Unreasonably irritated that only about 8 people call me by my correct name?

[Imnotcalledthat]

It’s unusual, granted but I didn’t choose it. Still, it isn’t hard to say.

A handful of friends and my sister are the only ones who say it correctly. Everyone else says a similarly spelled but very differently pronounced name.

Imagine if your name was Joan and everyone said Joanne ... it’s that sort of idea.

It doesn’t matter how many times you correct them.

Should I just give in and accept I’m a Joanne to most people?

I used to have a friend at school called Naomi. She hated it when people called her Nyomi and not Nayomi. The clue is in the spelling FGS.

I prefer to go by the shortened version of my name. I have the shortened version in my email signature at work but an unhelpful policy means that I'm under the longer version on the systems. Think Sam/Samantha. So if I email someone who doesn't know me personally (big office) and the email signature reads Sam, more often than not they'll reply with 'Hi Samantha'. Because that's who Outlook tells them the email is from. Does my head in. Read the fecking signature, it's not hard!

Ginfordinner but some Naomis pronounce their own names Nyomi.

It's a bit rich to expect people to know before you even speak to them when there is more than one common pronunciation. The pronunciation you describe is the norm in the USA but I'm not sure it is in the UK.

I happen to know two Naomis now, and they both pronounce it Nayomi. I am in south Yorkshire.

Ginfordinner are you seriously extrapolating from a sample of two to try to prove a universal point about an entire country?

I apparently look like many other very popular girls names from the 1980s so in work if people call up asking to speak to "Sarah" I just direct them to a random Sarah from the staff directory - is that Sarah in Accounts or Marketing you were after? No, I'm Rebecca, was it me you were after? Oh, you should have said!

I think getting people's name wrong is really rude. Where I work, people are referred to as Mr, Mrs Miss. It is amazing how many times they call each other the wrong thing,,,for example, a teacher whose teaching assistant is Miss Edmonds calling her Mrs Edwards. Every single time. It is written down, for crying out loud, on her name badge and on all other documents. To not get it right is just rude. It is then modeled incorrectly for others, including children. There are lots of other examples - e.g. people introduced as Maria, constantly called Marie; Joshua being shortened to Josh without agreeing to it; Jodie being called Josie; Anna being called Emma. Either I work with spectacularly deaf people or they are just rude.

It's a bit rich to expect people to know before you even speak to them when there is more than one common pronunciation.

This isn't about when you first meet somebody, though. If you've only seen her name written, you can easily just ask "Are you a Nay-omi or a Ny-omi?" or, if you choose the wrong one, she can politely correct you.

The problem is when people don't bother to listen and learn or even care to get the person's name right - even when they've known them for years.

Randomly assigning somebody a name and just using it as if it then becomes their name is outrageously rude beyond belief. If you don't know or have forgotten somebody's name, just ask them - don't just make up your own alternative and expect them to know that you mean them.

I know a Naomi who is pronounced Nay-mee.

Naymee is unusual as it has an O in it so most people would pronounce it nay o mi

I agree, but that's her name.