far more than the superficial.

I think my problem is because I wore it constantly, it's more of a shock when you don't. So I used to wear make up to work every day, one day I didn't...I was asked throughout the day if I was ill! Whereas if I'd never worn it in the first place, then put some on, I'd have probably got compliments.

@formerbabe not shitty! Realistic. I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't look better with makeup

I understand and always had acne since a teenager though no idea about rosacea. I've seen dermatologists, had antibiotics, creams, acids, roaccutane, laser, microneedling, peels, supplements, diets.. to varying effects so I still get spots and have scars. It is very soul and esteem destroying.

I'm trying to reduce makeup but even in lockdown it's the first thing I do.
I remove in evening so DH is the person who would see me most without makeup. I dont even like the kids to see me without any foundation.

@HangryChip did you find anything that helped?

I'm making progress. Followed advice on here and going makeup free at night along with some recommended products and seeing results. Still no where near enough to go makeup free in public but I'm getting there

I can't imagine this. Not meant in a nasty way.

I feel so sorry for you OP. Hugs.

[quote LovelyIssues]@HangryChip did you find anything that helped?

I'm making progress. Followed advice on here and going makeup free at night along with some recommended products and seeing results. Still no where near enough to go makeup free in public but I'm getting there[/quote]
Sorry, should have read the full thread. Really glad to hear you're getting there.

I have redness and scarring from acne rosacea. If he truly has never seen your natural skin then he may well be shocked, but he can get used to it. Give him a chance. Give yourself acceptance that this is your body. Whatever your worst fear is, if he does it he's unlikely to be a kind thoughtful and loving partner.

I have rosacea too, it sucks. Azelaic acid is proven to be effective on it, its one of tge only things that is!

FWIW I do often wear makeup in public. When I don't and I then bump into people I know they always comment "you look hot" or "careful you don't get too much sun". I just shrug it off. I don't bother explaining. This is my skin.

Yes you may be the one OP , but I assume you have serious self esteem issues .Don't do this to yourself .Be Kind to yourself .There are people out there who have major issues but still accept themselves.Just put off your makeup one day and be yourself.

Surely you need to let your skin breath and recover from years of makeup build up.

I’ve never cared about my DH or anyone seeing me without makeup, but
I’ve never been a big makeup person, I’m bloody lazy and never been the best at cleaning and taking care of my skin until recent years though and it makes a huge difference finding what’s right for your skin.

I’ve heard of women who won’t let their partners see them but never actually met anyone. It must be so hard on you to feel you have to constantly cover up your real face. Any man who would have issue with his wife being makeup free isn’t worth being married to, give your husband a chance. Have you spoken to him?

I have acne, scars and am now old enough to be developing wrinkles. It's fucking brilliant

I never wear make up at home because my skin needs time to do it's thing. Make up makes all of these problems worse.

I feel sad for you

God no. Thats depressing. I'm just me. Warts and all

www.boots.com/boots-pharmaceuticals-calamine-lotion-b-p-200ml-10113025

When I was a teenager and had acne the dermatologist recommended this and it definitely calmed the redness and inflammation, so worth a try. Cheap too.

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When you say you've never seen a woman who didn't look better with makeup on, I think you need to examine that a bit.

What do you mean by 'better'? I'm assuming you mean prettier, more physically attractive, something along those lines. It's interesting that that is analogous with 'looking better' in your eyes. There are certainly times when wanting your appearance to be a certain way is important, but would you really say that a woman who has to remain rigid in the pool looks better than her no-makeup counterpart who is splashing and laughing? Or the woman showering with her husband? Or the one playing sport not worrying about her sweaty face making the makeup run? I do get what you mean but I think it's also unusual to think that the inhibited 'prettier' version of a person always looks better.

It's like you've taken just one desirable attribute and made it the absolute top priority at all times due to understandable insecurities, but nobody around you will be doing that along with you. Others won't notice your skin to the extent that you notice theirs because you've become hyper-observant to skin over the years of struggling with this.

The thing with rosacea is that what works for one person might not work for someone else. I think it's worth continuing to try different options though, because if you can find something that works for you, it can really change your life. And wearing makeup 24/7 and never letting your own husband see you without it sounds really draining.

I tried azelaic acid after someone told me it was like a miracle cure, and it didn't do anything for me. Made zero difference. Then after a few other things, I found metronidazole gel, which is a very mild antibiotic gel, and it was like my miracle cure tbh.

So yeah, I'd keep talking to dermatologists and trying treatments.

My partner has always said he prefers me without makeup. I used to wear it every day (although took it off at night as I feel leaving it on is unhygenic). I now wear it when I feel like it and if I'm happy then fuck everyone else.

I have had comments previously such as "you don't look well are you ill?" To which I reply "nope, just ugly" so they realise what they've said is rude. It has been exclusively women who wear very heavy make up who have said this to me so I let it go over my head. If they have issues that's their problem, it doesn't mean they get to put me down.

I mostly don't bother as it irritates my eczema

I can’t stop worrying about my 19 year old son’s attitude to studying. He scraped through college and was asked to leave an apprenticeship as he was too laid back and was late to work.
He got to uni via clearing and just passed his first year. He’s now leaving everything until the last minute in his second year!! I feel anxious all the time that he’ll be asked to leave his course. When I try to talk to him about my worries, he makes out I’m the one with issues. He’s a nice lad, but how can I stop feeling so stressed about it all?

@Lizzbear
Please create a separate thread for this rather than derail an existing one.

Think you got mixed up there Lizzbear try posting your own thread