Would you find it rude if

[Singlebutmarried]

Your child received a party invite saying if you would like to give a gift x is saving for a large present so a contribution towards large present would be appreciated.

I’m looking at putting this in DDs invites later this year and wondering about the wording.

I wouldn’t mind personally being asked for cash towards something.

I think children's party invitations should specifically ask for no gifts and also state there will be no party bags. The children can still enjoy the party but why buy more crap and give more crap away?

I personally wouldn't ask. When people do ask, I think you look tight if you put less than 20 quid in a card, and having to do so instead of buying a nice present which costs less is a little annoying

No one I know would put £20 in a primary school child's card unless they were family! I would say something like: we really don't expect gifts. Your presence at the party is more than enough. If you do wish to give something DD is saving for a Nintendo and would welcome a couple of pounds towards it.

Not if you say what it is in the invite. We did this for the twins' 8th birthday when we were about to go abroad for an exchange year. We said we were buying Knex and the present money bought masses. It came as hand luggage in its own plastic case and was invaluable in airport departure areas!

My DC are going to a party at the weekend where I am planning on putting £20 in the card, but the birthday child’s parents are close family friends, and all of our DC are invited.

I wouldn’t feel obliged to put £20 in a card for a child we didn’t know well.

I would find it rude, asking for gifts is rude in general imho but it could be a generation thing. I notice people do it more often now.

Ds birthday is in December it’s a bloody nightmare when he has a class party and 30 presents of which he will barely use any of them. Last year quite a lot of children gave him money which was great but I would never of thought to ask people to do that

I'm not sure why there is this belief that it's rude to acknowledge that lots of people will bring presents to a party? A message that says 'If you were thinking of bringing a present, this would be welcomed' isn't assuming or requesting presents, just acknowledging that some people will want to bring something and steering them towards a preferred option.

I think asking for anything be it money or presents is incredibly rude