To ask were you smacked by your parents as a child, and do you forgive them now?

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I was smacked by my parents as a child. Sometimes they would completely lose their shit and smack me over and over, whilst shouting at me. Each syllable would be a smack. I remember wanting my dm to stop talking, so that she would stop hitting me. I remember being in the street and my dm taking a swing at my arse, and I managed to move to dodge it.

I guess it stopped at the "appropriate" age. 10 or something.

I have never smacked my dc, and would use time outs to discipline them. My parents moved with the times and followed my lead. I forgive them, and they are very loving and supportive now. It's strange to think that happened now.

*with race

I was smacked as a child If id been very naughty despite repeated warnings and or if I had done something to myself or someone else in danger or harm. Not as you describe though OP. My dad was the one who did the smacking and it was never out of control. It was one or two smacks across the bottom followed by an explanation as to why I had had a smack, apologising to the person I had hurt or been naughty to, and then told I was very loved and please not to do it again. IMO there’s a world of difference between that and the smacking you described. I wouldn’t smack my own children as I just don’t think I could and it’s not culturally appropriate now but I don’t have anything to ‘forgive’. Even lionesses will give their cubs a smack round the ear for playing up.

I actually find "calmly" smacking more chilling... If you haven't lost control and still do it, it's still wrong... "I used physical violence because..." makes me shudder.

My best friends parents didn't smack their children. They were kind and loving and firm with boundaries but never hit them. I loved them and spent a lot of time at their house. They were my role models.

@2020vision10 you’d rather a parent of years gone by smack their child out of anger As described by OP? Ok then...

A snack on the back of the leg did me no harm at all,I knew I was being naughty and it stopped me pretty sharpish.
What I still internally rage as was at primary school being slapped by a frustrated maths teacher for not being able to do the maths.for some reason I can't forget it.

Wow nope didn't say that at all... I said I found calm smacking more chilling... If you read any other of my comments as well you would clearly see that isn't the case but thanks for twisting my post