Asked not to have sex.

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We're going to stay with friends for the night on Saturday. I've only met the my friends partner a couple of times, but she asked through her husband that my partner and I not have sex while staying at their house.

Isn't this weird?
Would you ask this of guests?

The original request was a bit weird, the follow-up response is really weird! Avoid!

Very odd but do people really have sex when visiting people? I won’t even do it at MIL’s house.

Ask her if she wants to join you to loosen up a bit!

Do you have a reputation for loud vocalisation during sex OP I wonder?

It would not cross my mind to have sex while staying at someone’s house. Too close proximity and I’d find it weird and creepy.

What kind of word would he have with her?

"Hey you know OP and her partner, they are weirded out by us talking about their sex-life and will probably go to a hotel now. Instead can I say they can shag away and you'll stick earplugs in?"

It's just really awkward, not sure I would go as I would be struggling not to laugh throughout the meal.

It is sooooo weird. I would decline.

I’m wondering if you did go and did have sex would she barge in and demand you stop? Hose you down? March you down the street shouting shame?
So many questions.

It sounds like your friend has made a big mistake with his choice of gf. No way would I be seeing him with her anytime soon.
I'd tell him as a friend she sounds unhinged, maybe she isn't getting any and would be jealous.

Reading between the lines it's not about sex, she just isn't happy, for whatever reason, with people staying over. Good call with getting a hotel.

This is so awkward now.

I think that a contract establishing the specifics is the only way forward. Sit them down and ask whether you are allowed to:
Kiss on mouth
Kiss on cheek
Stroke your partner's genitals
Have your partner stroke your genitals
Nipple caressing
Toe sucking
Facial licking
Eating off each others' bodies
Digital penetration from your partner
A cheeky thumb up your partner's anus
Fellatio
Drinking from the furry cup
S&M
M&S
Bondage

You could break each of these down into many subsections. Once agreed, ask their neighbours to come round to act as signatories!

Has never occurred to me to have sex in anyone's house apart from my own. Feel like a prude now :)

I responded yabu by mistake.. this is Bashit

Brilliant post @thepeopleversuswork!

I think it says more about what shes been up to in the past , I'm not sure it would occur to me to have sex whilst staying with a friend . Generally we would only be there because we had had too much to drink and be far more likely to pass out in a snoring mess than to swing from the chandeliers.

I certainly would never insist on a no sex rule (mainly because I have the kind of friends that would take the mick mercilessly and then promptly fake porn level noises from their room)

The while conversation is just bloody wierd and frankly not a chance I would be staying there. Especially if there is any chance of her having a kid named Norman.

Many moons ago I stayed over at my then BF's parent's very small holiday home. Them in bedroom, us in living room on bedsetee. His mother had made it up with 2 single sleeping bags, nose to tail. The message was very, very clear!!!

Maybe... she thinks her husband fancies you. And she thinks if he overhears your noises of rapture it will stoke his desires and make him fancy you more. Could that be the jealousy, that she thinks there is something more than friendship between you and your friend?

Even so, just getting him to issue this bizarre request is surely putting the subject into the forefront of his mind.

Them in bedroom, us in living room on bedsetee. His mother had made it up with 2 single sleeping bags, nose to tail. The message was very, very clear!!!
That she’d only tolerate a 69 ?

You should do the “Harry met Sally” thing and get your husband to bang the wall in unison

Would make for interesting conversation come morning...!

Hr's starting a smear campaign.

Bring it up with her in front of him. Guarantee she'll have no clue what you are talking about.

He's going to 'talk to her' because otherwise how does he explain you staying at a hotel? In reality he'll say nothing to her, because she's not the one with the mad request. It's him, making out to people she's mad, before he dumps her or cheats or whatever.

Or he's in love with you, OP, and it's HIM that is jealous.

It's the asking that's weird. So odd. Based on his recent message I would feel uncomfortable sitting around a dinner table with his girlfriend. And I'd assume she would feel that way too!

Shame, she has spoiled her chance to meet his friends and enjoy spending time with them.

If he's calling her mental behind her back and laughing about it then he shouldn't be with her really, I might think a bit less of him because of that.

To clarify the presumption that people don't have sex if a guest in someone's house; I would find the cheek by jowl nature of most three bed semis to be a bit of a turn off, and, erroneously it seems, presumed that others would feel similarly.

Sex in a hotel/B&B is different to sex in your friends spare room.

That's not to say I don't think people shouldn't have sex, just thought they'd be less likely.

I think people are getting more and more Victorian about sex, biology and normal human functions these days. God knows why.