AIBU to think some of you are awful?

[KMW79]

I have been mainly just reading (over the past 6 months) the popular threads on the ‘mumsnet daily’ via email inbox.

Honestly I have been so shocked by the influx of negative, unhelpful and destructive responses that people receive. Even when people don’t agree with an OPs opinion or a respondents reply or even whom the OP was posting about, so many are seemingly so keen to attack in such a virile nature! Name calling, aggressive, viscous responses when someone asked for a basic opinion.

Elaborating on why someone is or isn’t being unreasonable doesn’t require an attack on either side of the viewpoint. It blows my mind how nasty people can be, and I don’t believe that was what this forum was created for!

Could this forum maybe return to what it was intended for?

There are many dicks in the world and a few of them are on here.
There are also trolls, liars, fantasists, perverts looking for a bunch of women to spill their guts so they can have a fap and then there’s angry fuckers who lash out shockingly.
There’s questions you may read on Aibu and not understand the context fully either. But take what you will from it.

@FernFurze
@UpCloseAndPersonalWithGlenda
Manly and sticky 🤮

And that piggy 💕
Ooh more pics pleeeeese.

@SomeoneElseEntirelyNow
Ok, that does change things, as this thread is in aibu I made the wrong assumption that you'd posted here too.
Passive aggression does no one any favours though. Hope you've found some help.

I've been here about ten years and I don't see it as being much different to how it was when I joined.

There are some arseholes of course, but actually a lot of people are incapable of viewing a disagreement as anything other than a personal attack. (And that's not confined to mumsnet either, it's everywhere.) So I tend to take it with a pince of salt when people talk about everyone being mean and nasty and unsupportive, because a lot of the time what they mean by that is just that someone has disagreed with them.

Yes I agree. I’ve been in and off here for nearly seven years and although there was some bun fights then now it’s just on a different level.

I think the DM publishing threads led a lot of cranks here who just want to unload their shit lives on to other people by being cunts. Also I’ve noticed that the intelligence of people have dropped too. I read a thread yesterday which the OP used the phrase baby mamma’

I don't think it's enough to just 'scroll on by' anymore, it's about time that posters were accountable if they are deliberately nasty. You can tell someone they're unreasonable without saying the awful things that some say. I've been here years and very rarely look at aibu for the simple reason it's the one place where some feel it's gives them carte blanche to say some pretty offensive and personal things. I doubt many would actually say these sorts of things to a persons face without the protection of their anonymity.

I have had and given the most fantastic support here - bereavement and baby troubles being out the best of the site I think.
Also some just downright fascinating or funny threads which are a delight.
There are some awful threads which I have posted on which have ended up being taken down as not helpful to op who was asking for support but which have descended into a bun fight frankly.

I think it’s a really mixed bag.

Why are women cruel to each other so much?

Perhaps they are not all women .

Maybe I’m naive but I hope this true. I’ve done this myself into the past and thought fuck me ive been a triggered dick there (which sounds more exciting than I meant)

I don’t think there are that many who are awful.

However because they are nasty they stand out.

If anyone is nasty here I call them out on it. It’s just lazy and nasty to attack someone, it’s really robust and healthy to be challenged. That line does clearly get crossed.

Personal attacks and name calling isn't allowed so report it if you see that.
AIBU is the vipers nest so expect honest views and no sugar coating.

Even the responses say Yanbu.

YABU

why is a biscuit no comment
aibu i dont get it

@novelltyfunsy started yesterday .. on episode 6!

Got to say (or do I?) I’ve been in a few threads recently with really unpleasant bullying men posting. One over the last few days made me question staying here.

It was taken down in the end but good god he was a tosser.

You’re bub your rules hun x

I love this site because it’s not for the simpering, illiterate masses, it’s not ‘for mums’, there’s childless, childfree and women who chose to have a kid on here, plus males. If you want fluffy mummy drivel, stick to those topics. Mark emails as spam. HTH

But there is a middle ground between “your buns your rulez hun” fluffy bullshit and being downright nasty. Some people just don’t seem to understand that.

Or even your “your bubs your rulez” Buns are a totally different matter.

If I hear one more variation on “why can’t people just be more kind?”, I think I may have to do something unkind to someone

@Hadenoughofitall441
Except and accept are two different words and have two different meanings. If they're wrongly used in sentences a whole other meaning happens.
A dictionary will be your friend here. It's a like then and than.

‘Tis the problem with being on Social Media.
Like it or lump it .
MNers will tell you what they think because it’s anonymous.
Yet MNers will swallow you up with loveliness and compassion too!

I am awful. I am the same in real life. But then I am honest and loyal. I would rather hear the truth than lies.