To be flabbergasted by CF

[Wickedwoo]

Someone posted a thread the other week about how people are CF's on Facebook free sites. I did comment and say I'd had a clear out and used my DH's account to put stuff on our local free site and people wanted stuff but expected me to drop it off to them.

So one of the things i gave away (and delivered) was a Nestcafe Dolce Gusto coffee machine that we had used maybe 5 times i even gave away the coffee pods we had left with it.

Fast forward to today the lady who had it has messaged my DH on Facebook saying she is disgusted she only had the machine 4 weeks used it everyday and now today it's stopped working and her DH is furious because he did not get his coffee this morning and we should be ashamed of ourselves for giving it away knowing it was going to break, and now they are left with boxes of coffee pods and no machine and now her DH is expecting her to get a replacement TODAY and we should contribute.

DH replied something along the lines of f**k off you crazy woman. It was free and it worked fine otherwise it would not of been given away. We gave it away because it was something we did not use. He has now blocked her.

She has now started messaging off what must be her DS Facebook account calling my DH a coward again she's been blocked.

It genuinely was in perfect working order as she knows because she's used it for the last month.

Some people really do have some nerve. I actually laughed when DH rang and told me because i was so shocked.

I will never give anything away on Facebook again now. I can not believe people can be so vile. I am absolutely dreading bumping into her she sounds completely unhinged

I am such a wimp that I've asked my DM if she'll come to the supermarket with me. I told her what's gone on she has confirmed the man is lovely but his wife (crazy lady) is a pain in the arse.

My DM runs a bingo night fortnightly to help local charities and about 3 year's ago crazy lady went to bingo for the first time and seemed fine 2 weeks later returned and someone was sat where she had sat 2 weeks previous and asked them to move and kicked up a big fuss about it completely ruined the atmosphere and didn't return neither did the lovely old lady she asked to move. She really does sound like a nasty piece of work 🙁

Now that made my blood run cold PenguinsOnParade. Your dog was very lucky to get you - I'm sure the previous owner meant well, but giving away a dog, or any animal, for free is an appalling idea.

They could so easily be discarded again once the novelty has worn off, end up completely neglected, or simply be taken directly to be used as bait in dog fights.

Anyone who needs to rehome a dog should do so via a reputable charity.

I think you should send her a very sincere apology and let her know that you'll immediately refund in full the ZERO that she paid for it.

@Elissand not really I explained in my post that I wanted them to go to a prem child as I know how hard it is to source theses clothes especially if you are not expecting it and are unprepared or I was going to take them to the hospital myself if no one could use them. I 100% chose the most worthy recipients as that was what they were for not a doll.

I am just about to go to our local bank and supermarket i might wear a disguise incase i bump into her

If you do think it likely that you could bump into her then can I suggest writing the words "Ungrateful fuck" on a piece of paper and keeping it in a sealed envelope in your bag. If you see her and she tries to have a go, say, "Oh I'm glad I bumped into you. I have your refund for you" and hand her the envelope and walk away, head held high.

I doubt it's broken. Probably just trying to see what they can get away with.

I thought that too. These people are like wolves and will prey on any sign of apparent weakness (i.e. kindly giving away something that you could have sold) and completely exploit it for their own ends until you have nothing left to give, if you let them. The more ground you give, the weaker they perceive you as, so all the more ripe for the plucking.

They have no shame whatsoever. To them, shame is for the weak people who roll over and jump to their demands, it is not something that they could ever want or use in their lifelong quest to get whatever they want by treating other humans like utter garbage.

I was giving away a convector heater, it had been checked electrically and was free to the first person that asked on local FB page

A guy living the other side of a town not that close to us wanted it for his Mum. It was a cold snap at the time so I thought, oh good, someone can get some use out of this heater. Could I deliver..... he actually lived the equivalent of a 70 mile round trip for me.

No, I says, I cannot delivery, you're welcome to come and collect it. He then said that his mother was freezing and if she got hypothermia it would be my fault. Rightio! Jog on matey!

You should threaten for harassment.

We similarly had a lot of abuse from a lady who wanted our free bedside tables. She was the first to reply but couldn’t collect them for a week and a half and wanted us to hold on to them for her. Another lady was ready to come right now to collect. We had literally just moved, boxes everywhere, and wanted them gone asap as they were taking up valuable space! Calling us all names under the sun because she’d replied first so “they belonged to her”. I’m pretty sure when I’m the one giving them away for free, I can actually give them to whoever suits me best.

@StiffUpperQuip 😂 like that

@Youokhun dolls house 😂

@blueheaven97 i have wrote her a very sincere apology along my middle finger which I'll happily show her if I see her.

I'm reminded of another thread from a while back where a CF demanded a refund for an item he'd never actually owned. It was one of those dying breed of companies who are fiercely proud of their reputation.

A friend of the CF had a 20yo very expensive kitchen machine, which had just broken, so he contacted the company, who asked for a few photos of the damaged machine and then cheerfully sent him a brand new one, free of charge, with their apologies.

CF asked friend to send him the photos, waited a couple of months and then complained to the company that his machine (which never existed) had broken, enclosing photos of his friend's already-replaced actual broken machine as 'proof' and scored himself a brand new one from this proud company wanting to keep a good customer happy, not realising that he wasn't a customer at all but an outright thief and a liar.

Exactly! You give things to those that fit the need and are convenient to yourself not who commented first. Unbelievable some people

Ds is now 11 but as a baby he had club feet and finding suitable pushchair was a nightmare with his metal frame and boots. I gave away the buggy I had bought and used a few times as had no space for 2... Drove it about 20 miles away - complete with footmuff, raincovers. Next day the girl messaged saying she couldn't work out unfold /fold etc. I drove back over to show her - despite ds hating the car with his attachments... Next day another text about the footmuff - it only came apart one way and she couldn't do it! Started kicking off I shouldn't have given it to her when it was so hard to undo. One zip that goes on /off one bloody way!!
And she was raising a dc!!
Ungrateful madam!!

Limpid - I actually thought of that later, the risks that she took advertising him like that. She was obviously weeding people out on how they responded but it would have been so easy to have a response like mine, act loving in person to the dog, and then abandon or mistreat the dog later. I'm so glad she chose us as he was a wonderful family dog for many years and I hope we gave him a happy life (he certainly acted like it anyway ). I was a lot more naïve back then too, and would always go through a reputable rescue place now as I know I was lucky but that may not always be the case.

CF crazy lady is going to find herself on Judge Rinder one day - so many cases on there where people have damaged businesses doing what she has done and people being awarded thousands because of it!

Sorry but an actual living baby, especially a premature one is wayyyy more deserving of clothing than a hunk of plastic. I’m glad you gave them to the lady’s grandchild, what a lovely thing to do 💗

I run a free site on Facebook of just under 10,000 members and we have had to insist on a whole load of OTT rules because people are so damned grabby. No selling on of donated items, no sending private messages without giving an indication on the post itself, no demands of delivery etc . Over the past 7 years it's been going we've seen everything and the only way to make the members happy was to make a select few pissed off who call us little hitlers or power mad admins .

The number of complaints we had of greedy fuckers snatching everything up just to sell and stopping genuine people in need getting them was ridiculous. One man claimed to be disabled. He didn't drive. He Needed delivery. He couldn't afford to buy whatever he was asking for. Apparently.

One couple said yes to delivering their dining room table and chairs plus a couple
Of boxes of kitchenware they had advertised for someone starting out.
When they arrived at his house the cheeky swine actually moved his car so they could bring everything in. He stood by and wouldn't help. The next time they saw him he was selling the lot at a local car boot sale.
After asking members we found out he'd private messaged everyone only and acquired 4 tables and matching chairs over a two month period, two couches and bundles of kids clothes. He had no children but sold everything on.

When dealing with CFers like this I can not recommend highly enough naming and shaming on the pages or at least on an associated name and shame or feedback page.

We sold a car on Marketplace once (never ever again!) picture of car clearly showing number plate so anyone could do the relevant searches, got one complete and utter nutcase who then kept commenting under the ad "They have not had it MOT'd for a year" no S..T Sherlock hence why we have advertised as SORN for spares or repair at a bargain price. He also kept sending abusive messages, eventually I messaged him and said "Ok you are not interested but others are so can you just go away" (or words to that effect! to get a message posted on the ad that he was "Just protecting folk as we were obviously dodgy" Total Twonk!

And do not even start me on the guy who wanted to come with cash at midnight even though we had told him he was 4th in line of interested people.

I dislike selling on Fb for this reason. A few of our local groups had a rule that it was first come first served, i.e. if you are the first to comment you get first dibs. Um no, it's my item and I will choose who i sell/give it to. If the first person to comment can't collect until tomorrow and the 7th person can get to me in the next hour then I'll obviously give to the 7th.
I was going to give away an item of furniture but after seeing threads on here I listed it for a nominal £10 with a very thorough description of item including dimensions, the fact I would not deliver and it would probably need two people to carry as it was awkward. Within 20 minutes I had 17 fb messages asking for the item; one person wanted it delivered, one person wanted me to hold it for a week, one person wanted to know if it would fit in their corsa and one person wanted to know if it would be out of place in their hallway . I eventually sold it to a lady who was with me within about 2 hours
Madness

@MrsLumsden I had similar when selling my car. We'd had a expensive part repaired but decided to upgrade our car so put it up for £1000 (definitely a good price for it) and said the X part had been repaired. A man commented "I'll give you £200."
We said no.
He told us we were "talking shit that we'd had the repair done cos when they do that it doesn't work and I'm the part will break and the car wasn't worth £100 nevermind £1000".
We told him the part was done properly at great cost at Vauxhall with proof and had a 12m guarantee.

He followed our posts on every sales page "warning" everyone that the car was fucked and telling us he'd take it off our hands for £200. He never came near the car so had no idea. He was just trying to ruin our sale.

We had to block him and admin removed him from a few pages.
My he person who bought our car loved her and had her running perfectly for years.

My cf story was an umbrella pram that my little girl had grown out of at 3 years old but to weed out the cf's we put a £5 price on it.
Family came round but could their daughter try if she fitted in it - she was older and bigger than mine at about 5 years old but they wanted a pram as they were off to a theme park and she refuses to walk much. It was a squeeze and I said that it wasn't designed for 5 year olds but they decided it was just the job.
Obviously it broke and until I blocked them I kept getting messages to return the £5 and petrol money because it had broken under her weight.

I'm sorry but I just can't get over the poster who sold a games console on eBay at a cheap price, then paid an extra £30 of their own money to post it next day delivery to the buyer ( a complete stranger) even though they could have changed their mind when discovering the expense, and then also sent this complete stranger 2 games for free and a birthday card and a large bar of chocolate for their child who they have never met and may not even actually exist

If you are going to do things like that, do not be surprised if people take advantage of you in life. It's nice to be generous, but not to the point it causes detriment to yourself.

@Bbang thank you, someone has said I should have still given them to the lady for the doll! I’m glad you understand!

Tell her it must have broken because you dropped it in the toilet a few weeks ago, but you have dried it off and everything so it should be OK, hunny. x

I never give stuff away for free anymore. There was a big scandal on our local buy and sell page because some CF was making posts saying she was a single mum who'd just moved out of a hostel so needed everything. Lots of furniture etc was donated, then a few weeks later, someone pointed out she was selling it all out of her garage. It sucks, because now when someone genuinely needs this stuff, people are going to eye them with suspicion.

Stupid woman, she got it for nothing. Surely there is someone who knows how to fix these machines. If not and she buys (or is given) another one she can use her pods.

You don't moan about something that was free, not a small thing like that (maybe if someone gave you a combine harvester, that might be more of a problem :-)).

Your husband shouldn't have told her to F off though, what good did that do?