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Wine every Evening?

179 replies

Busymum45 · 04/03/2020 21:21

I love a glass of wine most nights, normally one or two but more at weekends, is this ok or a bad sign ?! Try to have one or 2 wine free nights. I associate it with wind down and relaxation as have a busy life.

Is it unreasonable to want to drink wine every eve?

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Busymum45 · 04/03/2020 21:32

P.s I have teens and very busy work life too plus an ill husband, I'm the glue that holds us all together

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Noodles4Me · 04/03/2020 21:33

This is MN. Even looking at wine is bad. Shame on you

Strawberrypancakes · 04/03/2020 21:34

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Chinnychinnychinnychib · 04/03/2020 21:35

DH and I just caned the best part of 1.5 bottles and shagged in the sitting room. I feel no guilt or concerns?!

Morgan12 · 04/03/2020 21:36

I don't see it as a big deal tbh.

You will get replies saying you are an alcoholic though knowing this place. Probably from the people who wind down with a chocolate bar every night.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 04/03/2020 21:36

Honestly no, I don't think it's normal to drink wine every night. I like a drink but I limit it to Friday and Saturday nights.

It's the associating with relaxing that's an issue. Is there anything else you can use in place of wine as a way to relax - a long soak in the bath for instance?

If you're going over your recommended units it's not healthy.

swishthecat · 04/03/2020 21:38

I think the advice is to have three consequent alcohol free nights a week. I do this (most weeks). I love wine, and probably drink too much of it.

ParkheadParadise · 04/03/2020 21:38

We always have a drink at night.
DH sometimes has wine or whisky I have wine or brandy.

millymollymoomoo · 04/03/2020 21:39

Well it’s certainly over the recommended unit amount
Is there anything rose you can do to wind down/relax and maybe keep the wine to the weekends ?
Btw I like a drink too and could easily drink a glass or two every day but try to restrict it as it’s not good for me

newyorkbreakfast · 04/03/2020 21:39

I guess the question to ask yourself is: would you miss it unbearably if you didn't have it every night... as in, withdrawal symptoms? I think for so many people it's a pleasant habit. In from work, open the fridge, a cool crisp glass of white wine... If it's not having a negative effect on you the next day (sleep, work, mood) and I guess if you're not going over the recommended limit, then what harm is it?
The worry would be if you increased your drinking and couldn't go without... But you say you have a couple of nights off so you sound fairly in control.
What prompted you to ask? Guilt?! Or did someone comment?

swishthecat · 04/03/2020 21:40

Chinnychinnychinnychib you know how to have a good Wednesday night!

Absolutepowercorrupts · 04/03/2020 21:45

That's totally shocking and disgraceful, you are not the glue that hold your family together. You must be on glue to think that your excessive consumption is in any way, shape, or form normal.
Sarcasm is very difficult to convey in the written word.🤣
Crack on and enjoy. Enjoy the rest of the comments with a mahoosive glass of wine. Go for it.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 04/03/2020 21:45

I have a (small) glass of wine with dinner on "school" nights, then probably a few more at the weekend. I know that on MN one should only ever have a small sherry at Christmas and possibly half a glass of prosecco at one's own wedding (and even then this amount of alcohol should be consumed with care lest one becomes reliant on that one annual unit) but in the general scheme of things I can't really give a toss. If my drinking was creeping up then yes, there'd be a problem but it isn't so...

chipsandgin · 04/03/2020 21:45

I read that as a question & the answer is ‘yes please, don’t mind if I do! Fuck it, life is short, enjoy it (& I imagine it feels a lot longer if you are entirely sober the whole time..).

You will, of course get the ‘anything more than a thimble of sherry at Christmas makes you an alcoholic’ types on here. Fair enough, probably the best life choice, but personally I enjoy it, it makes me happy, it takes the edge off. If I felt it was out of control or it was causing problems in my life I’d knock it on the head.

I had a high level corporate job in my 20’s, lots of socialising & a Doctor once told me that two alcohol free days were a good idea & I’ve always stuck with that - obviously didn’t drink whilst pregnant or breastfeeding (which totals 6 years for two kids in the last 16 years).

I love a wine or two & I’m fine with it, if you aren’t then cut down or cut it out, if you are then cheers 🥂!!

swishthecat · 04/03/2020 21:47

I want a glass of wine now. Damn you OP!

datasgingercatspot · 04/03/2020 21:49

I don't like the taste of it enough to have it every night but I've got friends who have a small glass every night.

ViserionTheDragon · 04/03/2020 21:49

I really sympathize with your situation but it does sound like a lot. Could you stretch to three wine free nights a week? Is there something equally therapeutic you could try instead?

Teacaketotty · 04/03/2020 21:50

DH and I just caned the best part of 1.5 bottles and shagged in the sitting room. I feel no guilt or concerns?!

This is how life should be lived!

Samtsirch · 04/03/2020 21:52

Whatever advice is given I would say you need to find out what is right for you ie, stop drinking alcohol for a month, see if you feel better and have more energy, or whether you feel more stressed and worse without your evening glass of wine.
Then do what feels like the best thing for you.

Darbs76 · 04/03/2020 21:54

I used to drink most nights - before I developed a serious health problem (not related but alcohol would have made it worse plus I’m on very strong pain relief). At first I was gutted to quit. But within a couple of months I knew that quitting drinking was a good move. I used alcohol to relax, when feeling worried etc, and it just made it all worse, not better.

I think it’s it’s 1 or 2 that’s ok, but how many more is on a weekend? If that’s 1 bottle a weekend night or more than yes it’s unreasonable and you need to cut down or quit. Your choice of course

WalkingDeadTrainee · 04/03/2020 21:54

If you have to ask, you have a problem.

And that comes from someone who can do 2 bottles easy in one night...

Iamtooknackeredtorun · 04/03/2020 21:57

MN always seems very out of step on this subject.

OP may I ask how old you are? I used to have a drink most nights when I was younger. Say late 20s to late 30s. Never had a hangover and no regrets. I can’t do that now as I approach 50. It makes me tired and I get a headache the next day. I tend to have 4-5 booze free nights a week. I do still enjoy a drink but prefer to have it less often now .

Hirsutefirs · 04/03/2020 21:57

I’m having gin & orange.

So there’s still someone worse than you.

VivaDixie · 04/03/2020 21:58

I am literally nailing 3/4 of a bottle of sauv blanc as I type so I am definitely not one to judge. Seriously, crack on and enjoy. Smile

Loveatortie · 04/03/2020 21:58

If you are happy,healthy and it helps you unwind from a hectic day. why not enjoy a glass of wine in the evening, cheers Wine