AIBU to think some of you are awful?

[KMW79]

I have been mainly just reading (over the past 6 months) the popular threads on the ‘mumsnet daily’ via email inbox.

Honestly I have been so shocked by the influx of negative, unhelpful and destructive responses that people receive. Even when people don’t agree with an OPs opinion or a respondents reply or even whom the OP was posting about, so many are seemingly so keen to attack in such a virile nature! Name calling, aggressive, viscous responses when someone asked for a basic opinion.

Elaborating on why someone is or isn’t being unreasonable doesn’t require an attack on either side of the viewpoint. It blows my mind how nasty people can be, and I don’t believe that was what this forum was created for!

Could this forum maybe return to what it was intended for?

I think it's the responsibility of users to pay some attention to the vast number of topics available on MN and then (as I said above) to tailor their interface.

Yup.

We're fucking horrible.

Piss off if you don't like us. We don't care.

MN was never this brutal a few years ago. If people were stupid or silly then jokes were made about it and it would become an amazing thread.

Now it’s very cutthroat. Telling people to piss off for having an opinion? Slightly ridiculous!

I'm with u, hun

Scrummymummytofunnyhunnybunny1992 xox

fuckbrexit I’m hoping they might say ‘lock-in?’

Just some of us? You must be new. I think you'll find most of us are awful.

I agree Op, I posted a question last week & got viciously attacked! I was called a nasty person, a bitch, stuck up, unsupportive & nobody would ever want to be my friend

If people don’t agree with the Op or PP then state your own opinion without stabling others or the Op in a personal way

Attacking others**

@HeronLanyon I'm well up for that!

I think people are just more honest and straight to the point these days .
I’m 47 now and I’ll be honest I can be a right bitch if somebody gets on the wrong side of me or is rude to me.I just can’t be doing with people who don’t talk straight .
Sorry if this offends anybody but I’m just saying it the way it is.

You can be honest without being nasty about it though.

Oh for fucks sake this is not difficult moaners and flouncers! You literally do not have to be here, you do not have to post here, you do not have to read posts on here. If you do not like it here there are millions of other forums/fora for you to post on. This is not compulsory, instead of crashing in and telling us all how shit we are, why not save your frothing for something that fucking matters and someone who fucking cares and find somewhere more in keeping with your sensibilities to post your important views and opinions?

I love it here because everyone can say what they like without the bullshit social pressure for women to be "nice" and tbh mostly because we can say shit and fuck and cunt

To be fair if somebody posts in AIBU about something sensitive they will often be advised to move it to the correct board,and these are usually more conctructive.
Also to be fair at least you have posted in the right area,my moan(and it's been done before) is that AIBU has become the default board that everyone posts on about whatever so apart from those new here who wander and n not sure where to post everyone else mostly posts for an argument.
Look on other boards if you want to see the help and generosity of spirit that is still around on MN.

I posted last night and had an influx of the nicest messages I have ever received.

Pulled me out of a horrendously dark time. It's not all bad OP

When I first joined I was so afraid to post my first post after spending months reading responses to other people’s posts! I’m not on social media so what some people call ‘keyboard warriors’ were a foreign concept to me! You’re not being unreasonable OP to wish for a website to be supportive and helpful xx

It’s great to be able to swear and speak frankly, but that doesn’t come hand in hand with it being ok to deliberately upset people. Not because we have to be naice wimmim but because it’s fucking annoying to be surrounded by goady fuckers and bitchploppers.

When I’ve used a forum for over 10 years and enjoyed it for the most part, I’m not going to be forced off because some people think it’s ok to be cunts to people (not you, the general trend).

@Fuckbrexit

Are the only two options really put up with it, or leave? Why can't we have a dialogue about it without being told we're "frothing"? Or being told what we're concerned about "doesn't matter"? I think we should all get a chance to say what matters instead of being called a moaner.

I don't think mumsnet is about silencing women just because they don't agree with you. It's a space for everyone.

Your pub analogy doesn't really work either does it. Because you don't go to a pub and sit at a table with people you don't know and offer your opinion. I could be meaner but I'll just say it's a specious argument.

"This is not compulsory, instead of crashing in and telling us all how shit we are, why not save your frothing for something that fucking matters and someone who fucking cares and find somewhere more in keeping with your sensibilities to post your important views and opinions?"

Literally no one has said mumsnet is shit. Stop getting so defensive and calm the fuck down. No one is asking people to stop telling it like it is. Just to cool it with the ugly, vitriolic posts.

@harakeke this thread is literally about silencing women because the OP can't handle the responses on here. I don't want to silence anybody, (and I absolutely resent the accusation that I do) I'm merely suggesting that anyone who doesn't like the forum doesn't keep coming back to the same bloody forum and then complaining about it. People are dicks on here, people are dicks in real life too. I accept that, I can ignore them and take the support and sense that the majority of posters offer.

There's loads of places to post on the internet, it's great like that.

@spatchcock ok him, goodnight

*hon even

You've just called posters moaners, frothers and flouncers. These aren't terms given to men, it's sexist language designed to deter women from speaking up.

That's great that you're able to ignore the dicks. But I've seen more vulnerable OPs picked apart. I consider myself robust but I've personally stopped starting threads because people can't wait to pile on about perceived discrepancies or inconsistencies. Wouldn't it be nice if we could do the whole straight talking, tell it like it is thing while also being supportive to people?

@Fuckbrexit

I reckon the highly personal attacks seem to be made on a weekend night (picture a handful of posters sitting at home alone with a bottle of wine under their belt before they turn on the computer) and are just looking for an argument.

Just scroll on by and leave them to it...