If you know you snore, don't sleep on a coach?

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I might be being unreasonable.

Just got back from a three hour coach journey. A guy to the left of me was snoring the WHOLE way. It was one of those horrible snores, it made me feel quite sick 🤮. His wife didn't say anything or nudge him.

I know he could well have had health issues that make him snore. But Aibu to think that ypu shouldn't plan on sleeping in a small space if you snore that loud. Or whoever your with should wake you? I'm pretty sure that this was their only travel today and they arnt jet lagged or anything.

I may be being precious!

YANBU that kind of noise is gross, yuk!

@vhs95 why didn't you wake your husband, or nudge him so he stopped snoring?

If my late husband had let me embarrass myself by snoring in public, without helping me stop, I'd have been furious with him. Not to mention if I slept and snored through a scenic journey I'd been looking forward to.

You were frightened of him but what would he have done to all of you?

I wasn’t frightened, concerned that he might respond badly maybe. Have you been on a plane with an aggressive, abusive person? I have and it is frankly terrifying even though it wasn’t directed at me. So yes I wasn’t prepared to risk it.

Plus as I said in an earlier post I also felt embarrassed and awkward. I didn’t want to humiliate him. So a mixture of a number of things.

Plus as I said in an earlier post I also felt embarrassed and awkward.

Well that was you. What about the other people in the cabin?

@PegasusReturns I have no idea how long I'd been snoring for before my friend told me. I've been widowed for seven years, so I could have started at any point between then and a year ago when I found out*. If I woke briefly in the night, it never occurred to me that I could have woken myself up by snoring. Because obviously by the time |I was conscious I wasn't snoring!

This stuff isn't hard. Just use a bit of logic.

*I sometimes wonder how often I'd moaned about snorers, while oblivious to the fact that I did it myself

It’s like people Don’t understand how snoring works. Unless you hold the man’s eyelids open, the snoring will just start again when he falls back asleep.

Yanbu I get people can’t help snoring, but farting is natural and generally unstoppable too but hugely frowned upon on public transport. I live with a snorer and have had years of sleep deprivation which exacerbates a medical condition I have because he can’t help it. His wife should have been elbowing him awake. It’s not impossible to stay awake for a three hour trip. Boring yes but not impossible. If he’d been farting in his sleep there would have been outrage.

Well that was you. What about the other people in the cabin?

No one felt comfortable enough to wake him. It was suggested by the crew that we could if we wanted to. They certainly didn’t want to and as the people in authority maybe others took there lead from them? I don’t know because I didn’t grill them. Why would I and why does it matter why people didn’t wake him?

You should have turned your head away and whistled quickly as loud as possible every 10 minutes. I would have

I love that so many people think you’re being unreasonable. They’re fine to listen to a man snore for 3 hours on a coach but god forbid a dog barks for 30 seconds in an garden next door to a mumsnetter. Or a cat poos on their lawn. Aren’t they just doing what they do too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The man obviously can’t help that he snores, but clearly it wouldn’t be pleasant to sit listening to it for hours.

I don't think it's remotely unreasonable to be frustrated and irritated by someone snoring. But if you have the option of doing something about it, then do it, rather than get more and more wound up about it.

I'd have accidentally knocked him as I walked past, if I couldn't face waking him properly.

(the guy that pegasus is on about, that is)
The coach guy - well I think I'd have been tempted to ask his wife (in a friendly and sympathetic manner) if she could possibly give him a nudge.

I'm a wuss about a lot of things, but much braver if I know I'm never going to see the people I need to approach again!