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To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

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Rainbowb · 23/02/2020 21:25

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties! Grin

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YeahLikeNoThough · 13/03/2020 20:59

Well, on the upside: Tom loves me, too - I know because he told me so!!!

On the downside: that's all down to my insane KPIs and arguably has nothing to do with him actually wanting to spend the rest of his life with me in a personal capacity ... Sad

Tom is our head of sales ...

SuckingDieselFella · 13/03/2020 21:07

Toms can't resist insane KPIs even though I don't know what they are

Keep them insane whatever they are and he'll soon be all over you.

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 13/03/2020 21:09

But I am doing all the work here (all the non technical stuff obv)

come on , Tom - give me a sign. (and Klingon doesn't count)

SuckingDieselFella · 13/03/2020 21:17

Forget about him and he'll come running.

Toms are like dogs. Turn your back on them and they'll follow you all the way home.

Is there any way of getting him to friend you on social media? You could post Star Hobbit Bollocks stuff and he could like it. That would be in his comfort zone. And then slowly, after a few months, he could work towards speaking.

Or.....just find another Tom. #multiverseofToms

YeahLikeNoThough · 13/03/2020 21:22

come on , Tom - give me a sign. (and Klingon doesn't count)

At the risk of sounding slightly obsessive here: I'd be totally up for an online Klingon class in exchange for Tom sweet talking to me in Klingon. Grin

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 13/03/2020 21:31

#multiverseToms

Yes, i like that.

SuckingDieselFella · 13/03/2020 21:39

Look, just grab the nearest one.

We're going to be locked up for weeks. It's no time to be fussy.

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 13/03/2020 21:52

haha!

That was kind of my thinking ...

SuckingDieselFella · 13/03/2020 22:30

#ProximityTom

SugarMiceInTheRain · 14/03/2020 07:48

I haven't seen my Tom for a couple of weeks and am desperate to find some reason to message him again. We were possibly going to go to the theatre next week but he said he has an insanely busy week (which I know is true) so would have to be spontaneous. I love a bit of spontaneity Grin How late do I leave it before I send a message?

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 08:41

There is a school of thought that says, if he's into you he will message you and you shouldn't get in touch.

But you care if he's alive or dead, right? I would send a friendly message but don't suggest going out. Leave the ball in his court.

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 08:42

#incommunicadoTom

There are millions of them.

MusicianTom · 14/03/2020 09:15

(namechanged)

I have a #musicianTom, who is also a #workcolleagueTom. I work in the entertainments industry, he is one of the artists I'm currently working with. A good 15 years younger than me, talented, twinkly and funny, gorgeous deep voice, and he KNOWS.
It's got to the stage where I'm barely talking to him because I turn into a gibbering idiot. But I stare at him whenever possible/not likely to be noticed.
The project we're working on is likely to get pulled at any moment, due to Covid19, so I'm trying to stock up on as much TomPerving as possible, as 4 months of Tom is likely to be reduced to a matter of days.

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 09:45

I feel your pain. My Tom's seminars have been cancelled so I will never get the chance to ogle him learn from him again.

He is also a lot younger so it's probably just as well.

I need an #ageappropriateTom

earlgreymarl · 14/03/2020 15:06

Well I have had a very odd week.
I am someone's Tom! And it has been quite unexpected. He has actually declared to that effect and left place I work at, partly because of that. I am sad about it , and sad for him, it's obviously been a bind. we get along v well. I'll miss him. It's obviously difficult all round. I can't talk to anyone about it.

So. Remember. It can get out of hand.

earlgreymarl · 14/03/2020 15:07

@YeahLikeNoThough is this a recent declaration from your Tom?

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 14/03/2020 15:20

@earl

He left his job because of his crush on you?

You are a goddess, Earl.

Proper Molly as we would say in London

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 15:34

Wow, @earlgreymarl

I would feel flattered but also sad.

I'd also wonder why he decided to tell you because that's the end of the friendship.

Soapytoad · 14/03/2020 17:47

#MusicianTom uses weapons of desire that make them utterly irresistible. The sound these instruments make are like Cupid’s arrows to the ovaries. The more effortless but complex their playing, the more attractive he becomes. His intentions are only to keep his own (very modest!) ego happy, but unfortunately for the victim’s hormone management becomes very very difficult.

earlgrey that’s a real shame, I’m so sorry it’s happened to you. The fun for me is keeping entirely 100% in control and knowing that this is absolutely all in my head. I know it’s not like that for everyone though and when feelings become too much it must be very hard to deal with.

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 17:48

Cupid's arrow to the ovaries. Grin

MusicianTom · 14/03/2020 19:22

But why is it this MusicianTom? I'm working with 8 musicians and 4 actors, but only one pings my ovaries. It might be the lovely wavy brown hair, or his beautiful green eyes, or his soft Scottish accent

SuckingDieselFella · 14/03/2020 19:46

According to our classifications, he is #randombodypartTom, #workTom and #regionalTom. Possibly also #geekTom if he's spent his life practising scales.

Four pings right there.

earlgreymarl · 14/03/2020 20:44

@Allaboardthemagicbus2020 that's basically what he said, after a few drinks. We end up being around each other a lot, just because of the set up. I feel bad as obviously other reasons were given indeed I had been saying also how sad it would be without him there and how he will be missed overall etc. I think basically he has to get away .

I am no goddess but I will have to look up Molly!

@sucking Basically I think he had to get it off his chest and other things were in the mix as well. Also it was just a bit of a moment. He is like my work sidekick too.

Yep it's sad and flattering and he is a great guy, I can't believe I didn't realise!

We have since seen each other so at least we havr a hope for past the weirdness. I guess we'll see. A bit of space will fix it, I guess that's the point .

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 14/03/2020 20:47

I think you have a multidisciplinary Tom or perhaps a hybrid Tom.

When one Tom combines more than one attractive trait, in this case, wavy brown hair AND soft green eyes AND a regional accent with a talent like music, then it is

#overloadTom

or perhaps ##toomuchforonewomanTom

or

#unevendistributionofdesirabletraitsTom

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 14/03/2020 20:50

@earlgreymarl

Ok, arl you clearly haven't read the whole thread.

male crush = Tom
female crush = Molly

You are his Molly, he is your Tom

He was, I think, giving you the heads up to say, 'now we no longer work together we are free to get it on, what's your number?'

Earl, you have to be quick with these Toms