If you know you snore, don't sleep on a coach?

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I might be being unreasonable.

Just got back from a three hour coach journey. A guy to the left of me was snoring the WHOLE way. It was one of those horrible snores, it made me feel quite sick 🤮. His wife didn't say anything or nudge him.

I know he could well have had health issues that make him snore. But Aibu to think that ypu shouldn't plan on sleeping in a small space if you snore that loud. Or whoever your with should wake you? I'm pretty sure that this was their only travel today and they arnt jet lagged or anything.

I may be being precious!

I’m so ashamed of my snoring. Apparently it’s terrible. I’m not able to go backpacking and share dorms anymore- something I absolutely loved- because I’m so ashamed. I don’t know what I would do on a coach. How could I help it if I fell asleep? I also completely understand how you felt sick. It’s horrible to hear too.

@PegasusReturns.
He quite possibly didn’t know that he was snoring so loudly.

@flamingoandjohn

I explained why I didn’t wake him up. Frankly he should take some responsibility for himself. Why should it be up to me, a stranger, to have to ensure he behaves appropriately?!

You didn’t want to wake him up because you are a tiny lady and he was a big man? Fair enough. What about all the other people on the plane who you said were chatting about it? Were all of them too frightened?

Frankly he should take some responsibility for himself. Why should it be up to me, a stranger, to have to ensure he behaves appropriately?!

Because he was doing something he has no control over. Snoring isn’t a lifestyle choice.

@flamingo stop being a dick and trying to imply that it’s unreasonable of anyone to confront a stranger in these circumstances.

As I said I didn’t conduct a poll of the others but I would assume many felt the same - why take the risk? The crew certainly weren’t prepared to.

If you’d have woken him up - good for you. I didn’t and I was not being unreasonable in choosing not to.

Unreasonable of anyone not to confront a stranger.

Some people are so fucking weird!

YANBU I would've been pissed off at this but then I am irritated by noise really easily

And I think you are being a dick still bitching and moaning about something that someone did that they had no control over.
Was he snoring for fun?
Was he doing it just to piss people off?

No.
It’s not like a group of people having a conversation with no consideration for others for example. He has no control over this.

I find it fucking weird that entire families were sat there crying and no one had the stones to tell him.

. I don't particularly like listening to music while travelling, id rather read.

Advantage of noise cancelling. You can pop them on and turn on the NC button, and it then blocks out much of the surrounding noise anyway, leaving you free to read. I do it in planes all the time.

Flamingoandjohn

You think I’m bitching and moaning?! Get a grip

I’m expressing solidarity with the OP and gave an example, in solidarity, of a similar scenario. For some reason you’re determined to see me as being in the wrong.

Two young children and a pregnant woman were crying out of sheer exhaustion. Not being able to sleep and be subjected to noise pollution is distressing.

The chap could have taken a number of steps to mitigate the discomfort but you don’t want to address any of those, you’d rather rail against the people he made suffer. I’m assuming you’re a similarly selfish snorer.

And you know what? The reason I’m most irritated is not because I didn’t have the “stones” to wake him, although it’s true I had a thought for safety. The overriding reason I didn’t wake him up is because -more fool me- I was being nice. I didn’t want to humiliate or embarrass him.

In fact by the end of ten hours there was a remarkable sense of camaraderie in the cabin. After about three hours people had given up trying to sleep and were walking about chatting (and complaining).

There you go. That’s the bitching and moaning.
People walking about and moaning is far more selfish that one man doing something that he had no idea he was doing and was out of his control.

I have sleep apnea. I snore like a pig and often wake myself up with loud snores.

Sometimes travelling on public transport makes me sleepy and I doze off. And snore.

Apologies to anyone who has ever traveled alongside me.

But I'm not going to lock myself at home and never travel because of a fairly harmless condition.

But I'm not going to lock myself at home and never travel because of a fairly harmless condition.

No, you must. Snoring in public is clearly the most selfish thing anyone can ever do on public transport. No being drunk and singing, not allowing you child to play an annoying tablet game, not playing load music, nope it’s snoring. You must never ever go out again lest you fall asleep and someone gets upset because you are making a noise that is outside your control, you don’t know you are doing and could easily be stopped by someone giving you a nudge.

@FlamingoAndJohn 😂😂😂

Jeez flamingoandJohn you really seem to be struggling with comprehension.

How on earth have you translated chatting and camaraderie to bitching and moaning?! And what is it that you think was selfish? We weren’t disturbing anyone else - as I’ve explained there wasn’t anyone else to disturb!

As for out of his control are you saying that he couldn’t have done any of the things I suggested up thread?

I have really severe sleep apnoea and am so self conscious about snoring that I do everything I can to stay awake whilst travelling, so judgemental people can't slag me off. I use a CPAP machine every night but I still struggle with staying awake in a moving vehicle. I forced myself to stay awake during a recent 12 hour night flight because I was so worried about the noise - it made me really unwell and the headaches have only just stopped. I don't have anyone to nudge me and wake me up, so I find travelling stressful.

You're right. You are being precious

Why on earth didn't you ask his wife?

"I'm really sorry to ask, but could you possibly nudge your husband to see if that will stop his snoring for a little while?"

What's the worst that could have happened?

How on earth have you translated chatting and camaraderie to bitching and moaning?!
What were you talking about then? You were complaining about this man.
And what is it that you think was selfish? We weren’t disturbing anyone else - as I’ve explained there wasn’t anyone else to disturb!
Ah so it’s ok for you to talk? The entire rest of the plane was awake because of this one man? You can all walk about chatting and waking up anyone who did manage to get to sleep.

@PegasusReturns, who was actually sitting next to him? If he was 'a bear of a man' then presumably they were almost/actually touching him. If they'd given him a nudge, he'd have woken or stirred without even knowing why.

YANBU. I would have asked to move if there were any free seats.

As for your anti snoring steps...

i) asking the crew to wake him if he was noisy
Perhaps he doesn’t know he snores.

ii) drinking less before he got on plane
How do you know he had been drinking?

iii) setting an alarm to wake him after a few hours
And waking up everyone else in the process.

iv) lying his seat flat
Not possible in most seats, also snoring tends to be worse on your back.

i) asking the crew to wake him if he was noisy
ii) drinking less before he got on plane
iii) setting an alarm to wake him after a few hours
iv) lying his seat flat

i) Fair enough if he KNOWS he snores. I'm single now. My snoring is a relatively recent development. I didn't know I snored until I shared a room with a friend a year or so ago.
ii) makes no difference to me. I'm not a big drinker at all, and I snore even if I've not drunk anything for a week.
iii) I'm sure his fellow passengers will appreciate an alarm going off
iv) Lie flat seats?!! Where?!! Also I snore lying completely;y flat in bed.

Your suggestions are entirely illogical.

Ha! Was typing my post just as Flamingo posted, apparently.