Unreasonably irritated that only about 8 people call me by my correct name?

[Imnotcalledthat]

It’s unusual, granted but I didn’t choose it. Still, it isn’t hard to say.

A handful of friends and my sister are the only ones who say it correctly. Everyone else says a similarly spelled but very differently pronounced name.

Imagine if your name was Joan and everyone said Joanne ... it’s that sort of idea.

It doesn’t matter how many times you correct them.

Should I just give in and accept I’m a Joanne to most people?

Call them the wrong name back and if they say "my name isn't Bob" say "my name isn't Joanne". Repeat until they get it right.

Blame your parents!

Call them another name every time they do it. That was how we stopped my MIL from using the wrong name for my DD. Her excuse was she couldn't remember so we started using the wrong name for her and after a few times she got angry and told us to stop, we just smiled and said we couldn't remember. She never did it again.

Why does it matter if you're identified? By the looks of your username you've name changed for this anyway.

Waitingforadulthood

I used to have a neighbour called "Maryam" (pronounced Mary - am). When I was first introduced I misheard and called her Miriam. She said "Oh - have I been re-christened?" (Not in a nasty way, I hasten to add) and told me her name again.

Like you, she had to fight against being mis-named. I never made the mistake again, though.

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Call them another name every time they do it. That was how we stopped my MIL from using the wrong name for my DD. Her excuse was she couldn't remember so we started using the wrong name for her and after a few times she got angry and told us to stop, we just smiled and said we couldn't remember. She never did it again.

Nice one Sorrow

Aye I know your pain. I get everything but my actual name. The only people who get my name right is basically my family that’s all.

It's because you let them get away with it
I have a long name which people often try to shorten. I have a number of strategies

1. Long hard stare, followed by, 'Did you just call me....?'
2. (For those for whom 1) didn't work, Long hard stare, followed by me turning round and walking in the opposite direction. There are very few people who I tolerate calling me by a shortened name, and then only because I like them If it bothers you, don't respond to anything but your chosen name

I have a friend named Bethan who just doesn’t respond whenever someone calls her Bethany because it isn’t her name. She’s generally quite blunt and has the guts to literally just ignore people when they do it, I’m not sure I would.

Just say it in a bright way and then move the conversation on. Every time.

So Moira would you like a coffee?

Its Maura. big smile and I'd love one thanks.

Sugar moira?

Its Maura. Big smile and 15 thanks.

It will drive you potty but it's the only way. Speaking from experience

If anyone still insists after 2 or 3 goes then theyre just being rude and I would start the ignoring them route (but only if it's not inconvenient to you) and the calling them by the wrong name route because it could be genuinely a mistake.
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onalongsabbatical I also know a Maura who is referred to frequently as Moira. I have pointed it out but the thickos still persist. My sister's called Maria and she's always being called Marie which really boils her piss.

YANBU I have the exact same issue with my last name.
Hilariously I have started to get people of asian ethnicity laugh and say they can't pronounce that!
Also had someone ask if it's Polish (it isn't and doesn't look it).
People are very ignorant indeed.

I would correct them and say my name with a smile. They're rude for persistently getting it wrong.

What boils my piss is people who insist on spelling my name wrong. Ok, not as annoying as saying it, but arghgh just look at how I spell it!

Ugh I'm sorry OP. I started having to go by my (not so loved) full name because if I use my (preferred) short form people here consistantly call me by a similar but entirely different (and not awesome) name. It's upsetting!

I agree with PP, you're just going to have to politely correct them every single time (where you feel you can).

Belly I have a friend called Ieva. That's Latvian version of Eva. She is constantly called Leva - like in your case, people assume she is spelling her name for ome reason with a small letter.

One of my DDs gets this constantly. Admittedly we gave her a (lovely) name with a couple of options for pronunciation, but to my mind we pronounce it the obvious way. I'm pretty relaxed about doctors' receptionists and people who don't know her, but some of my friends persisted in calling her the wrong name for years, in a way that suggested that they thought I was wrong (e.g. I'd say (not her real name) "Alicia [Alissia] isn't very well" and they'd reply "Oh, poor Aleesha").

Anyway, she's 4 now, and skilled at stating "Actually, my name is X", accompanied by hands on hips and a long hard stare as Hazzell2 suggests. It sorts people out very quickly!!

No need to be mean and nasty about it. I have a Scandi name that most English speakers can't pronounce. I just smile and say yes, it's an unusual name, it's ..
Never been a problem and most people are capable of learning.

I’m looking for a new hairdresser as my current one insists on calling me “Joanne”. When I corrected her (not for the first time), she said, “At least I’m calling you by the right name.” NO. YOU’RE NOT.

If people are misreading an I for an L in emails, by far the easiest thing to do is to change your font to a serif font. Lnstant Lllumination!

I get this from my neighbours.

My name is simple as hell. Really common. Along the lines of Emily. And I want to scream MY NAME IS EMILY! NOT EMMA! It's never been Emma! My husband calls me Emily to them. I say my own name to them. I sign birthday and Christmas cards as Emily, it's Emily on my Facebook. It's Emily on my Instagram and Snapchat. They must know my name is not Emma by now. It's not even a nickname, it's a whole different name!

I'm tempted to ask my youngest to "innocently" inquire as to why they call his mummy Emma. I've tried repeating my name in correction before now but it just won't sink in.

God its so fucking rude!! If you can read and you can write, you can grasp, remember and use the proper version. If its any consolation, OP, it isnt just you - I have a really really common name (born in the 70’s so think Emma/Sarah/Claire) and people still get it wrong!! Inexcusable!

I know a lady called Cherie and have heard her being called Cherry and Sherry.

My name is fairly unusual and I'm often called similar sounding names but only on the phone and I let that go. People who matter know what I'm called.

OP, you must be frustrated!

Friends of mine have just had a baby, they have called her a name I am unfamiliar with (it is French) so I asked them if I was pronouncing it correctly and they corrected me until I got it right. I think if you're not sure how someone pronounces their name you ask and you ask them if you are doing it properly and then you make sure you remember how to say it. Getting someone's name wrong repeatedly is very rude.

I often get called by my full name when I'm always knwn by a shorter version of it, even when I correct people still use the long version. Which is irritating but at leat they aren't getting it totally wrong.
I'd just keep correcting them until they get it right OP.

Most English people can't actually hear the difference between their incorrect pronunciation and the way my name should actually be said, so correcting them goes like this:

"Hello, i'm Clare"
"Hi Clur"
"It's actually Clare"
"Clur?"
"Clare"
"Clur?"
"Clare"
"Clur? I've got it now, it's Clur isn't it?"

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