To think this may go against you in an interview ?

[inthemoment1990]

Name changed on this as didn’t want to link to other posts .

So say you were interviewing someone for a job , you very vaguely knew that person you were interviewing from a previous role a while back , and prior to the interview you were briefing that person on the some of the job responsibilities.

What would you think if the interviewee was very eager to get a job and a comment they made prior to proper questions was:

“You are looking very lovely and radiant by the way’

Just read the thread through from the start and I KNEW he would end up getting it.

Yet people like me can go y to o 50,000 interviews and be absolutely amazing and fantastic and perfectly qualified and not tell anyone on the interview panel they look hot, and STILL get rejected.

Yeah but puppy, do you have a penis ?

Oh god sounds like some people are gonna get yet another creepy manager!

Depressing, isn't it? So often when I get interview feedback they're really positive about how great I am at various things and I can just hear the 'for a girl. So we gave the job to a man. Good luck with your job search though'. Wankers.

That's really depressing.

Am now wondering if the other candidates realised this wasn't a company they wanted to work for ?

Have you shown him the thread @inthemoment1990 ?

So he can learn something ?

Vanhi Yep, very depressing. You feel like they've interviewed you so they can say....look at us we're not sexist, we interviewed loads of women! It isn't our fault men are superior!

I work in the charity sector. This is not in any way appropriate. In saying what he said he made a judgement about a women's appearance. Would he say something similar to a male interviewer?

I am struggling to believe he actually got the job.

I am struggling to believe he actually got the job Same! Or that they said they loved him!

Cool story OP.

What Spoke said.

No way did he get the job.

And then everyone clapped....

Why on earth would I be lying ? He got the job starts not next week the week after looking after a team of 35 plus people. Not sure what I would gain for lying .. and cool story ? Really , how old are you.

Yes, dear.

Sorry but really creepy, weird & offensive. I see he now has the job.... and I’d be advising him to lay off these types of interaction, or else there’s likely to be a complaint raised about him. Thoroughly inappropriate.

Really? Totally odd comment to say, he’s stuck on a time warp. It’d not ok!

Don’t believe he got the job, think anyone’s a slime ball that would say that!

OP the trouble is we've got various choices in this scenario. It's possible, no offence, that the whole thing is made up. It's possible the first part is true but that he hasn't been offered the job. You might lie about that because it's embarrassing and no-one here can prove either way what the facts are.

It's possible he was the right candidate for the job and just made a bit of an error in the interview, which they forgave him for. However, if he did say that his interviewer was looking lovely and radiant, and if it's not the first time he's said things like this, then the alternative is that another company has given a job to a middle-aged sleazeball who's probably not that talented, but his face fits and he's a man. That's incredibly depressing, which is rather people would rather think that you're making a few things up.

Sorry OP. You may well be honest as the day is long but no-one on here has any way of knowing. And if you're right, then a man who thinks women can be kept in their place by commenting on their appearance has just been put in charge of a team of 35 people. That really isn't good for anyone in that team, particularly the women.

Even IF (if) he has got the job, still think you should get him to read this thread so he understands his behaviour a bit more. For the sake of his 35+ team of course ...

Would he have said it to a male interviewer though?