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AIBU to be worried about gender disappointment

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YouDoYou18 · 01/03/2020 06:16

We have a scan to find out the gender in 7 hours and suddenly I’ve found I’m very very nervous.
We have two DDs that I adore, and honestly I don’t mind if it’s another girl, I’ve got some girl names picked out and I can imagine having three daughters playing in the future and I really love the idea... But.
This is going to be our last baby and I would also really like a boy, I’d like to have that relationship and bond with a son as well as my daughters. I know it sounds ridiculous but my daughters are daddy’s girls (which I love and it melts my heart daily) and I know there’s no guarantee a son would be a mummy’s boy.. but I’m just worried that I’m going to end up almost grieving for the fact I’ll never have a boy.

Is this ridiculous? I’m sure I will love any baby, but I can’t get rid of this nervousness and it’s making me feel like an awful parent!

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Thefaceofboe · 01/03/2020 20:23

@PepePig Star spot on

LaurieMarlow · 01/03/2020 20:24

Yes yes Pepepig

CookieMumsters · 01/03/2020 20:29

Congratulations OP, best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy

Mumto1girl3boys · 01/03/2020 20:59

Like I say, I'm entitled to my opinion.

Enjoy the rest of your evening 👋

Snoopdogsbitch · 01/03/2020 21:55

Entitled to your opinion, yes, but people like you are the reason that male and female stereotypes are entrenched and remain. Why shouldn't your boys do ballet? I also have 3 boys- rugby playing, mountain biking boys but would be equally delighted if they wanted to dance or sing or bake. The little girl next door is a skateboarding drummer, bravo.

You don't get to call me an idiot when you have the idiotic thinking.

And please look up the difference between your/ you're

Littlemissdaredevil · 02/03/2020 04:33

Congratulations!

happymummy12345 · 06/03/2020 12:38

I would never find out the sex until the birth as I think it's far nicer to wait until the baby is right there not just on a screen.
But anyway I had a strong preference for a girl. We had a boy. The first thing I felt was disappointment. People judge for it but I think unless you've experienced it you shouldn't: it's very real and very hard.

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