To be flabbergasted by CF

[Wickedwoo]

Someone posted a thread the other week about how people are CF's on Facebook free sites. I did comment and say I'd had a clear out and used my DH's account to put stuff on our local free site and people wanted stuff but expected me to drop it off to them.

So one of the things i gave away (and delivered) was a Nestcafe Dolce Gusto coffee machine that we had used maybe 5 times i even gave away the coffee pods we had left with it.

Fast forward to today the lady who had it has messaged my DH on Facebook saying she is disgusted she only had the machine 4 weeks used it everyday and now today it's stopped working and her DH is furious because he did not get his coffee this morning and we should be ashamed of ourselves for giving it away knowing it was going to break, and now they are left with boxes of coffee pods and no machine and now her DH is expecting her to get a replacement TODAY and we should contribute.

DH replied something along the lines of f**k off you crazy woman. It was free and it worked fine otherwise it would not of been given away. We gave it away because it was something we did not use. He has now blocked her.

She has now started messaging off what must be her DS Facebook account calling my DH a coward again she's been blocked.

It genuinely was in perfect working order as she knows because she's used it for the last month.

Some people really do have some nerve. I actually laughed when DH rang and told me because i was so shocked.

I will never give anything away on Facebook again now. I can not believe people can be so vile. I am absolutely dreading bumping into her she sounds completely unhinged

I cannot fathom the idea that commenting first instantly gives you sole refusal rights to a stranger's freely-offered property.

It works like that in a retail context, because your forfeited money completes the transaction and claims the item on your behalf, with neither party doing the other a favour; but when it's offered altruistically for no charge?

Who are these people who sit permanently on FB and FreeCycle and think that instantly replying 'mine' to everything, before deciding whether or not they actually want it or could sell it, should take precedence over a genuine polite person who took a little time to decide if they did really want it, could use it and had space for it, rather than risk wasting the offerer's time and then very nicely asking if they could please be considered for it?

You can't just arbitrarily make up your own crazy rules and then get angry at other people for not rolling over and complying with them!

For all you know, her daughter might have had learning difficulties or autism and used the doll as her communications bridge to the outside world - and the mum might have been penniless to buy any clothes for the doll or indeed any other presents for her DD

Oh per-leaze! Do you need a push or can you make any more huge leaps all by yourself?

My stepson who is 16 has called me from college to say he has recieved a threatening message off who we assume is her DS Facebook. He's seen what's happened on his dad's Facebook. I asked if he'd shared or commented he said no he wouldn't get involved in it because the woman's stupid and his dad was trying to stop her giving him a bad name. DSS is not the type of person to argue with anyone just to add, it's just not in his nature. He hasn't replied to the message but is worried. I've told him to keep the message and that I'm pretty sure it's CF sending the message not her DS. My DSS knows of her DS he was year above him in the last few years of high school when him and his DM moved here. DSS hasn't spoken to this lad but says from what he saw of him around school he seems like a nice person.

After that we have decided it's time to contact the police.

What an absolute nightmare over a sodding coffee machine.

NEVER EVER AGAIN!!!!

Going to read replies now with a much needed cup of tea or glass of wine

I would have said "sure, meet me at John Lewis in 30 mins and I will cover the cost of a new machine "...

Then left them there waiting like numpties!!!

Chief Wiggum: "Oh, hooow terrible for you, Mr Simpson, let me get Detective Whogivesadamn STRAIGHT on to the case!!!"

Lisa: "Come on, Dad, let's just go."

Homer: "Quiet, honey - Daddy is waiting for the detective!"

I was just about to say a cease and desist letter is in order about your DH’s business, but the police now

How dare she involve your DS. That’s absolutely vile

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll He wrote it out to say “Pay Cheeky fucker the sum of zero pounds and 0p”

It still floats around the house now and has become the sarcasm took of choice when one of the teens seem to think they should be rewarded for doing their own washing or something

Oh per-leaze! Do you need a push or can you make any more huge leaps all by yourself?

I was deliberately being hyperbolic - I thought that was clear in the context.

Of course it's highly unlikely, I was just pointing out that, however deserving somebody's situation may be when choosing whom to offer your goods to, they're never going to be the most deserving case you could possibly find, so you always have to strike a balance.

Of course, most people are either CF chancers or just honest pleasant people who aren't desperately deserving but would just like to give a new home to something that you no longer want or need and have offered out.

Someone bought a sofa for £20 from us, we ended up delivering it too but said we'd leave it outside his house and he could arrange transport from there to take it inside etc. Dropped sofa off, got cash and CF asked us if we could dispose of the old sofa, no! He then asked us to help him move the new sofa into the lounge and take out the old. Again, we said no.

He then called us to complain 2 weeks later, that it didn't fit in their lounge very well, despite having had the measurements etc. Tough!

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Hahahahah!!!! He's clearly nobody's fool!

@Wickedwoo
What has she said to your DSS?
She sounds unhinged!
Definitely go to the police, they need to have a word.

@JKScot4 to watch his back because he has no idea what's coming to him my DSS is honestly the nicest most polite kind considerate 16 year old i have ever met he certainly doesn't deserve that.

He is doing carpentry at college and is very gifted with his woodwork skills and only has Facebook because he makes benches bird houses and gates and sells them on Facebook to earn himself a bit of money but he's now saying he wants to delete his account. He's really worried about it bless him

She IS unhinged, threatening your son over a free coffee machine ?!?
I hope the police speak to her.

@JKScot4 it's honestly insane. I have contacted our local PCSO who i know and he's told me to report it get an incident number because of threats being made and he'll come and look at the messages and will have a word with her.

I hope that's enough to make her back off and leave us alone.

Apparently she's deleted her post bad mouthing my DH business now. My DH has the screen shot of it though.

Maybe she's managed to get herself a bloody coffee now and is calming down and hopefully realising what a nasty horrible CF she's been.

Reading some replies now and i can't believe the cheek of some people. It is so shocking. You try and be nice giving stuff away for free and get abuse for it.

Fucking vermin. I begrudge scum like her oxygen, never mind a lovely coffee machine.

She's bonkers! YANBU definitely! I have stopped giving things away and don't use facebook for sale pages any more, I just give it to charity. My last experience was with a blender I had - it was new (gift) but I already had 2 and didn't want a third. I was already putting off giving stuff away by some other crazy so decided to sell it for £10 although it was worth more (and completely new).The woman who bought it wouldn't pay and kept demanding I send it. She then called me from a railway station about 5 miles away demanding I took it to her. Had to explain I was away on a business trip and abroad... she got extremely abusive (but she had not made any arrangement re collection/delivery in spite of me asking - she literally just turned up). Never again! I'd rather dump something than give it away or sell it!

I was going to sell a couple of things on Facebook but now I’m too scared! I’ve had great experiences using Freecycle. Can’t believe the cheek of this woman - she’s absolutely bonkers!!

A while ago I was gifting a double Ikea bed. The lady who seemed desperate for it messed about for three weeks wanting to change collection days for lots of reasons, then asked if I could deliver - I'd mad it clear it would only fit in a van as it has a massive headboard, so I said no. Then when she turned up she started picking fault as it had a minor scratch on it (which was on the post offering it for free)

She then said she didn't want it but had come 25 miles so I needed to re-imburse her petrol money! She got told politely that I wouldn't be doing that and I ended up giving the bed to a charity!

I would screenshot the crazy messages and message the group admins.

The coffee machine woman sounds legitimately off her rocker - what must be going on in her head to be hounding and threatening someone who gave her a free coffee machine that subsequently stopped working!? Police is obviously the right call but I doubt it's going to change her belief that she's in the right - just wow!

@123Holly have you got before/after photos? It sounds lovely!

The poor woman's husband only wanted a coffee OP. Where's your sympathy?!

I hope your DSS is ok, in all seriousness. What a fruit loop.

I only give stuff to charity shops so as not to get involved with people like the op describes

Me too but after we've done a couple of car boots and it hasn't gone there.
Mind you car booters can be a whole new level of CF'ery in themselves. My favourite was when somebody was trying to do dh down on an already cheap price and asked what his best price was. Dh added a couple of quid to the quote

Im constantly amazed at the rudeness and sense of entitlement of people.

I gave away a black sack of baby clothes, put on the ad collection only and had so many replies of can you deliver. Then when i said no "but i dont drive" i pointed out theres a bus stop literally at the end of my road and the train station is in walking distance but they never want to put themselves out.

Im fed up of no shows as well, if you dont want it just say ive changed my mind i wont be offended but i will get pissed off if you arrange a time then dont turn up.

Oh my Lord! She's a crazy bitch, I hope your PCSO is an effective sort of person and gets on it quickly. Your poor DSS! I do hope he doesn't close down his FB page.

It's interesting seeing the development of the use of FB though. It was always going to have a good side and a bad side, but the bad seems to be proliferating. Maybe it's just people don't get online to talk about how lovely someone/something is?

I thought this was going to be a great fun CD thread, I can't believe you're having to involve the police over this. What an absolute arsehole. I really hope you and your son are OK.