To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

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And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

Very funny, sucking

I don't want to resist my Tom!

I am single and I think he might be too.

Long time lurker here...

I have a MASSIVE crush on my music teacher. He’s been teaching me for 2 years now. He’s phenomenally talented and such a fantastic teacher and he’s a really a nice guy.

He’s married with a kid and definitely 100% hasn’t even noticed I’m a woman so there’s no worry there! What he teaches me is totally invaluable. Oh and I’m also an ugly blubbery motherfucker so he’d need to have a strange fetish.

My DH can be a total and utter prick to me at times as we’ve had a rough few years and so some days I embrace it fully with a vengeance! Sometimes I worry that he might pick up on it but I think I hide it very well. There have been some times when I’ve been so overwhelmed by hormones that I’ve not managed to concentrate properly on what he’s teaching me! Ovulation time is a total nightmare.

Those moments when you make just slightly longer than usual eye contact (like milliseconds) and you feel like you’ve been zapped by an electric fence are awesome.

If there were no repercussions, and he had that aforementioned fetish, then I’d totally shag him until we both died.

This thread has inspired me to stop lurking....
I don't work in accounting and a couple of years ago the project I was on had to interact with another dept of the business for about 6 months.
The lead from the other dept (Tom) was a twat of the highest order. Let me explain why. I work in a dept full of Dave's, lovely blokes, very adept at what they do but eye candy they are not. Tom saunters in for the project and, my dear mumsnetters, he was not a Dave. He was tall (6'2), lean and wore a lovely blue suit VERY WELL. Allied to a strong shirt/tie combo and matching belt and boots, my gaydar was ringing big time. No problems. He made a cultural joke about an old T.V. show which I found funny but the graduates around the table didn't get. I didn't get why someone a decade younger than me would make this joke until.it dawned on me that he was a similar age to me.
So we have a well dressed,fit, middle aged man who looks a decade younger than than his actual age. Like I said, a twat.
His voice? Strong Like he could order you around in the bedroom, in a good way.
As we for talking it turns out he is married with 2 DC and they are gawjus. So he's not gay and can produce beautiful children. Twat.
Over the next 6 months, I realise his work attire is good. Always rocks good ties and tells me he does his own ironing as he is fastidious about his shirts.
I have to interact him in regular meetings and he gets on well with everyone from graduates to senior mgt. I had a few informal meetings with him which revealed he is not a Dave because he holds your gaze when he talks to you. Wow. Just wow. I really struggled in those 1-2-1 meetings as my mind badly wandered
As you can tell, the twat made a big impression on me and I'm aware it was just a stupid work crush. He is definitely not my type, I'm more into rugby players who are cuddly. He doesn't even have a full head of hair, he just rocks a complete shaved look which suits him bloody well
Would I do anything about it? God no. I'm happily married with 3 x DC and he loves his wife but there is something about him which is ringing my bell.
I agree with a PP who says men have discovered grooming products and are getting their own back. Tom (the twat) smelt bloody lovely as well sigh

I quite enjoy my crush, my life would be very dull without it! I don’t think there’s any harm in it, we don’t stop being human just because we’re married with children.

Last year I developed a crush on a guy I do some volunteering with.

Yes to the short sleeves! I do have a thing for arms!

My poor friends had to put up with me going on about him like a lovelorn teenager. Moping about because he had a girlfriend.

It was a right pain, I'm a mum in her 40s (but single) so I shouldn't be having crushes.

Things took a turn with some vaguely flirty messaging but I knew nothing would come of it. Because girlfriend.

Until he suddenly asked me out and it turned out he'd split up with her a few months before!

So that was 3 weeks ago.

Got to go, need to get ready for another date!

Woo hoo!

There is hope.

Yes, someone I work with. I have a thread going over on relationships titled something like "grey areas of the heart" as its starting to consume me a bit too much!

I’m giving up Tom for lent.

Good luck with that.

I love this thread for all the twatting Toms.

I have an ongoing crush on a university lecturer who has the sort of name I can imagine using in the bedroom (I’m not a name caller usually but it begs to be said out loud). I come into semi regular contact with him and make a point of never approaching him, he does approach me though. He is 20 years at least, older than me, very short and not all that attractive and has weird lips. There is something about those lips though that makes me crave cunnilingis. Anyway, this crush got me through a rough path in my marriage and DH definitely benefited. He is also married but god, when he is in a room talking about his specialism it takes every ounce of restraint not to get up and straddle him in front of the whole audience.

I have a work crush on my boss, we’re both very happily married but bob naturally tactile and flirtatious people so there is chemistry. We’ve been drunk together many times and managed to not act on it. I sometimes wonder if it’s a sibling type thing rather than a crush, but I have dreamt of shagging him so maybe not.

God, there are loads actually. But I’ll leave it there.

Does anyone know what happened to the thread with the woman walking past a crush’s workplace each day and wondering if he fancied her. I was invested then lost it.

Not any more. Have decided he's a bit useless and a shit communicator at best. Some of you will know the back story

What about the woman who had a crush on a guy she used to run past who was also a runner. I remember the great minds of MN had a whole plan worked out for her. They smiled at each other but nothing more had happened.

Oh god yes.

A work Tom. Not in the same dept but often have to speak due to project overlap. I look out for him every time I'm in that building. We occasionally have to WhatsApp and it's NEVER flirty but always witty. Like we're both pulling out our best lines.

He's married. I'm married. I'd never do anything, I HIGHLY doubt he would but he's definitely been my go to 'special time' fantasy for at least the past 18 months. Oh the things he does...

Yep, on a school dad (married), and someone almost 20 years younger (he's very talented in a particular field - which I think is what I'm attracted to). I'm married too, so would never do anything, but like PP, my husband has definitely benefited from the crushes. Also, have a kind of crush on a female acquaintance, but it's minor compared to the other two.

@MercedesDeMonteChristo

I feel your pain. My Tom is extremely geeky but oh my goodness, I don't know where to look when he's flashing his expertise.

Is this why we like the teacher and lecturer Toms?

I think here are definitely several common denominators with these Toms. It seems that when they are really really good and passionate about whatever it is they do and it’s something you’re interested in, it just sends you into whirlwind of the fanny gallops.

My Tom is extremely short. I quite like that I’m taller than him and imagine how much he’d secretly love me to dominate him but I never used to look at short blokes in my single days.

Sometimes he has to physically touch me to show me how to play. Sometimes I know exactly how to play, I just pretend not to...

You're right, soapy.

I didn't look twice at my Tom until he started teaching me.

I couldn't possibly ask for extra help. He KNOWS.

I have a Tom. And yep, it’s all about his passion for something completely uninteresting. He lights up. He talks with authority. And in that moment I don’t care that he’s twenty years older than me, wears polyester suits, and has probably never been near a woman in his life.

It’s the hormones. Fucking Tom.

Yeah my ‘Tom’ is my significantly older, tall, dark, handsome, intelligent manager. I’m very happily married to a gorgeous husband so I’m absolutely gutted to feel this way...I’ve felt this way ever since I first laid eyes on him. I’m as frugly as it gets and he has a beautiful wife and family so everyday I feel pathetic because I know that he knows I feel this way...I’m not very good at hiding my feelings... and I act like an immature, attention seeking loon around him and then end up berating myself for it. I’m so ashamed of myself and have come to the conclusion that I really need to find a new job for my own sanity and before I get slapped with some kind of harassment suit. I just wish he would stop bothering me with his witty banter and sexy looks. There’s plenty other younger more attractive women in the office for him to pass the time with...why does he need to torture my soul this way and why am I so pathetic...so many questions. Anyway yes that’s it now, I have had enough and will be proactively giving him up for lent and hopefully forever. Daft cow that I am.

Oh and yeah actually he’s very knowledgeable and good at what he does...I’ve always been a sucker for the intelligent type!

There is something about those lips though that makes me crave cunnilingis.

^

There's one guy at work I always imagine giving a blow job too... I don't know why, he's not even that fit!

Blow job to, not too

Ah, I've had that daydream/ fantasy too Mine was wearing one of his shirts and a tie and matching knickers and heels and giving him a blow job. I don't know what was more worrying, the fantasy or the fact I was willingly coordinating my underwear with his tie colour!