To suggest I'd rather he didn't shower

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And blow dry his hair at 4.30am pre leaving for his flight. This is my DH leaving for a ski trip in the morning and he feels he cannot possibly get up and just sneak out whereas I know that him doing his full morning routine at that time will wake the baby and I could really do without that given i'm going to be here managing 3 children on my own for the next 4 days. I feel it's a small give on his part for family harmony whereas he cannot fathom the idea of leaving without a shower and has suggested the only alternative is him leaving tonight and staying in a hotel so he can have the shower without disturbing anyone. Who is being unreasonable?

Blowdry his hair? Melania hun just LISTEN to us and LTB.

Brilliant

The NEED to wash and blow dry his short hair at 4.30am. Obsessive. Does he have other very rigid and inflexible routines that he must perform?

I do know, I have a colleague who showers every other day and tries to persuade others to do the same. She stinks.

I go to the gym with my boyfriend on a Friday morning, he doesn’t shower before he goes, he stinks!

Yep that's pretty selfish of him.

I'm going to stick my head above the parapet and say that I think you are being a teeny bit unreasonable here.

I would feel really lousy heading off on holiday having not been able to shower directly prior, I'd be extremely conscious of it, and really it would spoil the whole flight etc for me.

I understand it's difficult when baby wakes, but, it is only 4 days and I promise you will manage. I say that as someone whose husbands work took him away for months on end, and thought she never would, but did..you find a way. Oh, and he always showered just before he left.

2h flight to a holiday and he has to wake a baby at 4.30am to do it? What an utter knob.

What the F is he doing going on holiday and leaving you with 3 kids anyway?

When's your child free holiday coming? I'm guessing he's the big earner and you're his maid SAHM...

Why does he need to blow dry his hair if he is shoving it in a helmet as soon as he gets there?

He is being unreasonable, I’ve been on early morning flights to ski trips and showering the night before and rolling out of bed to a packed car is no issue.

By the time he gets there with the transfer he will be lucky to get a couple of hours skiing, then he will be sweaty and back to his room for a shower and some apres. As previous people have said, his hair will look a dog when he’s finished anyway so his disturbance is pointless and selfish.

He’s taking the piste!

I couldn't go out without washing my hair and at least a good wash but I think in these circumstances I'd do it at the kitchen sink. The hairdryer definitely be downstairs.

The 4:30 am start is likely to disturb you anyway so perhaps the hotel is a sensible idea.

I think you would be U to prevent him from showering, especially right now when cleanliness is more important than usual, particularly when travelling

Huh? Having a shower immediately before travelling as opposed to, say, 6 hours before will make precisely zero difference to whether OP's husband either catches Coronavirus or transmits it. And if he were at any risk of transmitting it he wouldn't be allowed to travel anyway.

Could he have a bath instead? Much quieter than a shower. A shallow bath wouldn't take long to run and he can wash his hair by dunking it in the bathwater.

Going out without showering is disgusting, why should anyone have to sit next to someone on the aeroplane who hasn’t showered

In this case, OP's husband would have showered at around 10 pm rather than 4.30 am. He could also have washed under his arms and around his bits at 4.30.

Do you ever travel on public transport? In the evenings in particular you will constantly be sitting next to people who haven't showered for several hours. Presumably you've survived that?

Your DH is a dick. HTH

And no - you are very much not being unreasonable.

Do men blow dry their hair? (In my defense I've not had a man with hair for yonks and when I did they were scruffy bastards who thought hairdryers were tools of capitalism.)

He’s a selfish prat! He can shower last thing at night. And why does he have to blow dry his bloody hair?

If he refuses, I’d let him book a hotel. At least you’ll have an undisturbed night’s sleep.

So how noisy was luscious locks this morning?

He sounds like an absolute fanny

I thought only Richard Madeley used a hair dryer.

This thread is a revelation. I’m feeling the need to do a poll amongst friends husbands to see if any of them blow dry their hair. I think the answer will be no.

@Whatifitallgoesright How else are people meant to dry their hair unless it’s super short?

I showered at 4:30 just last week for a flight so I am with your DH I’m afraid.

However, he night before I took all my clothes and the hairdryer downstairs and dressed / dried down there so I think / hope I did not disturb anyone.

I wont leave the house without a shower. even if I had one at night I still need to shower. I'm with your dh.

So if he has a shower before he goes to bed that would probably be 6 hours before he gets up.

We don’t expect people to have showers every 6 hours during the day.

Who cares if it's reasonable or not? He's going skiing while you mind the kids! He can bloody well do whatever random thing you ask before he leaves. And with a grateful attitude! Jeez.