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How much do you charge your partner rent?

161 replies

Anyonewannawoo · 02/03/2020 10:33

My partner has just moved in and I’m wondering what I should be charging for board.

I only probably spend £300 on household bills plus with him and my nephew living here about that on food.

My nephew pays £200 but he’s also extremely helpful around the house and spends the weekend doing the garden. He’s only here until he gets back on his feet and it will be sad to see him go. I’m happy with this arrangement.

I’m not sure how much I should charge my partner. I’m not sure if I should only charge him 1/3 of the bills/food, or if I should charge a bit extra to cover any unexpected costs I.e. broken boiler, or if I should charge him what 1/3 of the mortgage would cost as there’s very few men in their early thirties only paying a couple of hundred quid to live.

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 03/03/2020 14:09

So you want him to pay some of your mortgage? No, she has no mortgage!

But her sister may want some rent off him....

billy1966 · 03/03/2020 14:12

Dear God OP, are you so desperate for him that you would actually consider marrying someone so mean.

He's showing you exactly who he is.

I bet his parents are thrilled he's gone from them.

I wonder what attracted him first, to the woman who had inherited a nice houseHmm.

Meanness goes to the very core of who someone is.
It affects everything they do because they are primarily concerned with getting one over financially, with everyone they come across.
Be it buying their round, paying their way, using up other people's food in a house share.
They have no decency nor self respect.

It is absolutely impossible to have a happy, healthy relationship with a mean person.

Their obsession with money comes ahead of everything.

But by all means aim as low as you possibly can, and marry someone like this.

That you are thinking you need a pre-nup, and he is in a month, is hilarious, if it wasn't so sad OP.

Spend some time reading some of the threads on here, of the absolutely miserable lives women lead, trying to raise children with mean men.

Good luck OP, you are going to need it.Flowers

datasgingercatspot · 03/03/2020 14:19

You do not own the house in its entirety. This freeloader could potentially really fuck you and your sister legally.

Lippy1234 · 03/03/2020 15:26

How so?

JKScot4 · 03/03/2020 15:30

I actually gasped reading his offer of £200 when you asked for £300!!
£3k income and thinks he should pay £50pw, minimum £500 or he can fuck off back to mummy.

aibutohavethisusername · 03/03/2020 16:59

My OH gives me £500 which is half the bills and food costs.

flirtygirl · 03/03/2020 18:53

Op you have been silent. The advance searches mentioned up thread show that you know what he is about but are going down this path regardless. You let him move in after your other threads, why?

You may as well just give him half your house now and be done with it, as it looks like you will sleepwalk into some such situation and then be bullied to give him more than you should.

Sleepwalk in this situation = willingly walk headfirst.

JKScot4 · 03/03/2020 20:38

@flirtygirl
None of it makes sense, the DP was unemployed with all sorts of debts mid january and now he’s got £3k pm disposable income? Also mid jan they had moved to a new area yet live in an inherited house??
Methinks I smell BS 💩💩

userxx · 03/03/2020 22:01

@JKScot4 Oh, ok. That's a bit odd 🤷‍♂️

Friendsofmine · 03/03/2020 22:55

I think the OP has sensibly changed some details to not build up an identifiable online profile should someone look through all their previous posts that's all.

Scrumbleton · 04/03/2020 18:42

£600 - this covers food/drinks council tax, utilities, car (new Range Rover) , household decoration/renovation repairs, weekly cleaner, health and dental insurance. Negotiated in advance of him moving in. Costs me more. But I earn more.

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