To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

We have lived through a lot since then.

Last week seems like a long time ago.

Oh well. My crush is now dead! I don’t mean he’s dead, I mean my feelings have finally surpassed.

I have seen his wife and fuck me I think she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen!! She’s absolutely stunning and that is no exaggeration. I think if I was stood next to her you’d not even identify me as human let alone female! Maybe she’s my new crush instead? I hope that makes sense I really never ever thought I’d stand a cat in Hell’s chance in any way, but it has been a good old wake up call I think.

Anyway, I just felt incredibly guilty and my Intense bubble of silliness literally just burst. I honestly never ever have crushes on “real” people because it’s not entirely appropriate when you’re married and they are married (different to celebrities!), but the buzz was bloody good fun for a while and got me through some emotionally challenging times. I’m just going to have to put my big girl pants on and face these issues as they arise now and work on making things better.

He’s still brilliant though and it’s only ever been about what he brings to me as a teacher, which is the most thrilling part and long may that continue. Because I love what it is I do, more than anything else!

#ImOverTom

I feel the same way.

I'm coming to realise how woke my Tom is and there's no way to get rid of brainwashing. He will still be criticising the establishment well into his dotage.

It's been a positive experience though because I have tried even harder with coursework than I would normally. The thought that he is marking it is an extra incentive.

I think ultimately it’s quite nice to know we aren’t dead an blackened ruins on the inside.

Let the Toms of this world be someone else’s problem!

My MusicianTom is recording music in his attic and posting it on Insta, and also writing blog posts. He's one step away from starting a podcast and then all hope will be lost .

Sorry to hear about the demise of your crushes, Soapy and Sucking. Still, onwards and upwards, there's lots of eye candy in the world.

Ooh hello. I have one. Been 5 months now. She's my teacher in a private class situation so I have to sit opposite her (now on Zoom) for 2-3 hours twice a week and not blush. I try not to giggle like a teenager - and try to mask it when I do! I just want to reach out and touch her. I couldn't even give her a hug when we said goodbye for Xmas hols because I fancied her so much I worried that I was just be leacherous! She hugged me (friendly hug) which made me think I never wanted to let go..and that I better not hold on too long! 😂

She doesn't know.

She's straight, I think.

I've discovered that I'm definitely not! Realised I've fancied women for years and just not paid any serious attention. But sitting opposite her makes it impossible to ignore.

All my friends know about her. We're becoming friends a bit outside the classes, but it's really just friends, nothing else. And I don't want to ruin that because she's really nice.

I'm also still married, although not for much longer (not related to this).

Someone who I went to school with, is very, very religious (properly as well, not Fleabag suggestible priest variety) and an incredibly beautiful human being. We're still in touch and he's currently unhappily married.

Still, I had my chance to become an Evangelical Christian to be in with a shot. All things considered, admiring from a distance is probably the best option.

Yes, a work colleague.

Way too old for me and both of us in relationships. Neither of us would act on it but the sexual tension is crazy. I can’t even work out what it is. He wouldn’t be my type on paper and I never thought of him like that for the first 2 years of knowing him.

@Greywind1523
Read the full thread.

You've got a classic Tom.

#classicTom

I am going to devise a taxonomy of Toms.

I may well submit the paper to a conference once this is all over.

Let's recap on our previous seminar:
#classicTom
#geekTom
#regionalTom
#militantTom
#randombodypartTom
#protectandserveTom
#musicianTom
and the original Tom:
#teacherTom

Have I left any of them out?

I don’t.
I have another problem, which is that men tend to turn to me whenever they have problems so I am spending lots of time and energy trying to help them figure out how to solve their problems.
It annoys DH (who used to be my crush, now he’s all mine, yay) big time because it exhausts me and makes me tired and stressed out. Not good when your fibromyalgia gets worse with stress.
I would rather have a crush than being emotional support buddy for men of different ages.
Used to have a huge crush on a colleague at the university but never acted on it, especially as I got to know him better and decided his visuals are far better than his character.

You see musician Tom could be a sub category of geek Tom. Or a whole field in itself comprised of #knowswhathestalkingaboutTom at one end with #readitintheNMETom at the other.Geek Tom would find himself as subset of #musicianTom
It is very complex.

Can there be a #TeacherTom2.0? If there can, he’s mine. Absolute dreamboat makes my day; 5 days a week and 39 weeks and 3 training days a year. Sigh.

I think it depends on how you're defining geek. I think most professional and a lot of non-professional musicians can be quite geeky, but not all of them. And not all geeks are musicians

Dear lord. 2 interactions with Cop/protectandserve Tom by phone today. My ovaries are drooling

Messaged my Tom couple of days ago via work messenger. He was a bit flirty and rude with how he’s filling his time! I said I was bored so he said he’s going to think of ways to entertain me! He probably won’t reply again, as he’s rubbish with responding. Have to wait until we return back to the office to see if that offer of a theatre date still stands!

@Silenceisnotgolden I have a #teachertom2.0 as well. He’s lush. Since Feb half term when I first noticed him as a crush I’ve been finding all sorts of spurious reasons to make contact.

Best thing is I think it might even be mutual. He was certainly very twinkly eyed whenever I popped in to see him before lockdown (on some essential work reason obvs). Since lockdown I’ve been lusting after him on teams meetings which is not quite the same, but he’s been finding lots of reasons to ring and text me which has kept my ovaries (and my imagination) happy. Ah, #twinklytom

There is something wrong here. I am laying down the theoretical groundwork here but you all actually have real life Toms.

The downfall of life in the Ivory tower, I guess.

@MusicianTom

hence my dilemma.

I think they deserve their own disciplines with an inverse subset in each.

That way they can be musician/geek or geek/musician

But always a Tom

@Iwannabeadored20

I will never see my Tom again.

@BadgerButty I’m delighted that your #teacherTom is still lurking on your teams meetings - what a way to survive lockdown. My Tom, however, is not lurking anywhere near me. It’s really quite annoyingly dull over here on the inappropriate and immoral real life crush front.

@wizzywig

Lucky you!

This lockdown thing makes you re-evaluate your life. And that includes the various Tom options. #overgrownstudentleftieTom is looking less attractive by the day. If I had a #protectandserveTom I'd be in there, no question.

#re-evaluatedToms

I have spent far too much of this morning having really quite inappropriate (but very enjoyable) thoughts about #TeacherTom2.0 it’s really not conducive to getting any work done at all. It is exacerbated by the fact I am terminally single and he appears to be flirting with me. The scoundrel. I am also aware that I am middle aged (as is Tom) and behaving like my 15 yr old self. Probably need to give myself a stern talking to. If only I could stop daydreaming. #ireallyneedtogetagrip