AIBU to think some of you are awful?

[KMW79]

I have been mainly just reading (over the past 6 months) the popular threads on the ‘mumsnet daily’ via email inbox.

Honestly I have been so shocked by the influx of negative, unhelpful and destructive responses that people receive. Even when people don’t agree with an OPs opinion or a respondents reply or even whom the OP was posting about, so many are seemingly so keen to attack in such a virile nature! Name calling, aggressive, viscous responses when someone asked for a basic opinion.

Elaborating on why someone is or isn’t being unreasonable doesn’t require an attack on either side of the viewpoint. It blows my mind how nasty people can be, and I don’t believe that was what this forum was created for!

Could this forum maybe return to what it was intended for?

Try netmums hun.

You had me at viscous responses

You need to tailor your MN interface. Choose your favourites, review them now and then, read, write, enjoy, repeat

It’s always been the same sadly but a handful of more ‘blunt’ posters are heavily outweighed by the many lovely, kind posters.
Ignore the bad, look for the good. It’s there!

You see that X in the top right corner? Click it and all your troubles will be over.

HTH

I often wonder if people would be so direct/blunt/rude if they were speaking to someone face-to-face. I imagine probably not in most cases.

It's not "intended" to be all cuddly huns saying only nice things to each other - Nethuns is that way 👉🏼

Much of MN is extremely supportive. I mostly post on the Litter Tray. It's been amazingly helpful when I've had things I needed to talk about.

AIBU is the MN equivalent of fight club. Stay off it if you're not keen, you're not forced to read it.

Please can you flounce off? Those are my absolute favourite threads.

“I’ve been here for years. But I can’t stand the self centred bitchiness anymore. So I can do nothing other than let you all know that I’m leaving.”

DID YOU ALL GET THAT I’M LEAVING.

Oh bore off OP

I hate it when posters just say YABU Well okay, but Why.

That stupid . If you've got something to say, say it, FFS.

Of course people wouldn't be so direct/blunt/rude if they were speaking to someone face-to-face. Isn't that the point?

I don't think you're being unreasonable to have an opinion on what you read - but - I prefer to get honest answers if I ask a question. Even if people are nasty it's good to know how someone REALLY feels. They wouldn't say it to your face but they are thinking it in their heads.

I find it refreshing. Everybody knows AIBU is a no holds barred board. If you’re asking a question on here be prepared to be told the bare truth or at least that posters perception of it.

There’s so much mollycoddling that goes on these days. Sometimes it’s helpful to be told in no uncertain terms that yeah you’re being a knob.

Yes, I am awful. Thank you for noticing.

Yanbu. Some trolls have got their claws into mumsnet and won’t let go.

What particularly saddens me is when someone posts about having an argument with their partner and everyone piles on to say “leave him!!” even where OP is pregnant and jobless and it was obviously a minor argument.

I’m sure some people join forums at least partly because they enjoy having a safe, anonymous go at other people.

Seems unpopular but i agree with you - relatively new here, young first time mum, asked for some advice about getting my baby to sleep better and was bombarded with truly awful posts about how i shouldnt have had a child if i didnt want to take care of it, how selfish people like me shouldnt have babies, how stupid i must be to have had a baby if i didn't want broken sleep, etc. I ended up name changing because several truly awful people made me feel like such a bad mother that i didn't want to be associated with my original username on other posts about other things. And i cried for a week.

I do get a bit fed up with people on Mumsnet saying they don't like Mumsnet. Go and see what's on the telly.

If you only read the threads that get included in the emails, you get a warped view of MN; the controversial/harsh posts tend to get the most clicks (although you often get fun/silly threads too. I just check active threads in the app, and ignore anything that sounds too harsh for my sensitive wee soul :)

I don’t much like the ‘Mean Girls’ vibe you find in AIBU. People can be quite judgemental, relish pointing out mistakes irrelevant to the post and all pile on with in-jokes at the poster’s expense. It’s a bit sad.

I have persevered with it as I’ve had some useful responses in relation to my own dilemmas.

But I have noticed the same usernames tend to crop up as the classic meanies.

Posters say, “if you don’t like it, scroll on by,” and “its AIBU, what do you expect?” but it’s a bit grim that we use that to justify keyboard-warrior bullying.

YANBU. I am awful.

bombarded with truly awful posts about how i shouldnt have had a child if i didnt want to take care of it, how selfish people like me shouldnt have babies, how stupid i must be to have had a baby if i didn't want broken sleep, etc

Don’t forget that Mumsnet attracts a fair number of people who hate women and want to have a go at them. I’m not suggesting that all negative responses are from such people, of course not, but there are people who come here specifically to put the boot in to women.

You had me at viscous responses

@ContessaferJones - yes, although I guess some posters do lay it on a bit thick.

We're all awful.

If you are easily offended or upset by things you read online, the Internet is not the place for you.