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111/GP tomorrow/tell him to man up?

231 replies

NotYourHun · 20/02/2020 23:32

When I got home from work husband had pain in his lower right chest/upper abdomen and was struggling to breathe in properly. He kept telling me he was fine and he’d just got very cold on his cycle home from work (it’s about 45 mins-an hour in all weathers so not entirely inconceivable) and would be fine once he warmed up. I put it down to an intercostal muscle sprain or maybe a virus. Before bed I checked his temperature and it was 37.8 so again, I assumed viral infection. Kept telling me he was fine 🙄

We tried to get an early night at about 8.45 as we were both shattered. He’s been lying next to me with really laboured/irregular breathing, whimpering. He’s now got aching/pulsating hips/bum/legs. His temp is 38.3. He just asked me to check the colour of his legs ‘because they feel like they are rotting away’. I’m assuming he’s a bit feverish?! They look normal! I’ve given him some paracetamol but he’s point blank refusing to come out from under the duvet or take off his pjs. He was complaining that he hadn’t been able to poo today earlier (very unusual for him).

He’s an endurance athlete and used to a fresh kind of hell when it comes to suffering so I’m inclined to think whatever this is must be pretty awful to have floored him like this. I have no idea whether he’s about to drop down dead or if he’s being a bit dramatic.

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WellThisIsShit · 21/02/2020 18:14

Hope he’s ok Flowers

Justaboy · 21/02/2020 18:23

Hope you are ok. Sounds like sepsis you me - I’m a doctor and would say A and E to this story

Last time we heard from the OP was five miniutes to midnight last night!

We can only persume shes involved in his care & problem and hasn't got around to posting back!

Myshitisreal · 21/02/2020 18:33

Fingers crossed he's ok 🤞 ♥

Haybo26 · 21/02/2020 20:08

How is he? Been thinking about you both today.

GreytExpectations · 21/02/2020 22:33

We can only persume shes involved in his care & problem and hasn't got around to posting back!

Hmm yes, I'm sure thats all we can assume.... Hmm

SuzieSunshine · 21/02/2020 22:45

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incognitomum · 21/02/2020 23:09

This isn't made up what a ridiculous assumption.

Myshitisreal · 21/02/2020 23:28

I don't know why people lose their shit and assume posts aren't real, just because there's no update in less than 24 hrs 😂

Frownette · 21/02/2020 23:33

I don't think Greyt lost their shit

SuzieSunshine · 21/02/2020 23:56

I can't see that anyone 'has lost their shit'.

Holdencaulfieldshomeboy · 22/02/2020 00:48

Be patient people, OP is obviously busy looking after husband.

Zaza1414 · 22/02/2020 00:56

I'm now thinking this is the same as the toddler bruising post? Hope you are both okay?xx

BusterGonad · 22/02/2020 01:41

What's the toddler bruising post?

RhagePip · 22/02/2020 01:58

Op be kind to yourself.
I had sepsis last year. I went from an infection on my scalp, taking antibiotics and resting to sepsis in a blink. My gp was useless the receptionist phoned an ambulance and saved my life.
I truly hope all is well with your DH and you are passed out somewhere sleeping while he is getting the hospital care he needs.

managedmis · 22/02/2020 02:04

Hope he's OK Flowers

GiveHerHellFromUs · 22/02/2020 03:13

Hope you are ok. Sounds like sepsis you me - I’m a doctor and would say A and E to this story

This is the medical equivalent of someone responding to a thread and starting their post with "male perspective here".
You're giving the same answer as 60 other people - it doesn't matter if you're a doctor if your answer is exactly the same as everyone who hasn't said 'I'm a doctor'Hmm

TabbyStar · 22/02/2020 07:09

This is the medical equivalent of someone responding to a thread and starting their post with "male perspective here".

Not really, of course you don't know whether people are who they say they are, but someone being a doctor is definitely one of the factors I would use to judge the reliability of an opinion. One of the things I value about Mumsnet is getting to hear from people in professions that I don't have easy access to in real life.

NotYourHun · 22/02/2020 07:26

Omg sorry! Late to the party with an update! DH was seen by the out of hours GP. He’s not dying, appears to have a bad virus/some kind of flu. Confirmed by the fact that I now have exactly the same symptoms. It is absolutely hideous. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

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OkMaybeNot · 22/02/2020 07:29

Glad he's not dead, OP Smile

Hope you both get better soon.

Purplewithred · 22/02/2020 07:29

Thank you so much for the update, as you can see mumsnet was collectively holding its breath. Flowers, hope you get well soon!

CanIHaveATiaraPlease · 22/02/2020 07:32

Oh my gosh I’ve been thinking about you both. Glad he’s ok & hope you both get better soon Flowers

GiveHerHellFromUs · 22/02/2020 07:38

@tabbystar I'd agree if that poster was suggesting something different to the 60 posters before them, but not if they're just saying the same thing

Trumpton · 22/02/2020 07:48

I hope you both get well soon . It sounds horrible .

incognitomum · 22/02/2020 08:07

Aw hope you both get well soon

TiddlestheCat · 22/02/2020 08:14

Glad to hear that. However, it's still worth being mindful of Sepsis in case either of you ever deteriorate. The trouble is that it can be very hard to diagnose early on and then can progress suddenly. I was stupidly reassured by medics when told that my husband just had a bad virus/flu when in fact he had Sepsis. I'm not saying that this is the case here. Just that if either of you were to deteriorate you should call 111 again and always trust your own instincts. Hope that you're both feeling better soon!