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SM doesn’t want me in the house

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Eggandbeans · 29/02/2020 11:16

I am nearly 30 and I’ve had a SM since I was 13. She wasn’t the OW and we always got on pretty well. I have 3 half sisters who I love but I don’t feel much for my SM. She’s always been good to me but as with any family there are things that I’ve resented, like when they go on a family holiday and I don’t get an invite. I’ve not rocked the boat but being honest I have maybe made a few subtle shots at her for it. I’d have liked to be closer to my DD and DSs but they moved to Cornwall before my DSs were born and I live in Kent near my DM and her family. I used to enjoy the “holidays” down to stay with them but as I got older I felt pushed aside and that I ultimately missed out because of the geography of it all.

Now my SM and I have had a little spat - she says it’s my fault and I don’t see it as overly important but she is very upset with me. My DD is trying to mediate but has now said that I can’t stay in the house anymore and he will have to meet up with me elsewhere. This has shocked me because I thought that whatever went on with me and SM wouldn’t have any bearing on my relationship with my Dd and DSs. Aibu?

OP posts:
Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:30

Mind the bed bugs

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:31

Don't bite

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:31

Tada

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:31

End of thread

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:31

Bye

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 18:32

Haha, I couldn't agree more.

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:32

Goidnight

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:32

Boring

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 18:32

Bye bye!!

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:32

Tiresome

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:33

Ridiculous

Lemonsandsugar · 07/03/2020 18:33

Hello?

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:33

Waste of time

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 18:33

Going

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:33

Disappear

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 18:33

Going

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:34

Abra cadabra

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 18:34

Gone?

OhCaptain · 07/03/2020 18:34

You’re embarrassing yourselves, folks!

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 18:35

@Rubyroost Yes gone! Grin

Rubyroost · 07/03/2020 19:05

Wotevs @OhCaptain

bellabasset · 07/03/2020 19:08

Hopefully OP will take on board the helpful comments on this thread, talk over her feelings with a friend or counsellor before speaking to her df. If her df can understand the difference his younger dds have from being part of their parents lives and each other in contrast with the role they played in hers them they can move forward to having weekly contact. Jenny assuming she would be a gm to any dcs OP might mean she thinks of OP as family even though she isn't proactive in keeping contact.

Mittens030869 · 07/03/2020 19:14

@bellabasset But actually the stepmum has put more effort into staying in touch with the OP than her DF.

itsallthedramaMickiloveit · 08/03/2020 08:36

Thank fuck for that.

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