Not AIBU but what 'adult' thing have you never done?

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What 'adult' thing have you never done?

I have reached the grand old age of 53 and have never booked a holiday abroad. I wouldn't even know where to start! and I fancy a holiday but don't know how to do it Holidays have always been in the UK, camping when the DC were young and caravanning for the last 12 years. My last foreign trip was when I was 19 and DM booked it. I just had to give her the money for it.

If you have been proudly bragging about it, I am afraid to tell you that internet forums ARE social media too

Yes, but MN is a ninja social media.

You can disagree without being rude and insulting. It's not my fault if you are feeling awkward. Social media is hard to navigate sometimes.

I’m 42 and have never lived alone

water

Its ok

Im 50 and ive never lived alone

Learnt to drive
Have a baby
Go travelling
Go to university

Never paid bills
Never had kids
Never gotten married (but will be getting married soon)
Never bought a house
Never rented a home
Never been drunk
Never tried drugs
Never lived alone
Never voted in elections

I have never:
Driven a car
Paid rent or a mortgage (went from living with my DM to living with DH & he was responsible for the mortgage when we had 1)
Paid a utility bill
Gone to uni

How come people have never paid bills?

In my case ineed its because my husband does

I don’t think ive paid a bill if by bill people mean utilities

Glad it’s not just me Rufus! It always feels like something I ‘should’ have done at some point but it just hasn’t worked out that way!

I honestly think people who have never paid a bill because their DH is in charge should have a look into them.

It's bad enough when your DH gets sick or worst, if you can't take over the house yourself, you are putting yourself in a desperate situation.

Bills, tax, car.. it's really not hard: if you are writing on MN, you can do all of that. It's just practice, none of us knew how to do anything until we tried. You just figure it out.

@RufustheLanglovingreindeer @waterlego
But do you not think you should at least start trying to pay a bill? Heaven forbid something happens to your dh then it’s another hurdle you have to deal with essentially??!!

My friend her OH was very ill for months and hospitalised, she did not know how to put petrol in her car let alone pay bills. It was a wake up call. She is in her forties.

For those of you who don't pay bills do you at least go through them with your husband/partner to see you are getting the best deal etc?

Have you never lived on your own? Don't have a mobile phone? No credit card?

I’ve never gone abroad on my own or flown on my own.

Never had anything waxed.
Never seen a dead body.
Never smoked a cigarette.
Never driven abroad.

I'm really baffled by the people who have never cleaned the loo or put the bins out - I get that these things become your partner's job but you must have had to do it at some stage, surely?

I've been a single mum for over 4 years so do all the adulty stuff in my house, including DIY, basic car mechanics, etc. Still doesn't stop me acting like a big kid though - here's to never growing up!

There is no way on gods earth I could leave my DP to clean the toilet.

And as an aside, even if you do not pay bills, it is worth taking out a credit card and buying something small each month or so that you would be buying anyway and paying it back immediately, so that you have not only a credit history, but a very good one. That’s worth more than gold if the bill payer in your family suddenly becomes ill, leaves or the worst happens.

I’ve never;
cooked a roast dinner
Cleaned my car
Checked the oil/water/tire pressure in my car
Drunk any wine/beer (I only drink one type of cider and one cocktail and only at Christmas and new year)
Held or attended a dinner party
Been to a NYE party
Used a lawnmower
Used a drill/saw or screwdriver
Phoned for a takeout
Checked under the kids’ beds for monsters
Slept without my husband (when he’s away I doze on the sofa but that’s it)

Lipper, I have paid bills. It was living alone that I said I had never done.

@pinkrocker - I’m the same. Otherwise competent baker & cook but can’t do scones or poached eggs to save my life!

Weirdly I’ve been to court a lot! Represented myself (family court, contact hearings), been a witness and called for jury service. Don’t think that’s a good thing.

“I'm chronically ill, extremely unlikely to be able to work again, have a nice housing association flat, and have had bad enough experiences with relationships that I really could not be arsed with all that again!” Pretty much same here. Although I’m not overly keen on my flat and may move again (I’ve moved a lot)

“I don't understand the appeal of dinner parties.” It’s not for everyone. I’m a fairly competent and confident cook and when I’ve hosted I’ve also stuck to tried and trusted dishes that aren’t too onerous. The company makes a difference too and the people that I invite/invited ( not done it in a while for health reasons) are easy going non-judgmental and suitably appreciative. They bring wine/dessert/flowers and behave appropriately.

Having read on here of nightmare guests who are fussy eaters/criticise the food, are rude/boring/high maintenance types and who don’t so much as thank the host/cook I totally get why that can be off-putting if that’s your experience.

Did it most when living overseas and we (ex and I) weren’t on a high income and restaurants were far from home (so either he couldn’t drink to drive us or shelling out £££ for taxis home as buses stopped around 7pm) and it was a “thing” in our circle at that time so it was very much reciprocated too. Also wasn’t just having dinner/polite conversation, we’d play board games and card games and have a good laugh with it all.

Barbecues and home “picnics” in the gardens and nearby parks were something we did too.

We had a lovely time of it and I have very fond memories of them. Even when dishes went wrong it was treated with good humour and we’d make do with a quick alternative or order in.

It was all very relaxed.

“Never voted in elections” 😱 how old are you? My dds 19 and has voted. Why not?

It IS scary how many don’t deal with their own bills! Makes you very vulnerable! Plus you’re very likely paying over the odds for a lot.

With my ex the situation was reversed, I was the one that dealt with bills, banking and insurance (inc car even before I’d passed my test!) he was utterly clueless!

When we split within a few days he did empty the joint accounts which admittedly I didn’t see coming but he was a mess with other stuff cos it was all in my name and for quite some time I discovered much later had unwittingly been driving without car insurance - it was up for renewal a few months after we split and he just assumed I’d keep paying it! On a car I didn’t even have access to! (I’d passed test by this point) he got pulled over by police and fined and blamed me! Arse!

“Never driven abroad.” Ooh not done that

To those who haven't paid bills, it's a real shock when/if you have to. I'm not talking about me, but my mother was widowed at 87 after 66 years of marriage. Over the last two years she's had to learn all kinds of "stuff"; obviously we've helped her, but I genuine didn't realise that my father had been solely responsible for sorting it all out.

I had to help a woman at a petrol station once. She was elderly and her husband had just died. He had always filled the car with fuel.
My DH's ex mil had never had to write a check and she was totally lost hen the fil died. It was so sad 😔
I have never put up shelves or wallpaper. But I don't rely on DH for things like that either. We'd get a handy person in and pay them because we're both rubbish.