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Wine every Evening?

179 replies

Busymum45 · 04/03/2020 21:21

I love a glass of wine most nights, normally one or two but more at weekends, is this ok or a bad sign ?! Try to have one or 2 wine free nights. I associate it with wind down and relaxation as have a busy life.

Is it unreasonable to want to drink wine every eve?

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DirtyRotter · 04/03/2020 22:26

@chomalungma

That’s dead on 14 units a week, which is what the NHS recommends.

14 units a week should not kill the average person.

It looks like the mumsnet temperance movement has arrived 😂.

Youngatheart00 · 04/03/2020 22:27

I could quite easily drink every night but I notice the slow down in my energy levels if I do. For medical reasons I haven’t been drinking much recently, with all the drugs I’ve been on I haven’t seen the benefits of being alcohol free, but I am craving a glass of wine now. When I do start drinking again I’m going to aim for 3 alcohol free nights a week and no crazy evenings - I can’t hack the hangovers any more.

Gwenhwyfar · 04/03/2020 22:28

"Well it’s certainly over the recommended unit amount "

Is it? She didn't specify small or large glass, but if small she could be under the 14 units. The recommendations do include some drink free nights though.

Gwenhwyfar · 04/03/2020 22:30

"I am acutely aware that the desire/need for 2 glasses to "unwind" then becomes a minimum of 3 glasses, then a bottle. Not necessarily in an obvious way, it won't be fast it will be slow and steady. "

Proof of this? Not everyone is like your relative?

SmudgeButt · 04/03/2020 22:31

Wine is the product of the demon Satan.

I suggest you go straight for the brandy. In pint glasses. Like I do.

Northernsoullover · 04/03/2020 22:32

I think its too much. I don't think you necessarily have a physical dependency but definitely a psychological one.
A good book to read is Drink? by Professor David Nutt. No hysteria, just facts. Its up to you at the end of the day.

Atalune · 04/03/2020 22:32

14 units won’t kill you. But it’s not doing you any favours either is it?

Drink if you like, enjoy it. But don’t pretend it’s good for your health.

Flixsfoilball · 04/03/2020 22:34

DH and I just caned the best part of 1.5 bottles and shagged in the sitting room. I feel no guilt or concerns?!

Love it 😃

Doggybiccys · 04/03/2020 22:35

I think most people probably drink too much if they go on “official guidance”. I read something recently which said if alcohol was regulated the same as food the safe level would be one drink a year!!

But seriously - who wants to live to be 144?? If you are enjoying it and not causing problems, enjoy it knowing Coronavirus or some other antibiotic resistant bug is going to wipe us out anyway!

And well done to the stagger on a school night!!

Doggybiccys · 04/03/2020 22:36

Shagger not stagger - or maybe both Grin

sassafras123 · 04/03/2020 22:38

Drink wine every night look forward to it at the end of the day .Sitting outside watching the sunset relaxing.

DirtyRotter · 04/03/2020 22:38

Doesn’t alcohol kill coronavirus?

DirtyRotter · 04/03/2020 22:39

Time to open the gin 😀.

Sakura7 · 04/03/2020 22:42

The concern about drinking every night is that you can become reliant on it. If you can even give yourself two nights off per week it would be better for your health. I agree with PPs that finding other ways to unwind on those nights would be a good idea.

I get it, I love wine myself, but I try to limit it to weekends as I really notice the difference when I do this.

Original poster
Busymum45 · 04/03/2020 22:43

Thanks , had a few tough times recently and helps me cope, not ideal. Had an over 40 health check and was apparently in perfect health (45).

I didn't have anything last night but succumbed to a glass in the bath tonight. Going to try hard to not have anything tomorrow evening

Feel shattered day in day out anyway so what the fuck.

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Youngatheart00 · 04/03/2020 22:45

I honestly think a lot depends on age too. In my 20s I barely got a hangover but likely drink alcohol more habitually and increasingly throughout my 30s. However now in my late 30s I’m a lot more aware (and sometimes respectful) of my body and mind and what affects it adversely. I suppose I do consider the consequences more than when I was younger, plus my body is nowhere near efficient at processing it!

morriseysquif · 04/03/2020 22:48

YANBU But try to have one night on, one night off?

MintyMabel · 04/03/2020 22:49

Not a problem to want it. It is a problem to need it.

morriseysquif · 04/03/2020 22:50

@DirtyRotter

Yes, you just notice the fever......

Anychance123 · 04/03/2020 22:51

I have a glass every night, maybe more on weekends. After chasing my toddler around all day and clearing up I look forward to it. My best friend is drinking 2 bottles a night and it crept up on her so I’m aware everyone is different but it’s my relaxation and a bottle of wine lasts me a few days but I love it.

DirtyRotter · 04/03/2020 22:52

Could you have a chamomile tea in the bath instead? It has something in it that helps you sleep.

Joking aside, there is a risk that you could gradually start drinking more, so gradually that you don’t realise it and it could end up being a problem. You may not, one glass a night may always be enough for you.

Original poster
Busymum45 · 04/03/2020 22:53

I will try 2 nights off a WK, tonight I had one glass don't feel urge to have more. Just the one did the trick !

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RaisinsRuinEverything · 04/03/2020 22:53

I am acutely aware that the desire/need for 2 glasses to "unwind" then becomes a minimum of 3 glasses, then a bottle. Not necessarily in an obvious way, it won't be fast it will be slow and steady.
This.

DirtyRotter · 04/03/2020 22:54

@morriseysquif

I’ve just noticed we’re missing the fever...

Best get to Tesco tomorrow and stock up before the shelves empty.

Triggahippy · 04/03/2020 22:55

Mumsnet is strange when it comes to alcohol. There are the militants who think a glass of wine an evening makes you a drunk and then the others who regularly drunk too much and are boastful about how ‘fun’ they are.
If alcohol is affecting your health or relationships it’s a problem. If not, know your limits and enjoy