Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

[bigmamama]

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

I do hope OP comes back and isn't put off by the sneery criticism of her language.

Vaccinations, not needles. Get them done. Your husband is an idiot.

Vaccinations, not needles. Get them done. Your husband is an idiot

So are you for correcting use of the word "needles" despite several of us explaining it is a regional variation in language.

We called them needles where I grew up - no one would’ve said “I’m taking my child for their vaccinations”! It made me smile to see it here.

Take him for his needles OP - make sure he’s fully better first though. Your dh doesn’t need to be told - if he’s anything like my dh he’ll probably forget all about it!

Ah, I see a fair few posters in here have completely missed the ‘be kind’ movement against online nastiness and think pulling the OP up on her language choice is acceptable.

OP, you wouldn’t be able to live with yourself if you didn’t get them done and your baby got seriously ill. I suspect your dh wouldn’t either. You know what’s best. Be strong in standing up for what you know is right and get the immunisations x

I've just reported my own post, sorry OP.

One last time for the hard of thinking at the back of the room...

NEEDLES is a perfectly valid word used regionally to describe vaccinations. There is more to the UK than your own particular little corner and people in those other parts of the UK have their own words for things that may be different to the words you use. This does not mean you are right and they are wrong however repeatedly correcting it for being "wrong" makes you a bit of an insular arse.

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As the op is obviously from a district where they are known as “needles” and she began this thread I feel we should go with her preference - so why don’t you stop calling them vaccinations eh?

This is a really good example of Mumsnet being mainly a twat

Op posts for advice on dilemma over getting baby vaccinated while her dh is worried about the impact on their recently unwell baby

Posters, variously: your dh is an idiot; don't call vaccinations a word I don't know but am perfectly capable of understanding; don't you think various terrible diseases are worth your baby having a jab?

I wouldn’t usually endorse going behind your partners back but on this occasion it’s worth it. Yes your DD might be off colour for a day or so afterwards but compared with the horrors and risks of the diseases themselves it’s totally worth it.

I had measles when I was 9. There was no vaccine for it when I was small. I have had significant hearing loss ever since. I have a crap memory but still can vividly remember thinking I was going to die I felt so ill. It’s so good we can protect our DC against terrible diseases. I’d say just get them done.

One last time for the hard of thinking at the back of the room...

NEEDLES is a perfectly valid word used regionally to describe vaccinations. There is more to the UK than your own particular little corner and people in those other parts of the UK have their own words for things that may be different to the words you use. This does not mean you are right and they are wrong however repeatedly correcting it for being "wrong" makes you a bit of an insular arse.

She can call them what she like here but maybe the word is triggering her DH?

BTW you’re not exactly being polite yourself @Hoik

For goodness sake. Get it done. Men can be funny about needles but ignore.

Get the vaccinations done, OP. You know it's the right thing for your child.

And the people who can't cope with a regional variation can seriously just fuck off. I love the linguistic richness of the UK.

Back in the real word where I give vaccinations daily (to animals I admit) the minority of people use the words vaccinations or immunisation. In my lovely South East bubble I hear jabs, jags, needles, booster. I know what every single person means.
I adore the fact that we have a wonderful diverse language with regional words.
Please get your baby his needles.

Real world I should add.

I meant your DS. And ffs OP can call them needles. It’s perfectly obvious what she’s talking about. In a world where you can be anything don’t be a total dick. Should we stop using any regional words from now on? Maybe there could be a MN list of proper words which must be used at all times.

Take your baby to have his jabs.
I’m in North London, there were two infant deaths before Christmas, they had measles and were unvaccinated.

Your husband needs a good shake

The diseases yiur child is being vaccinated for can KILL or severely disab(e your child. Does yiur dh want that??
And yes it does happen.

And whooping cough is one of the milder diseases on the vaccination schedule I'm not sure why you think this. Children die every year from whooping cough and those with respiratory problems (including bronchiolitis) are more susceptible. My daughter was extremely ill for many months due to whooping cough (vaccinations delayed due to bronchiectasis and bronchiolitis).

Would your husband read these responses?

Your child’s health comes before your husband’s wishes.

Every single time.

DH is from a country where there are no 💉 and it is truly frightening.

We are so lucky to live in a country where our children have the chance to be protected. Choice shouldn’t come into it.

Please don't call them needles

That's scary

Is your dh often prone to irrational anxieties? I’m guessing if he was previously ok with you vaccinating DC1 then something has changed and he is struggling to come to terms with seeing his baby so I’ll in hospital. This could be something he needs to address and in doing so he may be able to concede that he’s being an idiot preventing you from taking your baby for his vaccinations. If after that, he still doesn’t want you to have the jabs, do it anyway. You can’t mess around with stuff like this. My BIL caught mumps in the 90’s. It left his fertility damaged. It’s since taken him 8 years and thousands of pounds of ivf for him and his DW to have a baby. Don’t condemn your own son to that...or potentially worse.

Everyone spouting that the child’s health comes before the husbands wishes are failing to recognise that the baby has been ill for months and may not be well enough to cope with the vaccinations right now.

OP I would strongly recommend getting your child vaccinated, however I would also strongly recommend waiting until your baby is completely recovered from the pre existing viruses.

Vaccinations can cause complications when the immune system is already working overtime. It would be fairer on your child to defer for a few weeks until they are fully recovered.

The militant vaxxers on here are so quick to jump to the ‘vaccinate at all costs’ position without really listening properly to the back story. It’s infuriating!

If baby is well enough for them now get them done, we had to put off getting ds vaccinations and trust me it's much harder when they're big enough to know what's coming. But yes , get your Dh to come with you as he can voice his concerns to the nurse and she can explain why its important. Good luck OP x