How much do you charge your partner rent?

[Anyonewannawoo]

My partner has just moved in and I’m wondering what I should be charging for board.

I only probably spend £300 on household bills plus with him and my nephew living here about that on food.

My nephew pays £200 but he’s also extremely helpful around the house and spends the weekend doing the garden. He’s only here until he gets back on his feet and it will be sad to see him go. I’m happy with this arrangement.

I’m not sure how much I should charge my partner. I’m not sure if I should only charge him 1/3 of the bills/food, or if I should charge a bit extra to cover any unexpected costs I.e. broken boiler, or if I should charge him what 1/3 of the mortgage would cost as there’s very few men in their early thirties only paying a couple of hundred quid to live.

Oh dear, just read the previous threads that a PP referred to.

You went into this with eyes wide open.

You'll never get rid of this leech now.

Council tax water gas electric phone TV broadband 300 seems a bargain

Here's mine in s three bed terrace:

£100 CT (would be higher if I didn't live alone)
£75 gas and electric
£12 TV licence (no subscription TV)
£23 water
£8 internet (phone paid annually, probably adds £10)

What have I missed? Insurance is about £200pa

So £300 seems plausible to me.

Sounds like a real catch.
Hasn't got savings on 3k a month despite paying a paltry amount when living at home.
Had to borrow cash.
Various debts.

I can picture your future.
Single parent, who has had to sell the inherited house to pay the ex-spouse, and pissing off your sister in the process. Any money left you will spend in court as they take you there for little contact niggles, all while avoiding paying support for the children. Assuming the house hasn't already been repossessed to pay off their debts.

This type is great for a bit of short term fun assuming they are good in the sack.

He's a cocklodger, seriously op get rid of him now, he's not going to make you happy with that attitude to money.

£200 is an insult. This is not a partnership to him, this is an opportunity to freeload off a financially savvy woman (you) who's got herself sorted in life, whereas he... Well he spends £3k a month on treating himself with nothing to show for it despite him living with his parents.

He sounds utterly dreadful.

VanGoghsDog, the OPs £300 included food and cleaning products etc.
Your gas and electricity is very low and you could add £60 for sky.

He should be going half on the lawn mower.

My Council tax alone is over 140 with a discount.
Internet is 20+
Water is also 30+
Heating can cost a lot depending on windows etc.

I’m sorting it out with my partner tonight, I’m going to create a very detailed spreadsheet with every bill down to Netflix and he can pay 1/3, then in a few months when my nephew moves out 1/2.

Why are you so desperate to live with this spendthrift loser that you're there playing Mummy tabulating everything up? He's already haggled you down and didn't want to pay a bean. He blows everything on himself.

And why do you think it's fair to have him couched in there not paying rent to your sister? She's part owner even if it's 10%.

Why are you so eager to be 50/50 like a flatmate. He's not your nephew, your nephew is your sister's nephew, too, and family; your boyfriend is some random to her.

get rid of him OP - huge red flags all over this!

even 300 quid is a piss take, cant believe he tried to negotiate to 200! tell him £500 a month - watch him run!

VanGoghsDog, the OPs £300 included food and cleaning products etc.
Your gas and electricity is very low and you could add £60 for sky.

Well, the post I was responding to, which I quoted, said £300 was too little for those bills, so I showed how it might not be.

The gas and electric seems normal to me, never paid much more.

I could add £60 for Sky, but since I don't want it that would be pointless.

In Australia he'd have a claim on your house if you split...the defacto rule makes it so.

I would charge him half OP....

Anyway, charging your partner rent makes you his landlady, not equal partner. Just ditch him now before things get worse.

We will share proportional to income after maintenance (him) including maintenance (me). Plan is to pay into a bank account then bills come from there once we buy a house though.

Oh dear

Making the person you call your partner pay you rent when you don't have a mortgage to pay is treating him like a customer who pays for a service. I find this incredibly disrepectful.

I think it's an excellent way to find out who's a freeloader or a genuine person who has some pride and actually wants to pay their way in life.

Of my partner thought that £46 a week would buy food, bills etc would be told he’s having a laugh.

£46 a week? Is pathetic for a working adult. My own children paid more than that and I asked for nothing.

I send mine £600. He earns more than me but that just about covers the mortgage.

You started off wrong here- you 'asked him if he was alright to pay something towards his keep' as if he's a skint lodging teenager? That sentence implies he has a choice. You don't ask, you tell him, and how much.
He tells you £200, not £300? Cheeky cocklodging bastard. That was your moment to say, actually £300 isn't enough, you have 3 grand disposable income, if you want to live here you can pay £400, and we go halves on food.

Have a look on SpareRoom or similar sites and see what prices are for a room in your area in a similar sized property. Use that as guidance, then 1/3 of the bills/food etc on top. I'd also consider if you will change the split to 1/2 once your nephew moves out. If so, discuss this now so he has time to plan accordingly.

He earns £3K a month and wants to pay £200 Send him back to his mum and dad.

If he balks at any part of your conversation tell him he needs to pay his way like an adult and thatincludes paying a form of rent. Your outgoings are neither here nor there. He cannot live with you for free or even very cheap.

Yes, you've got yourself into a bit of a mess, but the remedy is fairly simple, you open the door and put him on the outside of it! Your relationship can go back to how it was....

I was paying more than £300/mo in student digs 20yrs ago! He is taking the Mickey, especially if he earns £3k/mo!

I charge 50% of all household expenses and joint credit card repayments. Typically around 700pm. He earns less so maybe not fair but this is still below market rate, he can still spend and save and happy with the arrangement.

Start as you mean to go on.

If you want to sub him for the rest of your life charge him 'board', if you want a partner it's half minus the money your nephew gives you.

You have no intention of getting rid of this spendthrift cocklodger so good luck whilst he drains you dry and moves on to the next one. Really hope your sister takes legal action on you as it's the only way you'll see any sense.

So you want him to pay some of your mortgage?
If you break up will he get that back?

Your mortgage, you pay it.
He can help other bills ofcourse, gas, electric, etc what ever the the amount is, take away the £200 your nephew pays and maybe do a 60/40 split, you paying the majority.... Ground rent etc, is your responsibility

Whatever bills you both use split equally.
Food. Gas. Electric. Water. TV license. Sky. Internet etc

Your mortgage, you pay it.

And the freeloader continues to freeload.

Of course he needs to pay something to live there and not just part of the bills.