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Asked not to have sex.

434 replies

Hohohole · 27/02/2020 12:03

We're going to stay with friends for the night on Saturday. I've only met the my friends partner a couple of times, but she asked through her husband that my partner and I not have sex while staying at their house.

Isn't this weird?
Would you ask this of guests?

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upvcsolventcleaner · 27/02/2020 13:45

I think I must be doing it wrong. I've never woken someone up or left stains all over the sheets.

Divebar · 27/02/2020 13:46

What kind of a mess are ye making when you have sex?

Clearly the words of someone who is not a squirter.

ChuckleBuckles · 27/02/2020 13:48

Are you getting the impression that this women doesn't want to host you OP? Is there an alternative Mumsnet somewhere with a stressed woman asking for help and that she doesn't want to host her DP friends and some poster has suggested she ban humping for guests.

SirVixofVixHall · 27/02/2020 13:48

Ugghh jizzy sweaty sheets...
I would not dtd in someone else’s house, I assumed that was basic politeness ?
Very strange to ask though, it has never occurred to me to ever ask a guest this, v rude and intrusive. Maybe she has had to deal with the aforementioned sheets after past guests.

Laiste · 27/02/2020 13:49

It's weird.

Have you said anything back yet OP?

codenameduchess · 27/02/2020 13:49

Because you’d probably end up leaving pubes, liquids on sheets, and risk waking their kids/your friends, etc.

Who's having that kind of sex at a friends house? Or with kids, because mine had a sexy time sensor that alerts her to kill mood immediately.

OP, you should go and some great sex... it's always better when it's forbidden 😂 but leave a sticky bottle of lube behind.

Notso · 27/02/2020 13:51

No I'd leave out a little welcome basket of condoms, lube and toys.

GrinGrinGrin

Straycatstrut · 27/02/2020 13:51

It’s not very pleasant to change another person’s sheets at the best of times, let alone jizzy, sweaty ones.

If I was that germphobic I'd wear rubber gloves and just bundle all the bedding up and shove it on a hot wash. No problem at all.

I'm really, really bad with vomit and after one particularly, absolutely hellish exorcist style session from my 5yr old all over his bed, I had to tie a muslin around my mouth with eucalyptus oil on it to shop me gagging, and wear rubber gloves. I'm still alive! (the smell didn't leave that room for about a month though no matter how hard I tried!)

Vomit is 100000x worse imo.

Proudownerofplants · 27/02/2020 13:51

How odd to ask this if you don't have any form for embarrassing people by bonking audibly in the house (which it sounds like you don't)?!

Could it be a joke that's not come across, perhaps if you are newly married or TTC?

Please ask why they made this request and let us all know!

Woollycardi · 27/02/2020 13:52

That is weird and I also agree there is massive boundary issues there. I would also stay at a hotel purely as that feels like utterly NON OF THEIR BUSINESS what you do in your own bedroom.

YouokHun · 27/02/2020 13:53

Dear Host & Hostess

Thank you for the warning. I have unpacked the gimp mask and furry handcuffs. We won’t have sex in your house as requested but would a little light foreplay outside your front gate be acceptable?

Yours sincerely

Hohohole

Ryantrain · 27/02/2020 13:54

Gross to have sex at other people's houses. I would be repulsed at having to change sheets after your bodily fluids im shivvering just thinking of it yuck.

spongejack · 27/02/2020 13:55

@Ryantrain do you have guests to stay?

Original poster
Hohohole · 27/02/2020 13:55

I've text him. Said it's not problem,just curious as to why.

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spongejack · 27/02/2020 13:57

Oh well done OP! Hanging for the response!

DingleberryRose · 27/02/2020 13:59

@Hohohole so weird. I’d definitely need to know why and then depending on the answer I’d probably cancel the visit.

I don’t take too kindly being told what to do (or not to do in this case).

Reginabambina · 27/02/2020 14:01

Can’t wait for the back story here. They must have had some nightmare guests in the past or maybe ghosts that get pissed off by sex

Original poster
Hohohole · 27/02/2020 14:01

He text back:

Yeah she's gone a bit mental, getting very jealous lately. Surely you can hold off for one night haha awkward I know.

Not sure what to make of that. Jealous of what?
Think I might book a hotel. Weirdo.

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Reginabambina · 27/02/2020 14:02

That’s bizarre and kind of sounds like he has the issue here rather than her making this request through him.

dottiedodah · 27/02/2020 14:03

This seems a strange request ,however I would not feel comfortable having sex in someone elses house anyway .Maybe they have had noisy sexy people staying! BTW what happens if all a little drunk and get it on in the night?Will she throw you both out?)!

eenymeenyminyme · 27/02/2020 14:03

she's gone a bit mental

Yeah, I think I'd go for the hotel...

spongejack · 27/02/2020 14:04

@Hohohole the travel lodge is your friend! In fact I'd probably not go, to weird for me! She's jealous of you having sex with your DH??

Wonkydonkey44 · 27/02/2020 14:04

That is totally weird and to be honest his girlfriend sounds bonkers Grin

upvcsolventcleaner · 27/02/2020 14:04

Ask him jealous of what??

AmelieTaylor · 27/02/2020 14:06

Asking why is less weird than them asking you not too!

Curious to his reason...hope he replies soon !

As long as guests aren’t TOO noisy & don’t pull down the light fittings, I don’t care if they have sex or not. As for the sheets...I have guest sheets for the guest bed and when I take sheets off I do it by the corners, I don’t rub my hands all over them, so I really can’t see the issue here ‍🤷🏻‍♀️