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To think the vet/RSPCA are BU and what do i do now?

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Chaosdragon · 02/03/2020 13:31

Saturday afternoon person knocks on the door to say that they have seen my cat staggering into the back garden and they think its been hit by a car as its dragging its legs. Me and DSs go and hunt for the cat which we find but it turns out not to be ours. Its quite clearly got cat flu or the like as has green snot running out of its eyes and its nose is completely caked over. It also doesn't seem able to stand.

I ring the vets to say can I take it in to be told they don't have a stray cat account and so to ring the RSPCA to get a log number so they can see it and the RSPCA will pay for it. Done and we take the cat in.

The good news is that theres nothing wrong with its back end, it seems to be staggering because its got an ear infection as well as the cat flu. Vet can't keep cat in surgery because there is noone there on the Sunday, so its agreed it will come home with me until Monday and I am given some medication to give it Sun night / monday morning.

Its the cutest little thing and mega friendly but its not eating or drinking and I ring the emergency vet sunday night to ask advice as medication is to be given on a full stomach. They say not to give one lot of the medication and ring my surgery first thing Monday as originally planned.

I ring my vet this morning and am basically told there is nothing they are willing can do. They can't have it at the surgery as they have healthy cats in and no isolation room. They won't see it or give it any more treatment as the cover vet on Saturday did a lot and bill is already £150 and she has only ever known RSPCA to pay up to £80 so they already won't get paid whole amount so cant do more. She knows local cat charities are full and it will be difficult for any of them to take cat it. Suggests I ring RSPCA

I ring RSPCA and am basically told to release the cat back where I found it as emergency treatment has been completed. I point out this likely means the cat will die and am basically politely told tough crap. After falling out with the call handler, it has been agreed that she will pass a message onto someone higher up the chain and see if there is anything else that can be done but am told that the policy with strays is emergency treatment only and then release.

AIBU to think both the vet and the RSPCA are utter jerks and what can I do with it now. I don't really have the funds for any expensive treatment for her, but I could pay to have her PTS rather than leave her to a long lingering death outside but that just seems grim.

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Ireallymustgotobed · 04/03/2020 00:25

Just read the whole thread hoping for good news, so sad to see she didn’t make it, you must be devastated. You did such a kind thing caring for her, at least she had love and kindness in her last day or two. Really shocked the RSPCA told you to put her outside to suffer.

HedghogDrama · 04/03/2020 00:30

Oh that's so so sad. You were so kind to look after her and give her the best few days of her life. Thank you for doing that.

LaLaLandIsNoFun · 04/03/2020 00:32

She had warmth and live for her last day or so which is far far better that dying cold, alone, and out in the elements.

I am sorry, but you have her the very best she could have wished for x

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 04/03/2020 00:48

So sad to read this.thank you for being kind to her. Wee baba.

2020nymph · 04/03/2020 00:59

Oh no, sorry to hear that @Chaosdragon you did an amazing job and at least her last couple of days were full of love.

Run free little kitkat.

Somanysocks · 04/03/2020 01:15

Oh that's so sad. But you made sure she was cared for to the end.

Lynda07 · 04/03/2020 01:24
Flowers You did well, op.
FiveShelties · 04/03/2020 01:34

I am so sorry. You were so kind to take such good care of her.

Flowers for you @Chaosdragon

caringcarer · 04/03/2020 01:56

If cat is friendly it won't be a stray. Could you try feeding the little cat tuna. If it can't smell as blocked nose tuna has strong smell. If I found it I would keep it in warm and syringe tepid cat milk into it every 3-4 hours. Put it in a basket with blankets and continue with meds. I have 6 cats so 1 more would make little difference if I could get it well. I would isolate from my cats though until it was well. Don't PTS or through it out. It could be a loving little companion it you could get it to feed. If you keep it get a cat vaccine each year for it to prevent cat flu and other infections.

alexdgr8 · 04/03/2020 03:00

thank you for all your kind care.
thank you for trying.
that's why she came to your garden. to be with gentle people at the end.

Doggyperson · 04/03/2020 06:26

I'm so sad to read this. She was very lucky to have you in her last few days.
Lovely thing to do OP. I could cry.

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/03/2020 06:34

I’m so sorry, that poor girl. You did provide warmth & love to her though when no one else cared.

Russellbrandshair · 04/03/2020 06:34

I’m sorry OP but you did a beautiful thing and she had peace and comfort and love in her last days. Maybe you were meant to be her guardian for the remainder of her short life. RIP kitkat ❤️

stayathomer · 04/03/2020 06:37

As everyone said, you did amazing for her OP, she at least went with someone caring for herFlowers

Fluffybutter · 04/03/2020 07:00

Heartbroken for you .
You did an amazing thing though and she had warmth and love all thanks to you .
Run free little Kitkat Flowers

countrygirl99 · 04/03/2020 07:11

caringcarer read the whole thread

Booboostwo · 04/03/2020 07:34

I am so sorry. You did your best for her and she had a warm and loving home for her final days.

HappyHoppyHippo · 04/03/2020 07:48

This is so sad, poor kitkat. So lucky that the DCat found you, you should be proud of yourself. You did everything you could Flowers

Flutteringsatlast · 04/03/2020 07:57

So sorry op. She knew love... If you hadn't taken her in she would have died alone.

Meadowland · 04/03/2020 08:01

@chaosdragon. You are an amazing person to have given her such love in her last days.
Imagine her pain if you had left her as the RSPCA suggested.
They should hang their heads in shame...

ellendegeneres · 04/03/2020 08:05

@Chaosdragon thank you for giving Kitkat love and kindness in the last few days. You did all you could and she knows she was loved and cared for in her last days.

Fly high Kitkat, I hope my precious cat is meeting you over the rainbow bridge.

This thread has proper got me, now I have to do the school run with tears

thesunwillout · 04/03/2020 08:50

Op, thankyou for giving her all that care and love.
It's very hard but in a way I'm glad she found you.
XXX take care of yourself

CatChant · 04/03/2020 09:53

I am so sorry, but so very glad she had kindness, warmth and food in her last days. You were wonderful to her Chaosdragon

cupoftea84 · 04/03/2020 10:01

Another here that refuses to donate to the RSPCA after experiences like this. Ironically they prosecute people for not looking after their pets but also suggest to other people they do the same thing to vulnerable animals. Happy to pay the legal fees to prosecute people (often vulnerable people that could have sorted things with some help) not so happy to actually help dying animals. Very bazar.

SirVixofVixHall · 04/03/2020 10:07

Oh I am so sorry OP. Poor little cat. At least she had some love and warmth and wasn’t outside in the cold. 😢😢😢