To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

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And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

Thanks earlgrey in a meeting today, just the two of us, I was looking down at my notes and writing but I could feel my work Tom gazing at my face. Could be wrong, and didn't glance quickly up to definitely check, but I could feel his eyes on me rather than him looking in my direction but looking at what I was writing iykwim...

@Asimovsfutureishere2020 I have no updates as my Tom is on strike/doing research/has coronavirus. Not sure which, but he wasn't around today.

What do you think would happen if I stopped scowling at him and started twinkling?

@OrangeSunset It's seriously weird behaviour to inspect the toilet after someone else has been. Does she report on anybody else or just Tom?

It’s a shared loo - ie one room with wc plus basin for male and female. He’s not there everyday and that’s helped narrow it down to make a firm linkage between loo state and culprit.

The joys of office life. He sound attractive tho right?

If he can't go to the toilet properly he sounds very unattractive indeed!

I bet his habits are clean though and she wants him for herself.

@Sucking

Do you know that expression 'You're a long time dead' ?

Twinkle away, Sucking. You might just make his day.

Yes, yet another teacher My school run friend confessed to fancying him a bit too, so we've had hours of fun joking about it along the lines of 'Are you at pick up later?' 'Yeah I've got a meeting with my boyfriend' etc etc

I had an actual Tom (ex boyfriend of many years hence). He was a twat of the highest order but was very, very good at cunnilingus...

That's what you call a hidden talent @TomPettys

Ok, I will try twinkling. I may have been doing it without knowing and that's what started the whole thing off.

I won't see him for a while, though, if he's in strike mode.

My #backupcrush is around but hasn't asked me for something he asked me to look after for him when he went away.

He is either:

1. Avoiding me because he doesn't want to speak to me
2. Too shy to speak to me
3. Busy choosing the ring

I will stop bumping into him soon due to a change and not sure whether I should say stay in touch or not.

I had a crush on a very shy guy that I worked with on and off for two years. It wasn't until year 3 that he plucked up the courage to start a conversation. He found me on social media and we chat all the time but there is nothing romantic in it and that's fine by me. It wouldn't have worked out anyway. If he wants to stay in touch you'll hear from him again but he might need a few months to think about it.

Think is I would like to stay in touch as he is a nice, decent guy and the crush thing will probably wear off.

Don't know whether to say 'hey - I'm moving but it would be good to keep in touch, here's my email'.

Which in fact I couldn't actually say.

My crush is a completely unsuitable guy at work that just happened to be nice to me and wooooosh. Saw him one day and we kept smiling at each other... Ran into him the next without warning and he muttered hello and vanished. I've now been overanalysing this for days :)

Trying to enjoy the um, unexpected feelings, but this is going to get inconvenient if it doesn't wear off...

Are you on social media or linkedin?

If so, he'll find you. Geeks are good at research.

Yup, someone at work who I didn't even notice for the first couple of months he was here. I was switched off to anything romantic. Nice guy, chatted a bit when we worked together but diff departments so not working that closely. Then one morning we were chatting about something totally random and I looked at him and had 'that moment' the one where it all suddenly smacks you in the face that you like them.
Spent about 2 months arguing with myself that I don't even want to feel this way, meanwhile we've got to know each other quite well, and I've just stopped fighting with it now, and realised 3 months on rather than distancing myself from this crush, I've gotten closer and now we're the subject of some light hearted musings at work about how long it'll be before we're shagging, if we're not already (we're not)
He's 8 years younger than me and I'm pretty sure I'm firmly in the friends zone despite a few colleagues thinking differently and honestly I think he'd be horrified if he knew 🤣 enjoying the flirting/fun and friendships though. Feels good.

@Sucking Ha!

But you know, shouldn't I be giving him some...encouragement?

If they think you're interested they run away.

Once you lose interest they run to you.

The only way to get them interested is to lose interest, by which stage you don't want to hear from them anyway.

@ suckingdieselfella ha! Crafty little bugger me, at times

I'm totally pathetic. I can't say It's a Tom. A tomBOY maybe !
I love this thread.

@SuckingDieselFella

How true!

It’s really exciting to read about people with Active Toms! I guess it’s easy for me to say since mine is a Forbidden Tom, but why don’t you free single people just go the fuck for it? You really never know where this could lead!

Forbidden Toms are fun, cheap thrill escapism. I think it’s like hearing your favourite song unexpectedly on the radio. Turn it up for a few minutes, sing along with a smile on your face and heart in a good place and then carry on with your day.

No. I a have a crush on no one.

@Soapytoad I'm a 'free single person' but I thought about it yesterday, and I've completely lost my sex drive at the moment so it wouldn't be a good idea to start flirting.

Unless flirting rejigs it.

@Soapytoad

Because the reality could never live up to the expectation!!!

I'm not so sure about that. I suspect my Tom's mind is a very exciting place.

Tom, if you're reading, it almost makes up for your poor clothing choices.