To think if you want your own snacks in the house you can buy them yourself?

[notyoursnackbitch]

We have two very young DC. I plan and cook all meals, including doing the online food shop. I also work 4 days a week. DH works long hours from home 5 days a week.

He has just stormed out of the kitchen because he "never has any fucking food in this house" after I told him not to eat the snacks I was about to give DC.

AIBU to think at, approaching 40, he can buy his own fucking snacks if he wants them? Am I now everyone's personal snack bitch? And why would he think it's reasonable to eat food that's been bought for our 1 year old?!

@EmeraldShamrock freeze most things, or buy frozen. I batch cook a lot of meals in the few days after the grocery shop day as well. Top up during the week with the likes of bread,milk, potatoes and broccoli (because frozen broccoli goes soggy when its cooked). Everything else, I make sure I buy long dates

order biscuits, for him. Crisps, for him. He already ate them all last week

You aren’t ordering enough, then.

Am I supposed to provide food for everyone....
Yes if you’ve taken control of the online shopping.

I generally do ours, but I don’t need to ask my husband what he needs from the shop because I’ve been with him 20 years and know what he likes to snack on. Just like when he goes to the supermarket he gets what I like.

Going down to the local shop because someone hasn’t ordered enough food is an expensive way to manage groceries.

Unless the children had specifically asked for this snack and he was literally taking the food out of their mouths, it's perfectly reasonable to eat children's snacks.

The OP said they were the last two of that particular item.

Bloomin eck, I do the shopping....,if something runs out I get more.....or ask someone to get more, it’s not difficult! Just a bit communication. If you’re on a tight budget, it’s explained to everyone. The food in our house is everyone’s, and we try to accommodate everyone within reason!

I generally do ours, but I don’t need to ask my husband what he needs from the shop because I’ve been with him 20 years and know what he likes to snack on. Just like when he goes to the supermarket he gets what I like.

Not everyone is a predictable. In this case even the DH doesn't know what he will want so why should OP?

Going down to the local shop because someone hasn’t ordered enough food is an expensive way to manage groceries.

That depends on your local shop surely? I have three large supermarkets within a mile of my house so cost wise makes no difference if I go to a local one. I appreciate that's not the same for everyone but it's a bit of an assumption that it will always be more expensive.

She buys more junk he'll just gobble it all up and it still won't last the fortnight. So is he incapable of making beans on toast or cheesy pasta or boiling an egg to snack on? Too fucking lazy, more like.

I’d cry if my partner stopped me from eating a banana soreen. (Toasted, with butter).

How is he with the rest of the housework/childcare? If he doesn't do a fair share, I would tell him that next week he's in charge of shopping and cooking for the whole family for the whole week. And his budget is £XX (whatever you normally spend).

Why do people need snacks? 3 meals a day should suffice.

He kicked off because food the OP was literally about to give to her child was off limits, and he is a whiny greedy sod.

In this house DH would be in the wrong as we plan the fortnightly shop together

Fascinating to see the ways other couples work. I would sooner starve than plan a fortnightly shop with my OH.

I can't actually believe the flack OP is getting for not providing a fully grown able bodied man enough snacks ffs! Newsflash people snacks, although nice, are not fucking essential! The OP is not starving her husband. He presumably still gets to eat 3 square meals a day, and as far as I can tell OP does not take all his money off of him so he can go to the shop TWO fucking minutes away and buy himself something if he can't live without a sweet treat until the next online shop

Why would you think he has to buy them seperate

Because he'd already eaten what OP had already bought? It's not as if anyone actually needs snacks, is it?

order biscuits, for him. Crisps, for him. He already ate them all last week

You aren’t ordering enough, then

Oh, FFS, Define "enough" snacks. Is OP supposed to have a massive stock in storage in case her DH has a particularly hungry week?

I can't actually believe the flack OP is getting for not providing a fully grown able bodied man enough snacks ffs! - @JRUIN - you new here?

MN Rules:

1. Person with penis must have food all the time.
2. Person with penis does Work. Therefore woman must provide all food, all the time. Even if it is the children's food, because see (1) above.
3. Woman who eats food is fat lazy cow. Needs diet tips.

We had all this last week when someone's wanker dh came home and ate everyone's dinner and a load of MN came on and said bless the poor hangry soul, how dare the Woman withhold her kids' dinner from Person with Penis!!

Fascinating to see the ways other couples work. I would sooner starve than plan a fortnightly shop with my OH.

Me too. I find the idea of planning a fortnightly shop odd anyway. Understandable if someone lives miles away from shops and/or doesn't have a car but if you live near as OP obviously does that kind of planning doesn't seem necessary.

DH and i use a shopping app where we can both add things to the shopping list. And whoever does the shopping (usually me) picks up everything including the others wishes.
Alternatively ask him to write you a list beforebyou get groceries?

Yes I did see (and commented on) that particular thread @DishingOutDone. Bloody unbelievable! I am genuinely shocked and saddened that there are so many subservient women around in this day and age! Wtaf?

Don’t be ridiculous i can’t believe you told a grown man he can’t eat food in his/your own house.

I know. He wanted that banana soreen! Who does the one year old think she is?!

Oh, yes, Dishing, she was told to 'just rustle' something else up, even though they were in a strict budget and he'd already eaten at a mate's house and the poor soul, he was hungry! He never cooked, either, that was her Job, even though she also worked outside the home.

Yeah, OP, bow down to the mighty cock and buy food for him constantly. And everything else.

I can't actually believe the flack OP is getting for not providing a fully grown able bodied man enough snacks ffs!

^^ this, with giant fuck off bells on!!!

My DH is like this. He’s goes to the supermarket and puts loads of gourmet yoghurts, sausage rolls and the leaves them in the fridge and they go off. Or he hoovers up every single snack item in the house within 48 hours of going to the supermarket then complains there is nothing in the house. What he means is that there is nothing he can immediately shove in his mouth in the fridge.
There is always toast, crackers, cheese, fruit, jam, peanut butter, cereal bars, fruit, etc in the house.

Jeez just do it online it’s not difficult.

Stepford bingo!